Aibu to suggest alcohol is out of fashion in middle class circles?

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Just an observation, out for dinner with friends last Saturday night. We got taxis in, we always had a booze fest but now my friends have either cut out alcohol completely or stuck to one glass of wine or gin & tonic! Is alcohol going out of fashion in over 40, middle class circles or is it just my friends?

Agree. The young generation (under 30s) aren’t that into drinking anymore. And I think that influences the older ones.

Personally I drink very little because I’ve realised it doesn’t actually ‘spark joy’ and just makes me fat. Many of my friends don’t drink or have one drink because they’re really into fitness.

Getting pissed isn’t cool if you’re middle aged and under 40 now. The odd drink yes, but the only people I know that get drunk regularly actually seem to have a problem (I think it’s fair to say someone has a problem if drinking led them to get sacked!)

It's still very much in fashion I'm.my middle class circle/town.

Age perhaps OP. Not class.

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This is my life, lawyer here too wine was open at 6pm it’s been a stressful busy week, started at 7:30 am clocked off at 6 and no lunch break! Plus wfh I seem to do longer hours than when I’m in the office! Bottle gone now I’m in bed 🤣 aged 46 properly menopausal!

I don’t drink as much but that is because I have a two year old! I know friends who will have babysitters and go all out coming home in the early hours (no judgement, just facts) but I can’t do it. I feel so so awful physically and emotionally for about two days - it simply is not worth it. Having to be in mummy mode at half 6 and playing, painting etc with a v active toddler doesn’t work on a sore head.

Yes and I think in years to come no one will drink . I see it as poison now and very damaging to your overall health and your brain.. I know a few people like me too .

I stopped around 40 because it stopped agreeing with me .

I definitely can’t drink nearly as much as I used to now I’m in my 40s, but definitely still enjoy a few!

I gave up because I didn’t ever drink at home so covid brought the opportunity for me to see how well I felt without it. I don’t enjoy going out now with friends in the evenings as much but I have found other ways to be happy.

I tend to prefer to drink nonalcoholic versions now. I enjoy the taste of a cold beer in the summer but I buy a decent non or low alcohol version.

I attended a Child Protection course a couple of years ago. We were told that middle class drinking was massively on the increase, and to expect more children with foetal alcohol syndrome in our schools.

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I drink alcohol with a meal and have a drink after work.

My GP said to me that I need to cut back on the alcohol- probably drink on average 20-22 units a week. I said I work at a supermarket. She understood 🤣

I don’t go out drinking anymore, haven’t since my early 40s, we have a cupboard full of booze but touch the stuff & put that down to the menopause.. can’t seem to tolerate it anymore. . most of my friends still seem to enjoy a bottle of wine most nights, all now hitting the 60 Mark!

Don’t touch it I mean 🤣

This thread is inspiring me to cut down. I'd usually have a bottle of wine per week sometimes two.. I'm thinking maybe only Christmas or a nice glass of red on a winters night or nursing just the one g&t on a night out.. If I save the tenner or twenty quid spent weekly I'll have a nice amount saved for Christmas

No ;)
They are all educated people i dont lecture my friends

So they know all about production and education of cocaine and the horrific havoc it wreaks and they make the “educated” choice to still indulge? Nice friends you have…

*production and distribution

Snobbishness in abundance. Most people over 40 cut down alcohol input. It's called growing up.

I’ve not noticed this. I think my peers still drink as much as ever although I’ve cut right down and find that ‘can’t wait to crack open the wine’ attitude a bit distasteful these days. I think younger people do drink a lot less though (I’m mid 40s).

Wish I'd experienced this trend! I grew out of getting drunk once I became a parent.

Am now early 50s and my DH, his family, most of our shared friends are heavy drinkers. It's so boring.

Please tell me where I can find all these moderate drinkers so I can befriend them!

I'm so sick of being the odd one out socially.

Not true. Shame to throw an unsubstantiated label 'snobbishness' into an interesting and helpful thread.
Only England statistics below but the rest of the UK and rest of the world stats can be found too
www.statista.com/statistics/369808/alcohol-units-consumed-by-gender-and-age-in-england/

Agree@bitteroulbag exactly what I thought reading @Maddy70 's rude response to your good suggestion

Maybe a side effect of covid pandemic for some people. People got used to sober meet ups and are s happy to meet for a healthy walk instead of a drink.

Due to kids, we thend to see friends in someones home so less babysitting to arrange. I have noticed that when we meet friends, everyone offers alcohol but most turn it down for soft drinks. Anyone drinking limits themselves to a few glasses max.

How is it rude to suggest i keep my opinions to myself and don't lecture my friends? Surely every single person knows the routes of cocaine.