Fuse is about to blow

[Mydognamedhonk]

I am done. Sick of the 6 weeks holidays.
I'm trying to juggle it all and finally tonight ive had a gutsful

Sick of the nagging and "im bored, im bored" when my child has everything. Partner who is in work calls can i drop food down, he knows his shifts as theyre the same as theyve always been but is always unprepared and can never make food for himself

Im in the middle of doing the house out, im the one doing all the cleaning, and parenting right now as im off work too during the holidays. The weather here is shit which makes doing the house and everything else even harder.

Im just done. I dont know what this thread is meant to achive but i cannot be bothereed anymore and need a week away in solitude

Tell DP to fend for himself.

Stop trying to do house stuff on top of everything else.

Invite a friend over to play with DC and sit down with a cup of tea.

I’m sure lots of people feel the same at this point in the school holidays. Just because you’re ‘off work’ doesn’t mean you don’t need a break and often means you’re equally bored and ground down by the daily drudge everyone else expects you to pick up.

Been there, got the t-shirt and totally sympathise. YANBU.

When mine were little my reply to I'm bored was always, well there's plenty to be done, sweep the floor/ empty the dishwasher/ tidy your room. It soon stopped them whinging about being bored! And since their pocket money was tied to them doing chores anyway, they knew there wasn't any point in arguing.

Tell DP that his lunch is his responsibility, then remind him of that if he rings.

Go easy on yourself, the house doesn't have to be perfect while you're doing it out.

Why is partner not doing any cleaning/ parenting? He should still do some stuff!

Other humans will only treat you how you let them!

Say no to your DP.

What's the balance of doing fun stuff with your child Vs them being at home while you sort the house?

Why are you making him food? Knock that on the head.

Have you been working on the house all summer?

He does an awful job. Easier for me to do tbh. I know people are going to come for me for saying that but its true and I would rather do it to be honest.

Also, I'm off work, he works full time so I do it

Because he struggles to make meals at times. We've argued in the past as I've said it's easy enough to make a small meal and packed lunch but he never does

No not all summer

How old is your child?
At a certain age I found a crisp 'Good! You can use your imagination to think of something to do' and walking out of the room worked pretty well.

1. Difficult age. And its been a crap 6 weeks with the weather here

Mate. Are you saying you married a man who can’t make a fucking sandwich?

Then he goes without! I'm sure he'll figure it out.

Don't be a martyr.

Ok ok so you have some sort of agreement where he does a terrible job and you make his lunch. Can you make it the day before like packed lunch?

You read the posts. You know he struggles and has a difficult job. So he can't make lunch. That has been clarified.

If he does an awful job and you hate holidays perhaps you both need a career change?

Liberate yourself. Turn your phone off. You won't get any messages asking you to ferry sandwiches around.

Tell him you are encouraging the kids to have less screen time, so you are not using yours either.

Ditto

Let him sort it out. He won’t die of starvation

he’ll learn to sort himself out.

if I were you, I’d also make excuses to go out with the kid… or just go out and walk around the block and the kid stays with him.

I wish we could move to a better system of 4 or even 5 short terms per year and several 2 to 3 week breaks. It would solve so many problems.

It's bloody hard entertaining them solidly for six/seven weeks unless there's an endless bucket of money and sunshine to go with it.

I'm working throughout but took last week off and it cost a small fortune to do stuff and then I ended up being the house slave for the week.

It's not 6 weeks off for you op

Tell him to load up on meal deals from tescos or Sainsbury's etc for tge week and take one out the frisge every morning before he goes.

that solves that issue and meams yphr not ferrying food around.

can you set up some play dates with friemds?

failing that how about a cheap box of craft stuff from somewhere if thebweathers really shit and a good film on the tv?

rain coats and wellies and go puddle splash.

i used to do this kust to knacker them out abit to stop tge moaning.

Do you need a rest? Can you afford to stick kid in a kids club for a couple days/ give you a chance to rest and get the house straight? X

Absolutely agree with this. The adjustment after summer is no good for the kids either

Hes a good guy.
His hours akward. Hes in work lunch, dinner and supper time 2 weeks of the month.

We argue over him taking food to work. I say to make food before you go but he doesnt. I will drop food down but i had been running everywhere today, finally sit down and its can you bring me dinner down?

He says a sandwich and that wont fill him up. Im gonna say from now on, well you make what you know will satisify you as i have my own crap to sort

I do the same, to be honest. A chirpy “Excellent, boredom is essential to creativity. I’ll leave you to it. Can’t wait to see what you come up with”.
Haven't heard “I’m bored” for a few years now.

He does an awful job cleaning sorry!
His career is very good.

Yes i hate my job but educatiin allows me to have the holidays off as i have no means of childcare