To feel a bit annoyed?

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So this weekend I had plans for Saturday morning. However, a friend has been going through a bit of a rough patch and me and another friend were thinking of going to see her on Friday to cheer her up, maybe have some lunch etc. The plan snowballed into having bottomless brunch, stopping over and leaving early. I said I would happily have the food but no alcohol and drive back late so I'm up and ready for Sat morning (I'm not an early riser and our friend lives over an hour away from us, we live near to each other)...when I said this, my friend has suggested we take one car (mine as I'm not drinking) and both come back together, however she is still going to have the alcohol at brunch.
AIBU to feel a bit put out as the brunch plan was hers and although I do want to have the full brunch with alcohol, I obviously can't and feel like I've been put in a difficult position. I could suggest we drive ourselves there and if she wants to stay she can, however she too has said she has plans for Saturday so coming back with me would be convenient.

Yes our other friend is aware of the brunch.
I know it seems like I'm being unreasonable I just feel like it's convinent for her as she knows I want to drink too but I can't if I drive. If we were all just having food and a catch up I would feel okay about it, but because she still plans to drink, knowing that I also want to (if able if we get the train) its just a bit of kick in the face

Although nearby, I would be going out of my way to pick up and drop off

But you said you would drive as you won't be drinking to be fresh for Saturday?

Is not that you can't have the alcohol at the bottomless brunch & stay over, it's that you don't want to.
So now that you're driving, it's handy for your friend too 👌

She can insist all she likes, but she can’t really make you.

But you said you didn't want to drink? Are we in the twilight zone?

You could just stay over and get up a bit earlier, then you could have a few drinks, but you don’t want to do that 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Really not following you OP, originally you said_

I would happily have the food but no alcohol and drive back late so I'm up and ready for Sat morning (I'm not an early riser and our friend lives over an hour away from us, we live near to each other)...when I said this, my friend has suggested we take one car (mine as I'm not drinking) and both come back together

No mentions of you drinking or getting the train…

Urgh… the words ‘bottomless brunch’ strike fear into my heart.

That’s fine, I don’t think the OP was inviting you, just asking for advice!

Get the train. You would rather have a drink, so that’s all there is to it. Your friend can make her own choices.

OP’s posts suggest she’s already started on the bottomless brunch! 😄

This.
Spending time as driver while two friends skull back drink in a bottomless lunch would not be my idea of fun.

Just because she insists doesn't mean it happens.

Figure out what you want to do and do it.
But sitting sober with two friends talking shite and you cold sober is never fun IMO.

Either you want to have a drink, in which case take the train, or you don't, in which case you may as well give your friend a lift.

But there's no issue either way.

Literally what🤔🤪

If you said you weren't drinking so you could drive back then you are just being spiteful. Why the hell should everyone not drink because you've chosen not to, this is not how life works.

@Greenhedge1 but she said she didn't want to drink!!!

So you said:
I would happily have the food but no alcohol and drive back late.

Then friend suggested she catch a lift home with you. But you have since decided to catch the train?

So just tell friend that you're going to catch the train. She's welcome to join you or to drive herself amd come back on Saturday.

You were happy to not drink and then drive home, but the idea of your friend benefitting from a lift (which is no skin off your nose if you’re driving back anyway) made you suddenly jealous and now you have decided that you do want to drink after all and get the train. It sounds like you’re doing that very much to spite your friend.

I said I would happily have the food but no alcohol and drive back late so I'm up and ready for Sat morning

Why did you say this if it's not true? Or is it only true if your friend also doesn't drink?

This seems like a tremendous amount of faff and fuss over a fucking brunch (the purpose of which I was under the impression is to cheer up a friend not get bladdered). Just tell your friend you've changed your mind, want to drink and will be getting the train. Or stay over and have to -gasp- get up early on one occasion so you can make your Saturday plans.

Tell her you have changed your mind and want to drink so you will be getting the train. What she wants to do is up to her.

I do think you have caused the confusion though by offering to drive/not drink initially. It would have made sense for you to travel together in that scenario.

Make the brunch another weekend?

Well get the train then.

Sounds like you were happy with the plan o go, not drink and to drive home until the moment your friend suggested you give her a lift and she would be drinking. You then decided on the train idea as you didn't want to be the only one not drinking. Tbh you sound a bit mean.

So say you are taking a train. I honestly have no idea how people tie themselves into knots over something so minor.
Do you think she is going to manhandle you behind the wheel and hold a gun to your head all the way? Just say "I'm taking a train. See you there!"