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For not wanting toddler in own room when abroad?

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NoOriginalUsernameHere · 22/08/2024 18:35

Hi all,
We are looking at booking a holiday abroad next year. We will have a 3.5 year old and 1.5 year old twins

We've been looking at apartments with a family room so our 3.5 year old could have the single bed, and there would be space for two travel cots for the twins. Then my husband and I would be in the double bed. Cosy I know, but I just feel like I need to be close to all 3 of them when abroad.

We could spend our time in the living area and balcony once the kids are in bed for a few hours.

My husband wants to get a 2 bed apartment so our 3.5 year old can sleep in their own room. She sleeps in her own room at home, I dont know why but I just don't like the idea of her being alone in a room abroad. Some irrational fear of something happening to her...

AIBU?

OP posts:
SunQueen24 · 22/08/2024 18:37

If you’re not happy with the idea you’re not happy. It’s not unreasonable. I wouldnt open the kids windows at centre parcs one year in the blazing heat so I understand the concerns.

TickingAlongNicely · 22/08/2024 18:41

A year is a long time. We didn't use hotels like that as no one would get any sleep.

theduchessofspork · 22/08/2024 18:43

I think you have to knock that on the head OP - over anxiety does children no good.

Whatever the PP says there’s no reason your child is more likely to be snatched on holiday than from her nursery playground.

Also, I’m guessing your husband is hoping to have sex, and doesn’t want to wake her up, which is reasonable.

MummyJ36 · 22/08/2024 18:44

I’m exactly the same. I was only really happy with DC1 having their own room on holiday when they were 5+.

DC2 has had their own room on a UK holiday but they’re still in a travel cot and I’m (fairly!) confident they can’t get out. Once they’re in a bed though I’d want them back in our room.

Stick to your guns OP. You’re not being unreasonable: plenty of time in the future for all DCs to have their own room.

BippityBopper · 22/08/2024 18:51

I wouldn't like that either OP. I wouldn't sleep well with worry.

BippityBopper · 22/08/2024 18:52

theduchessofspork · 22/08/2024 18:43

I think you have to knock that on the head OP - over anxiety does children no good.

Whatever the PP says there’s no reason your child is more likely to be snatched on holiday than from her nursery playground.

Also, I’m guessing your husband is hoping to have sex, and doesn’t want to wake her up, which is reasonable.

The twins are still going to be in with them.

DillyDilly · 22/08/2024 18:53

Get a two bed and even if your DD doesn’t sleep in the second bedroom, yourself and your DH could take turns sleeping in it. Five people sleeping in one room will be no fun and you’ll both be happier alternating ‘nights off’.

theduchessofspork · 22/08/2024 18:54

BippityBopper · 22/08/2024 18:52

The twins are still going to be in with them.

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They wouldn’t process what was going on if they happened to wake up though

MatildaTheCat · 22/08/2024 18:54

Go for a two bed apartment. It will very likely be musical beds. One or more of the kids will get sick, refuse to sleep and having options on where to sleep will be very useful. If by some amazing chance they all sleep like little dreams and you get your wish then the other room will be handy for the thousands of items you’ll be taking with you.

Funkyslippers · 22/08/2024 18:57

Everyone is different but we did it once, all of us in one room, never again! We didn't get any privacy. But I'm very laid back about most things

longdistanceclaraclara · 22/08/2024 18:58

At that age caravan holidays are perfect. Might not be your usual idea of a holiday but you get a room, Dts can have a room and the older one can have their own room but you'll be so close to each other nothing will happen. You get the deck / living area for when they're asleep.

MagAmberson · 22/08/2024 19:00

Our two year old slept in their own room on holiday this summer, I brought our baby monitor with me and used it. I wouldn't do it with interconnecting hotel rooms but if you're all in an apartment I can't see the issue? You'll still be close by and I assume the 3.5 year old sleeps in their own room at home?

I just think bedtime would be a nightmare having them all in the room.

