Man I’m dating asked for a break/time to think and now is mad I am on dating apps?

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I was dating him for 3 months and then he said last week that he thinks we’re moving very quickly and he needs time to think things through properly. He didn’t give a timeline or anything and in my mind, that’s a line you use when you really want to break up with someone but don’t have the balls to actually do it. I said okay and I would think about what I wanted too. He’s not contacted me this week at all.

we have some history and dated two years ago for around 6 months and he ended things in the same way then.

Ive redownloaded Hinge and have been speaking to a few people on there. I got a text from guy I was dating today with a screenshot of the profile saying “my brother sent me this, wtf?? Seriously??”

did I do something wrong?

The only unreasonable thing you have done is to get back together with him in the first place.

No. He's messing you about, wants you at his beck and call. Well done for not playing his game.

😂 his brother definitely didn't send him anything - he's 99% seen it himself!

3 months and moving too quick? And he did this 2 years ago too? Throw him in the bin and don't respond.

I imagine what he meant is he wants a break so he can shag someone else guilt free and if you find out, he'll be able to argue that he hasn't cheated.

Why didn't you end it there and then? Why did you get back with him? I'm not having a go I'm intrested in the answers. He's not treating you very well imo

His ‘brother’ or he found it?

I agree with @MissScarletInTheBallroom here. I would just bin him off. He isn’t interested.

Send him a thumbs up, then block.

he sounds like a dick and a load of drama that you don't need.

100% it's his own account that picked you up.

Just end it properly.

Send him a Ross and Rachel gif.

I'd reply: 'Please tell your brother that you instigated a break from me. I am free to continue to look for someone who really likes me and isn't confused about it.'

Just tell him that YOU have decided you want to find someone who knows what they want and doesn't mess people around like he likes to.

Then block him.

The nerve of him to find your profile while browsing Hinge and then get miffed that you’re doing the same thing he is! And to pretend his brother saw it on top of that. 😂

Into the bin with him!

Tell him thanks for giving you the time to think about what you wanted and as he can see you've made a decision.

Or just send him a link to A little time by the beautiful south.

Definitely don’t believe the cover story with big brother sending him the screenshot! I wonder if he’s used a different phone because I blocked his contact form seeing me but I’ll never know

This

I think he’s just making a fuss now so he looks like the innocent party. He’s done this twice, stop wasting your time now.

An absolute waste of space, not worthy of your time or mental capacity. He contacts you when he”s feeling jealous in a dating app he is, in fact, using. Block and move on!

did I do something wrong?

Other than giving him a second chance..... no you did nothing wrong.

Say you were the one who wanted a break not me, Why are you complaining.you got a break.

Please don’t get back with him!

No, you didn’t do anything wrong.

He’s using you as his backup option and expecting you to hang around until he’s bored/doesn’t have any other option. I’d not reply, or just say ‘consider this our last break up, I obviously wasn’t going to wait around for you’ and block.

This is perfect

I think you should have communicated clearly with him that until further notice that he wants to continue you consider the relationship ‘off’. If he was taking a bit of time to think and you said ok, that sounds like you’ve agreed to spend a bit of time apart for space, not broken up.

That said, if he did this once before, he was messing you about and it‘s probably best to move on. As others have said, he want’s you at his beck and call with the ball always in his court. Other people have lives to get on with as well.