To ask you to help me decide on whether to try for baby number 3?!

[longingforbaby3]

I have just turned 39 and I have 2 children already (albeit with quite an age gap and to 2 fathers - eldest 17 and youngest 3). I cannot shake the feeling that I want a third. I don't know why, it's such a strong urge. Financially, we would manage as youngest would be in school by time the new child needed nursery so we'd not be paying 2 lots of nursery fees. Partner is on the fence about it. I'm about 70/30 in favour. Thoughts? Pros and cons? Is this madness? 😂

It’s your hormones speaking. Of course you want another baby, it’s the last hurrah. But the practical side of more money to spend,
more school run, and a possibly less involved partner, plus more chance of SEN. It would be nice in a perfect world….. but actually will probably be really quite hard.

I think I would go for it in your position, as long as you’re confident your dp would be happy with it and you can both handle it.

He has clearly said he doesn’t want another one.
He’s happy to have unprotected sex. That’s very different to actively really wanting to have another child. I think deep down you know this but are using it as an excuse to get your own way.
Focus on the kids you already have.

had my 3rd at 38. i'm 39 now and i'll be brutally honest this year has been HARD and i've come to breaking point a few times. It doesn't help he was born with still undiagnosed allergies so has a lot of tummy problems and is very clingy because of it and doesn't sleep. he has completely took me away from my other 2 kids and i have constant mom guilt. in retrospect as harsh as it sounds i wish we'd never had a 3rd, i see my friends lives with 2 kids and it seems so much more blissful and carefree! Of course i love the bones of him but i just want to give u my honest perspective.