AIBU to think that the Nextdoor app is the worst of social media?

[RainbowZebraWarrior]

Recent post on Next door by a prolific poster. There are many others that post quite extreme views. This post seems rather innocent by comparison, but my reply was not allowed as it failed 'kindness'

Here's the original post and my reply (and I accept that it is a nostalgic view of the 60s, 70s and 80s) However, those times were also horrendous in many ways, and that is what my reply was about.

God I’ve had to turn it off. I tried to keep it in case of actual need to know what’s on locally but the paranoia and fear-stoking was driving me bananas.

posts every time a white van drove into a residential area ✅
posts every time someone heard about a nationally relevant scam call (not relevant locally)✅
posts every time someone was wronged on the road - ‘to the woman in the red fiesta that overtook me yesterday morning’ 🙄✅
posts every time someone’s cat hasn’t come home since this morning ✅
posts when a poor dead pet is found (sad but not want I want to hear about too often - esp if it’s 3 villages away)

I mean the first post was fairly innocuous bit of nonsense, obviously a bit mawkish but mostly just things that people might remember from a while ago? I don’t see anything offensive about it- I was expecting something obviously racist at the end but it wasn’t there? Of course there were bad things around too but it’s not obligatory to always remember the miserable bits is it?

Just come off the app if it or its modding bothers you.

My god, it's the worst.

I had to leave mine because every post was some utter chump updating us about his tedious life.

That was something that didn't need your downer. I like to look out for lost cats, which is all I take notice of.

Given how bland and inoffensive the first post is, I would have banned a repsonse with marital rape in it as well.

I’ve never used it

you posted that second thing in reply to the first thing? Why?! Maybe I missed something.

what do you post in reply to “extreme views”?!

Yours didn't rhyme.

It's probably something they got off the internet, unless they're a writer crap poetry.

i thought it was a great idea. Bit no everyone uses it like facebook, i keep it if i need local trades etc but it’s another social media bin fire.

I think that was a bit mean of you OP. That person's post was a bit sentimental for sure, but those things did exist and people look back on them fondly. It doesn't mean they weren't aware of the bad things.

Next Door is shite, but you were being a dick OP.

All social media is full of naff poems and sentimental cobblers*.

*as in, the Cockney rhyming slang, not mawkish shoemakers.

I read the first list and thought wow great memories.

Then I read your reply!

The first post is memories of a child and how they used to play.

Your post bursts the bubble,can't people have childhood memories without people putting a downer on it. ?

How did your post "fail kindness"? Both posts addressed the same topic, just from different experiences/points of view. You didn't criticise her post, as far as I can see, just added your own memories to it. Both are fine.

I scan Nextdoor, in case there is something interesting.

The first thing posted was a bit twee, but I do recall most of that with fondness. I think your response was unnecessary, though.

I agree, it’s the most irritating app, I’ve just got rid of it. It’s supposed to be next door, but actually the radius is far too wide. Also it does have a tendency to be quite right wing; often Daily Mail readers seem to be represented in large numbers. All very subjective I hear you cry; and yes subjective view and so I have voted with my feet.

I think a reasonable response to "wasn't being a kid fun? Playing conkers and looking forward to Christmas," is to nod and smile, not say "your dad was probably beating and raping your mum the whole time."

Someone posted a light-hearted verse and your reply seems a bit mean.

I lasted 24 hours on there. I presumed it was meant to be a useful shared tradesman type of site. Can't stand that mawkish nostalgia shite. What actually is the purpose of the site?

NextDoor drove me mad, and I’ve stopped using it.

I detest that kind of mawkish sentimental bollocks, but I can’t think you needed to do anything other than ignore it, or just say that ‘of course, not all everything was great’.

Never heard of the App but I think that example falls well short of the worst of social media and your reply was pretty hostile and unpleasant.

My local one is never ending MLM shit being advertised. No one ever responds

Hate it. I signed up and didn't tick or untick the right thing, so they sent a bunch of letters in my name to my 100 closest neighbours asking them yo sign up too. It upset my wonderful elderly next door neighbour, as she doesn't use the internet and thought she was letting me down. It also felt like a massive security risk, especially if someone has left an abusive situation. I made them delete all personal information and will never touch it again.

Yeah, this.

1st post was mawkish nonsense. 2nd post was a hostile overreaction to the nonsense.

I refuse to be on that App.

There are many single elderly people near me who are on it and I can imagine them posting this sort of nostalgic poem, waiting for a reply as company. Your reply, whilst all factual, is just a real downer and comes off passive aggressive.

Maybe not the App for you.

Yeah. I was a teen in the 90s, but I was too busy crushing on Eric Cantona to give a shit about the war in Kosovo.

Yanbu

I find that it’s the people who post nostalgia shit like that are the first to complain when kids do “old fashioned” stuff like draw with chalk on the pavement or sit on a bench and chat with their friends while listening to music.

They are the first to moan that kids are always on devices because of the complaints about stuff like playing football on the local green.