To be a 60+ female and fed up of assumptions.

[Waitfortheguinness]

I’m in my early 60s and a few times recently, for example during drs and dentist visits, it being assumed I’m living a life of Reilly and generally got all the time in the world?
I had to have a blood test recently, the nurse (probably mid 30s) was lovely and chatty whilst doing the do. Telling me all about her lovely days out with the kids as she only needs to work a couple of days a week etc. I was telling her how busy the traffic had been on my way to the appointment etc, etc. when we’d finished she said how lovely you can go back home now, put your feet up, and have a nice cuppa!
not bloody likely after here I’ve got to fight back through all the traffic to my office where I’m still working full time….and likely to be still doing that for the next 3-5 years, thanks..
a very similar scenario at the dentists too, along the lines “Ah,, well….a trip to the dentists…gets you out n about…better than sitting at home?”
bloody cheek…..both from people in their 30s!
Do you all seriously think we’re all ladies who swan about…doing lunch and spending our kids inheritance all day?
sorry, it’s just really peed me off…..
I had a laugh with my similar aged works colleague and we both agreed that a qualified nurse in her 30s who only needs to work a couple of days a week must’ve bagged herself a decent consultant hubby on a good salary 😂

No need to shout, I know my eye sights crap but I’m not deaf. Doesn’t anybody have a sense of humour anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️
we’re all domed, I tell ya……

72% of women work of all ages. So yes that additional 21% not working in 60-64 year olds will be retired or ill. I have lots of friends in this age range. Some working like me, some retired, some ill with cancer or after a stroke and claiming sickness benefits.

I had cataracts removed. I'm late 40s. Everyone doctor and nurse I saw during the examinations and operation referred to me as a "young patient". It was so nice to be called young again.
You will know when the cataracts start to impact your vision. I had very rapidly developing ones. I live abroad and you go straight to the top of the waiting list if you are of working age and have cataracts so I was operated on very quickly.

Good grief! Where are you with a waiting list of two years? I'm in Austria and was operated on 7 weeks after referral to the hospital (though "young" people are bumped up the list). The average waiting time for all ages is 3 months.

The reason to wait until they affect your vision is because although the risks are small, there are risks. So the risk benefit should be worth it.

Yes, I’m not a fan of saying middle/working class etc, but I guess we’re middle class.

Our friendship group is late 40s/early 50s. I think we all hope to be at least on some sort of flexible retirement plan by 60.

Agreed but mine still isn’t good enough to retire completely on. The ones who did retire completely were very very senior and off the shop floor. Ironic really so I’ll still be expected to work as physically hard as colleagues in their 20s when I’m in my mid 60s.

They obviously think you look older than you are and therefore assumed you were retired.

Nasty. But you know that.