Arse!

[Hayley795]

So, invited my friend and his children to my parents house abroad, meaning they only had to pay for flights. According to my friend, his kids were buzzing for this holiday of 14 nights. I've fed them, done all the cleaning, taken them on days out when all they did was moan, asking when we were going back, then slothing around on beds on phones. They then accused us of not doing anything with them, but when we do, we get the attitude and disengagement. Ps I have two teenagers of a similar age who are very grateful. My friend asks his kids what they want for lunch every time, even if it's separate. I made the mistake of making everyone sandwiches without asking, and instead of a thank you, I got "wow I didn't know I wanted a sandwich", then get called an asshole. AIBU to expect a bit more respect. My friend has now booked flights 4 days early than planned to get his kids home. Just feel a bit used 😓😓 I'm glad they're going early as they're dragging everyone down, but now lost transport as he was driving and we are remote. Would you be angry? 😓

I too have psoriasis, and when it flares up I am always changing my bedding and vacuuming because the flakes are horrible. It's exacerbated by stress so he clearly needs to address that too, along with some treatment.

This is my point and it needs to stop. When you friend visits and you see them move in a cloud if skin, to then have to hoover, I'm going to have an issue no matter what anyone wants to say

He says he's had it since puberty and has no awareness. His car looks like a cat that has had a scrap with 3 sausage rolls! I love him as a friend but I cant stand it! I know it's not his fault but Jesus!!

Apparently it is 🤣🤣

Can you coax him to see a doctor about it? Severe psoriasis can be treated with PUVA, it sounds like he might be suffering badly enough for it to be an option for him. He at least needs to be using an emollient, something like Zerobase for example.

Does this man have a single redeeming feature?

My sister has psoriasis and uses prescription cream, plus more regular vacuuming and bed changes etc. I eat round/stay there regularly (it was really bad to start off with and now seems pretty much under control).

If she leaving a trail of flakes then yes, I'd find that quite disgusting. It was BAD initially.

It's definitely not a nice thing to live with. It's also very painful at times, especially if the skin starts to split. I have found oat baths have helped with softening my skin, but it doesn't work for everyone. I basically grind a cup of oats down as small as I can get them, put them in a clean cotton sock, tie the top in a knot and drop it under running bathwater.

He's nearly 18, I'd be telling him straight he's an ungrateful little shit who needs to grow up. I'd be so embarrassed for the dad

When he said that about the sandwiches I would have taken his off him and put them in the bin or refused to.let him have any.
Ungrateful brat. 18 is way more than old enough to know how to behave.

You appear to have chosen the worst possible people to holiday with, and I am baffled as to why. I don't really understand these weird intense friendships. Holidaying is hard with your own family. Why would you invite this weird family?

I would have thrown out the whole bunch immediately. But then I don't know anybody who calls me an arsehole. Not even my own kids.

The sandwich remark highlights how much the teenager's being over indulged, he expects to be asked what he'd like and have it made for him. Your friends not being lovely, he's being weak and raising a spoilt brat

Why are people banging on about the friend when it was the 18 year old who was actually rude? Is 18 not old enough to be held responsible for your own actions?

This! Fuck me, that's rude

I've known someone who had psoriasis this bad and I couldn't bear going in his flat. There really was a thick white coating of skin fakes all over the carpet in front to the sofa. I know it was horrible for him but the fact he just wasn't doing anything about It was really unpleasant to be around. I've never seen anything like it before or since.

I was thinking fairly normal teens until I read the arsehole comment! That's completely out of order! I'm glad they're going home early so you can have some time to enjoy your holiday!

It's humiliating, and when it doesn't stop it gets on top of you and you feel defeated.

There are outfits I can't wear because of the visibility of the psoriasis on my legs, and I know people say it doesn't matter what other people think, but people stare, and it makes me want to shrink away.