Pissed off I’m constantly told I don’t like dogs

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One of my friendship groups all have dogs. I don’t like one of the dogs as she quite big and jumps up at you when you enter the room.

My friends always make comments like “I was worried about you with x dog as I know you don’t like them”

Surely I can dislike the actions of one dog and that doesn’t mean I’m scared or hate dogs in general.

Have you said this? It sounds like they are going off what's happened so far.

Have you replied and said I do like dogs, I just don't like how big dogs jump at me.

Is the friend who comments the owner of the big, jumpy dog? She might not like the idea of you not liking her dog.

"Oh, but I do like dogs. I just don't like big dogs jumping up me. So as long as that doesn't happen, we are all good 🤷🏻"
But then I'm not one to not clap back.

Ugh, total sympathy from me. My friend has a giant Labrador that she has not trained at all. It goes nuts and jumps/scratches/nips at you for the first 20 minutes of any visit.

Yet I'm the bad guy for saying the dog is a twat.

What do you reply? I’d just say, ‘oh I like most dogs just not massive ones jumping all over me’

I have a dog and most people don’t enjoy idiot dogs jumping up all over them, that’s perfectly normal.

Friends, you are wrong, I do like dogs. I like dogs that don’t jump up, scratch or get hair all over my clothes. X’s dog is just too excitable and doesn’t stop when told.

So just tell them that they are wrong, you do like dogs but don't like them jumping all over you.

You’re feeling misunderstood because it’s not dogs in general that’s annoying you, just one particular one. That’s understandable, especially because it’s your friends who are doing the misunderstanding.

Personally I find it incredible how “doggy people” assume that the general public are going to be as enthralled by dear Fido’s antics as they are but that’s another thread.

Just tell her. You love dogs, but that doesn’t mean you like being jumped on.

It’s terrible training to let dogs jump up at people.

Every time it's mentioned correct them.

Just reply "I don't like untrained dogs that are allowed to jump up at visitors"

I love dogs but I don't want to be knocked over by one or her my face licked.

Yeah it’s annoying, it’s the transferal
of blame from the dog and owner to you.

I have a dog myself, and I HATE it when other people who are too lazy and irresponsible to train their precious dog seem to assume that everyone else wants it jumping up at them and acting like a hyperactive idiot. You can absolutely still like dogs but not want them jumping all over you.

Just say ‘ I like dogs in general (if you do) and then add ‘i just don’t like yours because he jumps up me’. I have a dog that is hard work - he was a rescue and I never know how he is going to react to people - sometimes he loves them, other times he is grumpy: I manage him by keeping him away because that’s my responsibility:

Dog lover and I don’t like dogs jumping up. It’s just not pleasant and can be quite overwhelming for small children.

As my user name suggests I’m a few weeks (8 I think) into rescuing a teenage spaniel. He had terrible manners, jumping up incessantly being one.

I can’t actually think of when he last jumped up - maybe three weeks ago? So it’s not rocket science to show a bit of consistency and train it out of them.

Dog owners often take it personally if you don't like their badly behaved dog's bad behaviour. Drives me mad. Once happened to me in a park when a dog licked all over my 6 month olds face. No apology, just "oh I can see you don't like dogs" when I shrieked and grabbed the baby.

That is disgusting.
I am a dog owner and I never knew I could love a dog as much as I love my boi. However, like fuck am I going to let him lick my face or anyone else’s - it’s gross. He has been trained not to jump, not to lick- instead he will run at you, his whole body wagging and flop at your feet for a tummy rub.
Not all dog owners are pricks.

YANBU, this drives me mad. SIL goes on and on about how I'm 'not a dog person' because I dislike and am actually quite afraid of her jumpy, reactive, oversexed, underexercised twat of a husky. She always talks about how much I hate dogs because once I wouldn't leave DS, then 3, alone in a room with said dog. The fact I'm absolutely fine with her other two dogs, grew up with dogs and in fact CURRENTLY HAVE A DOG OF MY OWN doesn't seem to register with her.

I don't dislike dogs, I dislike that dog.
And ftr wouldn't leave a 3yo alone in a room with any dog, including our own one.

Society seem to have some weird opinion that if you don’t like dogs you are the problem. It’s baffling.

YANBU.
I love dogs in general, and I happen to like being jumped up on as it is their way of greeting, and I don't mind that. Although, I understand why other people might not like that.

Saying that, I don't like little yappy things like Yorkies and Chihuauas. I just don't like the breed.

I have and then they just say it again another time a dog is somehow mentioned.

They are dog mad people so when the dog jumps up at them they encourage it and make a big fuss. And because I don’t do that they just assume I hate dogs.

Aww, in fairness the dog isn’t the twat, your friend is for getting a dog they can’t be bothered to train

I love dogs and have always had them, however, what I find acceptable with my dog may not be acceptable to others. He's trained and really well behaved but when he's around other people I'm always on alert. If any non dog lovers are there he's on the lead or removed. You are not out of order, your friends are.

I do like dogs. I don't like your dog 😃