To just be not able to love DH anymore.

[BantamGrey]

He’s always been slightly emotionally immature, but I guess it doesn’t show as badly until you actually are living real life with kids, work and stress.

I found out I was pregnant a couple of months ago in the middle of our youngest going through a really bad sleep regression etc, and said I genuinely don’t want to do this - mentally and physically it’s too much. He said terminate but you won’t get another chance in the future.

He promised he’d be helpful, he knows how tough pregnancy is, told me he’d pick up the slack but nope - HG etc have made this so so hard and all I’ve got called is a lazy rubbish wife. I’m still struggling on maybe 1-2 hours of solid sleep a night and I’m trying to do everything perfect and spotless so I’m not a lazy wife but I’m broken now.

He wonders why I never have a laugh etc but I just don’t like him anymore. He’s got a cold today and is saying see you’ve not given me any special treatment so why would I care if you’re pregnant.

I just look at him in a different way now.

This isn’t a man you want raising your kids.

@BantamGrey

He may have gone to his mum's but don't be surprised it he waltzes back in as if nothing has happened. I know you own the house as you purchased it before the marriage, but there is something about marriage and 'the marital home' that may prevent you from kicking him out. You need to speak to a solicitor asap.

I don't know about where you are, but where I live (in the US) fraud is grounds for an annulment, no matter how long the marriage has existed. It 'negates' any financial settlement. And being gay and concealing it is considered fraud.

You say you suspect it. Do you think you can ever prove it? I mean, speak to a solicitor first of course because it may be moot if the laws where you live are different than here, and they may well be.

Trash took itself out then, just make sure it doesnt try to let itself back in again.