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For laughing and not helping him

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DecisionsDecisions321 · 15/08/2024 14:52

My DH has a friend. Let's call him 'John'. John cheated on his partner, she broke up with him. He moved alone into a rental owned by a relative of a family friend as the woman he cheated with stayed with her DH/partner as didn't want to break up her family. He spent the past year trying to avoid CMS. Gone self employed, hiding income, the works. So on paper he earns very little. He's also been blasting her on social media about bleeding him dry and being broke due to her CMS claim.

So today DH tells me he's had a message from John BEGGING to let him move in. The person he's renting from issued him with a section 21 and is trying to evict him (seen all his social media posts and is worried about him affording the rent when they rely on it as their retirement income!). He can't pass any of the affordability checks for anywhere else because he's newly self employed and made himself look like he earns next to nothing. While he has a significant deposit saved, no mortgage for same reason.

I started laughing, said absolutely not, it's a result of his own shitty actions. DH relayed it was a no from us, but I guess he blames me and hasn't learned his lesson. He's now posting on social media about friends being ruled by their wives and how his ex has left him destitute and homeless (despite his flashy car, posts from last months fancy holiday etc).

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Toooldforthis36 · 15/08/2024 16:07

John sounds like a prize dickhead. I’d be chuckling too, karma etc etc

JengaCupboard · 15/08/2024 16:13

Oh I'm laughing too, because lets face it; we all know a 'John'.

It's just unfortunate not all John's are party to such deliciously obvious karma.

Maybe HMRC might want to take a look at him also...

Besides if he has a pot of cash surely he could pay 6-12 months up front somewhere anyway?

John sounds like a pitiful woman-hating chancer.

Bye John.

TorroFerney · 15/08/2024 16:15

SauvignonBlonk · 15/08/2024 15:49

He has been hoisted by his own petard!

Don’t get to use the phrase much, last time was to describe the actions of my asshole ex (who could be his twin ha ha).

Was just going to use this one. It’s a bomb isn’t it, I always thought it was a sword for some reason.

DecisionsDecisions321 · 15/08/2024 16:15

Honestly I'm not feeding into his drama on social media. In fact I find him digging himself a further hole more hilarious than outing him.

He can't go to his current landlords and offer them a years rent upfront. We're in an expensive place to rent so to that he'd have to tell them here's something like £20K I have lying around in direct contradiction to his social media posts. It will lead to questions and he won't have answers for them. Or at least ones that won't result in them being disgusted in him.

Same with another rental. Wouldn't surprise me if he 'earns' basically what rent is on paper. No one will accept him even he offers money upfront. He wouldn't pass the checks and it would be negligence on their part to let someone rent that clearly cannot afford it. Maybe with a guarantor but who is going to want to be liable for that when he's telling everyone he can't afford it! His parents enable him but they're retired themselves so unlikely to be allowed to be guarantor. They'd take him in, but they live too far away and he can't do his job remote.

He's a twat that's had karma bite him in the ass and he's still digging. I would say I feel sorry for his kids, but he doesn't even have them overnight anyway!

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CLola24 · 15/08/2024 16:20

He sounds absolutely lovely I'm shocked you're not welcoming him with open arms OP

SantasRubiksCube · 15/08/2024 16:23

Urgh nothing worse then a whining man baby who blames everyone else for him being a complete twat 😂 'whahhh I'm such a dickhead but it's not my fault, everyone else is soooo mean to me wahhhh' let karma continue to bite him in his self-pitying ass and laugh from the sidelines with complete glee 👍🏻

arethereanyleftatall · 15/08/2024 16:41

I suspect that there will be an increasing number of very unhappy lonely middle and above aged men whose previous selfish actions have resulted in this for them, now that women no longer need to tolerate bullshit. And I don't feel sorry for them at all.

All I see around me now out of the people who are middle aged and single; are very very happy women, and unhappy men who look everywhere but inward for blame.

whynotwhatknot · 15/08/2024 16:48

not sure about being evicted inase you cant pay but no sympaty at all for not paying maintenane

Maybesayno · 15/08/2024 16:50

John- woe is me
Karma- fuck you, John!

TeaGinandFags · 15/08/2024 16:54

buttonsB4 · 15/08/2024 15:17

So, basically, John's choices are to admit he has a higher income so he can get a rental/mortgage (in which case he has to - shock horror, contribute financially to the child he created 😱)

Or, keep lying about his financials so he doesn't have to pay maintenance and have no where to live?

