To stop lift sharing because she criticises my driving?

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Me and my colleague have started alternating car shares. Long commute we do twice a week, I do one day and she does the other.

Colleague has told me she thinks she’s autistic so I’m unsure if this is relevant. But she’s very boastful about herself (I’m such a confident driver!) and very easily puts down others. Shes done nothing but criticise my driving, I drive too slow (I do the speed limit), I take too long too slow down and I break too suddenly etc (I don’t think I do but anyway).

Now I’ve been with her when she’s nearly crashed into two cars, missed our exit because she was trying to be a dick and be in the wrong lane to cut traffic and I say nothing. I don’t like criticising people.

But I’m really irked by her criticism of me when she’s far from perfect.

Even if you can somehow get her to stop being so critical of your driving, I definitely wouldn’t be a passenger in her car once a week if she drives as you say she does.

Be very straight with her. It might save your life!
I would tell her that you’ve been thinking about the journey to work situation and have given it a good try but don’t feel safe with her driving so you won’t be risking the journey in her car any more, as it’s far too unsafe/scary/uncomfortable. If she would like to still come with you once a week, that’s fine, she is welcome to do that, but she must pay x amount for the lift but more importantly, she must stop with the back-seat driving as it’s distracting you and again, for your own safety, you won’t tolerate it any more.

Don't bother giving her lifts any more and don't ever get in her car when she's ''driving'', it sounds like she should be banned from the road. Not worth putting your life in danger for for Miss-Gobby-Knickers!

Just stop sharing. If you carry on and it gets more tense, it could cause trouble at work. You're colleagues, after all. She's irritating you when you drive, AND frightening you when she drives, so just knock it on the head now. "It's not working for me".

Obviously everyone’s different, but the autistic people I know are very keen on rules and would point out that someone was going 32mph in a 30mph limit or whatever. They’d carefully drive under the limit all the time.

Ah, she's one of those drivers, "confident". It's not confidence, it's dangerous arrogance. She's going to crash one day and you don't want to be in the car with her, so just stop. It's got nothing to do with autism or anything else, it's down to arrogant drivers who are simply showing off. I'm a terrible driver and a nervous passenger, so I don't drive and have promised myself I'll never get in a car again with someone who drives badly. One ex-friend saw a 50mph limit as the speed to aim for, that you were doing something wrong if you didn't hit that speed, we nearly left the road on a moorland hill because of that, they thought it was hilarious, it was fucking terrifying. Sounds like she does the same. Just say you've decided you are going to drive alone from now on, it's your down time. She'll push back and have a strop because she wants a captive audience for her showing off, be resolute.

That's why I said some autistic people. This one is obviously like I'm describing. Others will be like you are describing. As you say, we are all different.

Be direct with her and say no way will you be driving her again because she's rude.

Yep, I'd stop giving her lifts.

There's nothing like someone constantly criticising your driving to knock your confidence and actually make your a worse driver.

This. I wouldn't care about the criticism, although she's very rude, and praising herself when she can't afford to not concentrate on driving.

If she's an unsafe driver and you've witness ed this more than once, then that would be the end of it for me.