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[BiscuityBoyle]

AIBU to think this is happening too often?

It used to be that a thread stayed up unless people were calling each other cunts, now a thread gets pulled because the op doesn’t like the answers they are getting.

an MIL thread was removed just when i was commenting! i thought it was my internet connection

there was a thread about the yacht that was pulled,
a further few threads have appeared and not been pulled.
very peculiar

NC for this.

Some time ago I created a thread asking how to maximise space in our house. Shared the house plan, other seemingly private things. Wanted to get it deleted after couple days and MN said no, it's not identifying. Moved it to 30 days.

Had a miscarriage and created a thread. Asked MN to delete it. They said no, we'll move it to 30 days. They then contacted again saying as only one person commented, they're happy to delete it.

So how do others get their threads deleted just like that???

I’d rather a thread be deleted than a vulnerable poster is harmed by a pile on. I suspect a newly delivered mother is given a bit more leeway by MNHQ than most.

Agreed. But I think MN need to be clear on their position. Allow deletions or don’t, but let users know clearly what the rules are.

I think if things are being discussed that are potentially libellous, might jeopardise a court case or have a lot of complaints due to being in poor taste then I think they should be pulled.

That’s what is annoying. ‘I’m having my arse handed to me’ shouldn’t be reason enough, especially when the arse handing is deserved.

I agree, but I think the annoyance comes from posters (like me) who have requested something be deleted and have had MNHQ reply saying “nope, we don’t delete on a poster’s request”, then seeing other threads removed because the OP asked for it. I think MNHQ should have posts be available to be removed for any reason, but at the moment whether your post is removed is based entirely on the whims of the mod who gets your request.

I posted quite a bit of detail in a thread that genuinely could have identified family members and got this when I requested the thread.

But maybe people should remember that it’s not a secret diary and if they don’t really want people to read the posts and make judgements, just don’t put it on the internet 🤷‍♀️

Argh, the 'Stuck on Holiday' thread went this way and I'm so annoyed. OP, if you read this, let us know what happened!

I don't really mind threads being deleted on request, though sometimes it's a bit disappointing if you're following with interest. There's no doubt that the policy has shifted over the years though, and I also think it's unevenly applied depending on who looks at the request.

I posted something in a low-traffic subforum a few years ago that wasn't particularly outing except if you were related to me. It also wasn't that controversial - I just wanted some thoughts about a very niche legal matter to do with how an old Will had been dealt with. Unfortunately my unhinged sister saw it and went bananas about me "airing our dirty laundry on a public forum" (it wasn't even that dirty, just a rather curious matter). She demanded I get it deleted, and I tried to but was told it wasn't personally identifying and where would we be if everyone deleted threads once people had taken the trouble to respond, so tough. Only a few people had replied so there was no sense in which I was denying breathless hordes much-needed closure. Anyway, by this time she wasn't speaking to me and it had caused an almighty family row, so I emailed mnhq again in a certain amount of desperation and a someone different replied and said of course, no problem. Simple as that.

So go figure.

Same.

Of course it is. No one is obliged to offer themselves up for a booting on mumsnet, even if it IS perceived as 'deserved'.

But in the past it hasn’t been reason enough. If the policy has changed, then fine, but it should be applied fairly.

My thinking is that it should be applied indiscriminately.
I have no clue as to what the actual policy is.

I had similar years ago. I posted something that was sensitive. A lot of other posters got the wrong end of the stick and I was fed up having to explain myself. I had a pile on from a bunch of armchair Agatha Christies and due to the sensitive nature of the thread I thought it was better to delete it as it could be upset for both me and other people reading the thread.

MN refused to delete and decided other posters had now understood my point. It spoke volumes about how this site is operated.

I’m wondering the same! I started a couple of ‘pouring my heart out in the middle of the night’ threads which made me cringe the next day, but no chance to get them deleted. Had to burn a couple of accounts 😳. I wonder what the trick is to get MN to delete a thread.

I have to say I think all of that stuff is far, far worse on almost all other forums I use though. I find it relatively benign here.

People only care because it means their bitching has been interrupted and they have to stop their pile ons.
Just find another thread with another poster to attack and move on.

(And no, I'm nothing to do with the thread people have mentioned on here, I haven't even read it. I'm just sick of the nasty attitude on this website, but then it is mostly people of a certain generation so...).

@Cinai2 @BiscuityBoyle @ReadingWorm

Replying to you all as you quoted me.

I think they should allow for a thread to be deleted, it's insane they can refuse to! Like wtf.
In fact, it should be so that OPs can delete their own threads.
I'm sorry some of you had rubbish experiences too.

They wanted vindication and got a pasting instead, or they regret saying too much. Buyer's remorse either way. If only real life had a delete button...

Exactly this.

Any time I see 'a thread deleted following OP's request' I'm very much puzzled. And annoyed.

I'm just sick of the nasty attitude on this website, but then it is mostly people of a certain generation so...

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