Original poster
NoOriginalUsernameHere · 22/08/2024 19:04

MagAmberson · 22/08/2024 19:00

Our two year old slept in their own room on holiday this summer, I brought our baby monitor with me and used it. I wouldn't do it with interconnecting hotel rooms but if you're all in an apartment I can't see the issue? You'll still be close by and I assume the 3.5 year old sleeps in their own room at home?

I just think bedtime would be a nightmare having them all in the room.

Baby brain has clearly done one on me today. I didnt even think about the baby monitor 🤣

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WayTooManyTabsOpen · 22/08/2024 19:07

Sleeping in the same room as my toddler on holiday is awful. We all get bad sleep every night and I come home more exhausted than I left.

NuffSaidSam · 22/08/2024 19:10

It's just as safe as it is at home (assuming you're going to a safe country on holiday?).

Why not get two beds and then if you really can't bear it, you sleep with the toddler and DH can sleep with the twins. It's better to have more space then less with three kids!

Peonies12 · 22/08/2024 19:16

Get the 2-bed apartment, all in one room sounds potentially horrific. Better to have the option. I think you’re being overly anxious though.

HoneytotheG · 22/08/2024 19:20

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TruffleShuffles · 22/08/2024 19:28

We’ve always had a 2 bed apartment or room since my eldest was 2. The rooms have always had a latch or lock inside the room so that they can’t be opened from the outside and a child wouldn’t be able to reach to get out. If we have had a ground floor room with a window they have tended to have bars on the windows so again no one can get in from outside.

My daughter has always been a terribly light sleeper though and has struggled to sleep in a room with us since she was born so all in one room just wasn’t an option.

ASongbirdAndAnOldHat · 22/08/2024 19:31

Walls are thin on holiday.

I don't understand why this is an issue, it isn't two rooms, it is one room with two separate sleeping areas. You could leave the internal doors open whilst you sleep if you needed extra reassurance.

SummerSplashing · 22/08/2024 20:59

@NoOriginalUsernameHere

I wouldn't want 2 connecting hotel rooms, but 2 bedrooms in a single apartment, I can't see the issue. No different to putting her to bed at home.

As many others have said, if you can afford it, book 2 double bedrooms and give yourself options.

Kitkat1523 · 22/08/2024 21:05

longdistanceclaraclara · 22/08/2024 18:58

At that age caravan holidays are perfect. Might not be your usual idea of a holiday but you get a room, Dts can have a room and the older one can have their own room but you'll be so close to each other nothing will happen. You get the deck / living area for when they're asleep.

I never liked holiday caravans after that little girl ? 6 or 7 years…was abducted from a caravan bedroom window in the night ……. Have stayed in them….but always have all windows shut day and night ….some things just stay with you I guess

coxesorangepippin · 22/08/2024 21:05

I'd personally stick the kids all in the same room

rainingagainn · 22/08/2024 21:15

Have you thought about portable / travel door locks from Amazon? That way you can secure your room from the inside and have peace of mind?

Our dc have slept in their own room in
our holiday apartment every year since they were 2, but I have always taken the baby monitor and I take front and back door keys out the door.

I looked at taking the travel door locks with me too.

I would go for the 2 bedrooms anyway as it's always nice to have space even in the day for naps etc.

Xmasbaby11 · 22/08/2024 21:23

We didn’t go abroad with the kids so young but I can’t see the issue with separate bedrooms. We did it loads with self catering in the uk and never occurred to me to be more cautious than at home. Obviously take care with dooors, windows etc and the travel locks people mention sound good. And baby monitors.

I guess it does depend a little on the layout and things like stairs and how far your room is from your 3yo.

I don’t like all 4 of us in one hotel room now at 10 annd 12 and at those ages it was awful! It’s really important to sleep well on holiday, for me, I really want to have that even if the days are hectic and not relaxing!

SweetLining · 22/08/2024 21:30

Doesn't your 3.5 yo sleep in their own room at home? Surely it's no different elsewhere? Just make sure the doors are locked like usual and leave internal doors open if you're worried you won't hear them.

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