to not want to be made to feel bad about baby's weight

[pinata]

ok, so went to get DD weighed today and she is on 98th centile - her weight has shot up again after levelling off for a while

i asked them to measure her height as she is also tall and it would put weight into perspective, but the stupid HV refused

she then went on to say i should be worried about heart trouble in DD if she stays big (she is 18 weeks) and that i have to come back in 2 weeks because this all clearly needs keeping an eye on

i tried to explain that DH's family is very tall (i'm talking women over 6ft) but she only cared about DD's weight

so now i'm sitting here feeling rubbish wondering what the hell i'm supposed to do. she doesn't feed when she's not hungry and doesn't even finish every bottle. am i being unreasonable not to want to deprive her of food when she's hungry? and not to want to be made to feel like i'm setting her up for a heart attack or something?

Do you know Pinata, all three of mine have been enormous, a regular 3.75kgs at birth then peaking at around 9/10 months before the weight levels out.Neither me nor dh are particulary tall or heavy. DS2 is currently over 11kgs (at 10 months) and is 11 months old. They have all fed well (bf on demand til 6 mths), taken to solids well, not been over fed, rarely been sick, despite being in Africa. The big ones are now no bigger than their peers. And I am tired of the negative comments about my gorgeous chubby baby. Let's celebrate these big bouncy babies.

Most health visitors are useless, my sister had one who commented on her height every time she attended the clinic... my sister is very short. One even made her very upset about talking to another mum in the waiting room as 'who was my sister and I to give advice', needless to say I went in and said that I would report them for the unreasonable behaviour and went a little mental at them. They had also said she was pathetic for being upset when her baby cried following a heel prick test.
98th centile which means normal range there's at least another 2% who are heavier. Next time ask you husband to go and have your dc weighed and you can smile sweetly!!! The tell her that her attitude really upset you and that that's not her job, what pisses me off that if you were rough she wouldn't have said it in fear that you may hit her.

I don't understand the 'cuddle your baby if she is hungry' any more than I understand the 'force your unhungry child to have bottles of formula' thing. What with the current worries about obesity, I'd have thought the best way to avoid it is to encourage a healthy attitude to food in your child by feeding her when she's hungry and not otherwise.

What an idiot HV..those charts only mean something when used together ie height/weight and vice versa.

Tell HV its like her putting her weight into a bmi calculator without her height. What a dick she is.

God they are useless. Where do they find these people? I remember sitting in the park in floods of tears after being told that ds was "too fat" when he'd gone from just below the 75th line at birth to just below the 91st at 8 weeks. She told me to only bf him every 4 hours and that crying was good exercise, which he needed if he wasn't going to become obese. Then I pulled myself together and haven't taken him since.

Ignore her, she sounds like a silly cow.

As far as the length at birth goes, my midwife said they don't anymore as they are so scrunched up it's hard to get an accurate measurement...