To not have cancelled my plans?

[Rubyandscarlett]

DH's car needs some attention from garage - asked me which days l don't need my car this week so he can take it to work but l have got the week off so need it every day to run dd about and meet up with friends etc. Offered to take him to and from work any day this week so he can get his sorted but he said not to worry, he will book it in for Saturday. He just got in from work and has had a strop saying if l was only out for lunch today, he could have had the car. Gone off on one telling me l am selfish and from now on, he is going to do his own thing and look after himself. Should l have cancelled my plans (even though they were made a while ago as we rarely are all off on the same day?). Or is he being a drama llama?

Yanbu

Drama llama...

You offered to take him to and from work and he said No. His car needs fixing, not yours so he could have booked it in and just got lifts from you while it was in the garage. As for that doing his own thing and looking after himself - that will last until he's got no clean pants/shirts in the cupboard and you haven't made him any tea! Been there.

No, you should take him up on his offer to look after himself from now on.

YANBU

he is going to do his own thing and look after himself.

Is he aware that two can play that game?

You offered to take him to work and he declined, so why is he annoyed that you took him at his word?

We always organise it so that we can manage with the one car, but DH wouldn't ever expect me to cancel plans so he could have it instead. Nor would I expect him to.

The only caveat is if one of us needed it for a DD thing, then they obviously have a higher need.

Well OP, he can learn that those that play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Definitely take him up on his offer

Hehe yes he can!! He will get bored of that arrangement long before l do!

My DH wouldn't even ask to use my car, and in the reverse situation would insist I use his, and/or drop me to work. I say this not as 'oh isn't he amazing', but just to show how fucking rude yours is being!

YANBU. Made a reasonable offer which could have been accepted by him.

He's sulking because he wanted your car to sit outside his work all day, rather than you taking him, having lunch out and then picking him up???

What a dick.

Oho, if my husband threw a strop like this when I'd offered to help and he declined then hit me with the "I'm going to do my own thing and look after myself" line that would be the absolute end of me doing a single damn thing for him. See how long that particular sulk lasts.

What a grade A bellend. He absolutely needs to apologise for that one, gratuitous insults!

I know we all love an update so last nt, he picked his toys up that he had thrown out of the pram and loaded up my car for a delivery l have to do today. So the strop lasted a whole half hour. Then l gave him a piece of my mind and all is calm and bright again.
Thanks everyone for helping me see it wasn't me being a dick!!

Do you know you've name changed so your posts aren't showing as the OP posts

Well done OP for sticking to your guns. Good outcome.

Why didn't you just give him a day with your car? One wouldn't have hurt? You were being deliberately awkward

Oops! Thanks.

What was his issue with you driving him?
Personally I'd rather change my plans than have to drive my dh to work as that would mean getting up really early on my day off.

It's not selfish if you offered to take him to ans from work. That was a fair solution that he rejected

Because she had plans and she offered to take him to work so he could book his car in, this is on her not him.

What a tedious, insufferable little idiot.

Obviously I meant this on him not her!