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Too fucking right he got what he deserved.

That, John, is called Karma and it's spelt with a "Ha!" 😁

Having read what I've read on here, John will find some silly girl to shag and move in with, thus repeating a sad, pathetic cycle.

Let's hope she's as skanky as he is and gets hold of his bank and phone passwords ...

Addendum

OP, I salute you. 😂😂😴

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 15/08/2024 16:57

My 'John' hid all his assists in order not to pay cms, married new lady (after lies about crazy ex wife) gave all monies hence forward to new wife to continue to hide......... got drunk, drove, crashed and then convicted, new wife realised ex wife wasn't so crazy after all as a string of convictions became apparent. Decided to keep all the money carefully hidden in the divorce. New wife 1 my John 0 and as the best part of finding out after the fuck about he now has all money taken off him for cms debt 😜

ForestForever · 15/08/2024 16:58

Is his ex wife aware of the tangle he’s managed to lie himself in to? I really, really hope so! She deserves that satisfaction.

DadJoke · 15/08/2024 17:02

SerendipityJane · 15/08/2024 15:46

Can't say I consider viewing a persons public profile and posts "stalking".

It turns out they have a pre-existing connection, so not stalking, but if your landlord regularly checked your posts to see if you had financial difficulties, wouldn't that make you bit uncomfortable?

DadJoke · 15/08/2024 17:03

There's every change we'll get a cocklodger thread about this guy in a month or two!

Gymnopedie · 15/08/2024 17:24

It turns out they have a pre-existing connection, so not stalking, but if your landlord regularly checked your posts to see if you had financial difficulties, wouldn't that make you bit uncomfortable?

The cf is renting from a friend of his family. He and this family member are in regular Facebook or whatever contact and he is happily posting all this rubbish so family member is seeing it all. I don't blame them for giving their friend a heads up. And if the friend has seen all the messages, cf isn't bothering to keep them private. You know what they say about SM - don't post anything you don't want to come back and haunt you.

And my message to John - tee hee.

Franticbutterfly · 15/08/2024 17:25

What a wanker. Funny AF. 😂

Ellie56 · 15/08/2024 17:40

Ha ha serves John right, the lying scumbag. Grin Grin

Tell him to go and live in his swanky car.

DecisionsDecisions321 · 15/08/2024 17:42

Loving the posts about other John's who got their asses bitten by karma 😂

Thankfully she didn't marry him so exDP not exDH. When they got together he moved into her home she either inherited or bought with inheritance money, so in her sole name and likely little/no mortgage. Hence why he was turfed out. Usual script. Living mortgage/rent free in her home on high income, knocked her up, has an affair with 3 under 5 at home, her still on maternity leave, because she wasn't fulfilling his needs and giving him enough attention. Obviously absolutely enraged at the thought of paying her CMS and having to pay for somewhere to live. Probably makes a large dent in the money he was used to spending on himself.

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WoolySnail · 20/08/2024 16:50

Your poor "controlled" husband stuck with a wife, a home and a happy life; he must be so very jealous of John 😂

Kd96 · 20/08/2024 16:51

And may this happen to every shitty man or woman who cheats on their partner ✌️

Autumnismyfavouritetimeofyear · 20/08/2024 16:58

And your DH is friends with this misogynistic arsehole because........?

MILLYmo0se · 20/08/2024 17:57

buttonsB4 · 15/08/2024 15:17

So, basically, John's choices are to admit he has a higher income so he can get a rental/mortgage (in which case he has to - shock horror, contribute financially to the child he created 😱)

Or, keep lying about his financials so he doesn't have to pay maintenance and have no where to live?

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Too fucking right he got what he deserved.

That, John, is called Karma and it's spelt with a "Ha!" 😁

I think OP is very restrained having managed not to post something along those lines as a comment under his whingy SM posts

Comedycook · 20/08/2024 17:59

Lol

Faith77 · 22/08/2024 16:53

I wonder whether "John" is my ex-husband...?! 🤔😂
Karma. Ain't it a b*tch?! 😂

BabaYetu · 22/08/2024 17:02

You are very mature and restrained, and I salute you.

I have a suspicion I’d have replied to his Facebook post about unsupportive friends controlled by their wives.
”That sounds terrible, John. I hope someone steps up to help soon”

What a dick. I hope his ex is having a wonderful life without him.

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