To not have cancelled my plans?

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DH's car needs some attention from garage - asked me which days l don't need my car this week so he can take it to work but l have got the week off so need it every day to run dd about and meet up with friends etc. Offered to take him to and from work any day this week so he can get his sorted but he said not to worry, he will book it in for Saturday. He just got in from work and has had a strop saying if l was only out for lunch today, he could have had the car. Gone off on one telling me l am selfish and from now on, he is going to do his own thing and look after himself. Should l have cancelled my plans (even though they were made a while ago as we rarely are all off on the same day?). Or is he being a drama llama?

Deliberately awkward by offering to drive him to work? Yeah, what a bitch 🙄

Maybe I’m odd, but I’d have let him have the car and rearranged the lunch or asked my friend to pick me/DC up. In fact, that’s exactly what I’ve done whenever this sort of thing has cropped up at any point in the 19 years we’ve had kids to juggle with work.

What happened to being a team and supporting each other?

Why should she rearrange her plans, she offered to run him to and from work, he told her not to worry and booked it for the weekend. That should've been the end of it, instead he's been a dick about it and had a strop when he came in from work.

OP shouldn't have to give up her car for it to sit at her OP's place of work all day, especially when she offered a solution. My DP wouldn't have dreamed of leaving me carless during the school holidays

Sound like he's annoyed with something or someone else and this is the last straw that's annoyed him. It's definitely his problem not yours and being a drama queen to try get it off his chest. I would tell him you offered to take him and pick him up etc, you've made plans way in advance so not your problem. Ask him what his real problem is and if he really wants to take that route it's alot easier for you not having to do do all the little extra bits I'm sure you do that he takes for granted.

Does his garage not offer a courtesy car while the car in for servicing/repair is being worked on? Why didn't he decide to hire a car for the duration instead of relying on your availability?

I'd ask him why he didn't try to resolve his issue regarding transportation himself.

enjoy your week off with no need to shop, prepare meals, do his laundry...

You could have let him have one day FFS! A friend could have come to your house or walk somewhere if nice weather. It's not a big ask from him, you are a couple. If this was reverse and it was a husband refusing to help his wife out there'd be uproar!!!
But really this is a petty squabble and life's too short. You shouldn't both move on.

Complete dama lama

It depends? Where was lunch, could you have used public transport?
Garages usually charge double for labour on weekends.
Was it really practical for you to take him and pick him up?

There's really not enough information in your post.

But honestly you probably are being unreasonable by not allowing him to have the car for one day.
Maybe next time your car is in the garage he won't let you use his 🤷‍♀️

She didn't refuse to help him out and no decent man would leave his wife without a car during the school holidays when she has chores and kids and PLANS!

You made him a reasonable offer to get around his issue. But you already had plans with your car that you are entitled to stick to.

What he wanted was to have the power of freedom of A car, and was quite willing to deprive you of the power of freedom of YOUR car to enable that, regardless of your plans. "Only lunch" is a very reasonable need for you as you had offered him a solution to get over the main problem (getting to and from work) - but in his mind, it negated his need for freedom which obviously totally disrespected your wish for similar freedom - when he would have the car sitting doing nothing all day while he's at work whereas you used it and may have had other uses if you decided to go on another outing/shopping run/visit to someone while you had the time and the ability with YOUR car to get there.

Ah well when my is in the garage, l arrange a lift with a colleague!
Coukdn't habe used public transport, was in the middle of nowhere and had made plans weeks ago as my friends and l rarely have the same day off. Would have been more than happy to take him and collect him.

Guaranteed he would not have given you his car - you offered to give him a lift - he's pathetic.

Fgs @CosyLemur. She offered him a lift there and back, which is good enough.

And 2 days ago a stay at home dad was accused of being controlling because the wife's car was in the garage after she'd crashed and he offered her lifts too and from work rather than give up his car for a couple of weeks.

You were being controlling! By not letting him use the car and saying you'd take him and pick him up you're basically saying "you better not stay at work late because I'll be outside with the kids waiting for you"

Is what about 200 women told a stay at home dad 2 days ago who wouldn't let his wife use his car when hers was in the garage. One of the responses was from someone with a name very similar to yours!

WTF??!! I absolutely love my me time so him being late home is NEVER an issue for me unless l have to go out! Lived on my own for ages before we got together and actually love my own company so not sure where you got that idea from! Controlling for offering him a lift to work - heard it all now🤣

@CosyLemur Thats not the point here, though. Irrelevant .

So many threads were started on the 14th where the OP has just vanished, was it a full moon that day?!