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Stolen Bottle of Champagne

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NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 15:30

A bottle of champagne, worth about £70, has been stolen from the office.

Our manager said that if it's not replaced then the four staff members will need to pay for it between us.

I've got an idea who may have taken it but I can't be 100% sure.

I'm simply not prepared to pay for it. Why should I? Everyone else thinks we should!

Apparently I may get a written warning for not contributing (whilst that thief walks free)!!!

OP posts:
Saltedbutter · 10/08/2024 17:45

Defend yourself until you get the warning, or better - sacked, and enjoy the tribunal. Don’t give him a bloody penny.

OneCoolPearlOP · 10/08/2024 17:45

HappiestSleeping · 10/08/2024 17:40

@NameChangeAndLifeChange if you tell him to stick it and walk out, it is likely that a)he will think you stole it, and b)the real thief will incriminate you.

Personally, I would stay there and if your manager tries to give you a written warning, please make sure that they understand that the wording needs to be something along the lines of "warned for not paying to replace a bottle of champagne stolen by someone else".

I get the sentiment of punishing everyone if the culprit is not forthcoming, but there are so many different (and better) ways to handle it.

Au contraire, the real thief would happily pay up because
a) They'd be quids in - a £70 bottle for £20
b) It assures zero repercussion. Presumably everyone pays up and the matter is closed without any further investigation.

There's zero need to make anybody pay anyway for something received as a gift. If the intention was to catch a thief then a proper investigation should be launched instead of this childish method of collective punishment.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 10/08/2024 17:50

I think I’d really enjoy the tribunal.
Staying and demanding he put his illegal request in writing ( if he hasn’t already ) would give me a fair bit of pleasure.

HappiestSleeping · 10/08/2024 17:55

OneCoolPearlOP · 10/08/2024 17:45

Au contraire, the real thief would happily pay up because
a) They'd be quids in - a £70 bottle for £20
b) It assures zero repercussion. Presumably everyone pays up and the matter is closed without any further investigation.

There's zero need to make anybody pay anyway for something received as a gift. If the intention was to catch a thief then a proper investigation should be launched instead of this childish method of collective punishment.

That isn't what I said though. I know the real thief would be happy with this arrangement. What I meant was I understand (not agree with) the manager thinking this way. I don't subscribe to it myself, it is a very old school military way of dealing with something. As I said, there are much better ways to handle it. I completely agree that nobody needs to pay, however that does not mean that someone who took something that didn't belong to them should be allowed to get away with it.

I doubt that there is any way of reliably catching the perpetrator in this instance.

There is always the possibility that the other three all enjoyed it one evening and left the OP out.

WiddlinDiddlin · 10/08/2024 17:56

Oh I would absolutely give him enough rope and see what happens...

Act serious - ask for this issue to be addressed in writing, so setting out what has happened and what he suggests should happen next.

Then reply in writing to clarify that he wants you all to pay to replace something that jointly belonged to you all in the first place, and that he has no proof anyone actually stole...

Then tell him 'No'. Sit back and see what happens!

Catandsquirrel · 10/08/2024 17:58

I'd start by asking for his request laid out in writing and the policy in which that's in line with. I know there is none but it might shut him up.

EatTheGnome · 10/08/2024 17:59

NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 16:04

I wouldn't resign as such, I'd just tell him where to stick the job and walk out of the door.

I've thought of doing it previously and would probably enjoy doing so!

That would be a stupid thing to do.

You'll looks guilty and your employer will make sure word gets around and refuse you a reference.

Why choose that option when you can decide to keep written records and make a case for tribunal and a payoff.

SquishyGloopyBum · 10/08/2024 18:03

If it's team champagne then everyone should be paying - including him.

Stick by your guns.

OneCoolPearlOP · 10/08/2024 18:05

HappiestSleeping · 10/08/2024 17:55

That isn't what I said though. I know the real thief would be happy with this arrangement. What I meant was I understand (not agree with) the manager thinking this way. I don't subscribe to it myself, it is a very old school military way of dealing with something. As I said, there are much better ways to handle it. I completely agree that nobody needs to pay, however that does not mean that someone who took something that didn't belong to them should be allowed to get away with it.

I doubt that there is any way of reliably catching the perpetrator in this instance.

There is always the possibility that the other three all enjoyed it one evening and left the OP out.

Well it would be illogical for the manager to think OP took it if she refused to pay, but I see what you're saying. He's too dim to think rationally.

Also there's so much fuss about the bottle being stolen. But there's no proof that a theft actually occurred!
As you said, others might have drank it.
Someone might have put it away somewhere else.
If just left on a sideboard if might have been knocked off and broken.

Military leaders can do pretty much what they liked. the aim is to instill unquestioning obedience. Not fairness and justice.

Anywhere else, criminal accusations require evidence. There are rules, policies and procedures for dealing with employee theft. He can't just individually decide that a crime occurred and people need punishing

Sunsetbeachhouse · 10/08/2024 18:05

Op just wondering but does the manager also need to contribute (not saying its right or wrong of them to ask) because just thinking how do we know they didn't take it ?

NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 18:08

Sunsetbeachhouse · 10/08/2024 18:05

Op just wondering but does the manager also need to contribute (not saying its right or wrong of them to ask) because just thinking how do we know they didn't take it ?

No he doesn't because he thinks it's one of us!!!!!

OP posts:
HappiestSleeping · 10/08/2024 18:08

OneCoolPearlOP · 10/08/2024 18:05

Well it would be illogical for the manager to think OP took it if she refused to pay, but I see what you're saying. He's too dim to think rationally.

Also there's so much fuss about the bottle being stolen. But there's no proof that a theft actually occurred!
As you said, others might have drank it.
Someone might have put it away somewhere else.
If just left on a sideboard if might have been knocked off and broken.

Military leaders can do pretty much what they liked. the aim is to instill unquestioning obedience. Not fairness and justice.

Anywhere else, criminal accusations require evidence. There are rules, policies and procedures for dealing with employee theft. He can't just individually decide that a crime occurred and people need punishing

Edited

I didn't say that either. I said he may well think she did it if she walks out of the job. The real thief would certainly point the finger at the person no longer there. It is always the way that the person no longer there to defend themselves gets the blame for everything, even when no potential theft is involved.

And as I said, I do not subscribe to his approach at all.

Onehotday · 10/08/2024 18:10

I'm very strong on principles and in your position I would 100% walk out if necessary (and relish the dramatics!).

Tagyoureit · 10/08/2024 18:11

Well that boss of yours can piss right off!

But please make sure the others do not end up paying more to cover you as it sounds like that will be the next move!

NigelHarmansNewWife · 10/08/2024 18:11

Maybe he's saying it to push the person who has taken it to return it/replace or in an attempt to get the others to deal with the issue? It's a stupid thing to do though for many reasons. Do the four of you include the person you suspect is the thief?

BobbyBiscuits · 10/08/2024 18:13

It's utterly batshit! Assuming everyone is guilty, rather than the default which should be everyone is innocent as there's no fucking proof?! When something went missing from my work the suspicion fell on the cleaners as guess what, the management didn't think their employees were all thieves! If they did why the hell did they employ them?
I bet it was him who drank it, the twat.
Haha.

Worriedmummy2400 · 10/08/2024 18:13

I would be tempted to ask him if he reported it to the police. I’m suspicious he took it himself and wants another one!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/08/2024 18:13

NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 15:55

It was a bottle that was brought in as a gift for us all from a client.

The boss can be a bit of a bully boy, so the other staff think I should just pay to keep the peace and so the matter goes away. I'm now the baddie for not agreeing to pay.

No union or anything but I refuse to contribute, out of principle.

Let's see what happens. I won't let it drop!

Wait, so if you all chip in to cover the cost of replacing a bottle of champagne that didn't cost the business anything in the first place, where does that money go? Does the boss plan to buy another bottle of champagne which also costs £70 and force you all to drink it?

This is utterly bizarre.

It was a gift for all of you. The consequence of someone nicking it is that you don't get to drink it. Why the need for further consequences? Getting a present from a client shouldn't end up costing you money.

Worriedmummy2400 · 10/08/2024 18:14

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/08/2024 18:13

Wait, so if you all chip in to cover the cost of replacing a bottle of champagne that didn't cost the business anything in the first place, where does that money go? Does the boss plan to buy another bottle of champagne which also costs £70 and force you all to drink it?

This is utterly bizarre.

It was a gift for all of you. The consequence of someone nicking it is that you don't get to drink it. Why the need for further consequences? Getting a present from a client shouldn't end up costing you money.

Exactly he took it and wants another one so he’s making you all pay for it.

Mistymountain · 10/08/2024 18:15

Who would the money be going to if you all pay for it? If the bottle was a gift to the team then you've all lost out anyway so I don't see who's being recompensed by the team paying for the gift, it's not logical.

DreamW3aver · 10/08/2024 18:24

RandomUsernameHere · 10/08/2024 17:44

How does your manager know it was one of the four staff members who stole it? It could have been anyone. He's being ridiculous.

Unless the workplace kitchen is some kind of public access space I think the number of possible suspects is somewhat limited

DowngradedToATropicalStorm · 10/08/2024 18:25

I would imagine there's a defamation if character element to this also if he is accusing people of being criminals on no evidence of any sort.

He needs to be far more careful than he actually is being.

Sunsetbeachhouse · 10/08/2024 18:26

NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 18:08

No he doesn't because he thinks it's one of us!!!!!

But you might think he took it.
Him being a manager doesn't make it less likely he took it.. what a piss taker your manager is 😒

NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 18:29

Onehotday · 10/08/2024 18:10

I'm very strong on principles and in your position I would 100% walk out if necessary (and relish the dramatics!).

Yep, me too!!!!!

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Worriedmummy2400 · 10/08/2024 18:30

I would tell him you are taking legal advice instead of quitting. Same shocked pikachu face.

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