Am I stupid to offer this option to ex?

[Honeymonster2]

So my family live 4 hours away, i would like to move closer to them... Kids see their dad a few hours on a Sunday each week, I planned on suggesting that change to an overnight sat to sun every other week when he manages to move out of his mums spare room.

He obviously won't be best pleased if I say we're up and leaving even if his access wouldn't change, it's the principle of it I imagine.

Would I be crazy to give him the tenancy on my social housing home so he gets the house and I move in to private rent by my family. My thinking is it would sweeten the situation for him as he doesn't have his own place and has no plans to move out because of the money involved. But it would mean I lose the security of a social house... but would potentially get the move? He might just say no to all as a control move anyway

Don't do it. Absolutely not worth it. He can't block the move anyway, if he tries you can take it to court and most likely will be allowed.

If you are in social housing you can’t pass the tenancy to him

Surely you can't just transfer the tenancy to him?

Doesn't work like that, you can't transfer a tenancy.

No you cannot pass a tenancy to him. He cannot stop you moving either as long as you maintain contact arrangements.

What's your plan for the 8 hours of travel each weekend?

I would add him to the tenancy as he had lived with me previously, they need proof he's been here for 12 months. And then eventually remove myself I guess... and I think he can stop the move with a prohibited steps order? Or am I wrong...

If you didn't acquire the tenancy through a transfer then you could probably transfer it to him. Your landlord would want proof he was living there (for a certain qualifying period) before he could be added as a joint tenant and then you could leave and him become the sole tenant. However, if it's a year, could you live together for that long? Or do you plan to lie and say he never moved out? Has he been registered for council tax at your address? Would he qualify for a property of your size (on his own with occasional DC staying) or is this something your landlord would block?

No that is your asset

How are you, and your kids, going to manage an 8 hour round trip?

You're crazy to give up your social housing to privately rent, anyway.

So you add him, then move? So the downside that you will be responsible for rent arrears until it is solely in his name. Don't suggest it yet. Speak to him about the move. He could block it, it would be decided by the court. On his access at present the court may grant you a move. You couldn't move and keep the house anyway.

I wouldn't be giving anyone ESPECIALLY an ex the option of going on my tenancy for social housing.
The only person going on that would be if I swapped for a similar property where I wanted to move.
Why are you not swapping and going for a private rental?

Wouldn't you lose the tenancy anyway if you move? Or are you planning a swap?

You do know you're responsible for the travel for the contact if you're the one moving away

Don’t do that try to get an exchange to where you want to live. You don’t want to lose a permanent well priced home.

when I moved twenty years ago for a decent well paid career I sadly had to give up my social housing home. I wasn’t allowed to exchange to another area and I wasn’t allowed to let it out. Put myself in a risky situation which I have always regretted as 18 months later I was made redundant.

Don't be so silly. He's a grown man he can take of himself

This is foolish

For the love of God do a social house swap to the new area. You'd be mad to give up the security of a social tenancy for the uncertainty of a private one. They might have to might sell, raise rent, or might not do adequate maintenance.

It's best for your kids and you to have a decent home. He's got the stability of his Mum anyway! Good luck with your move.

No I really wouldn't do that. I rent privately and its awful and so unsecure we have had to move fir various reasons. 6 times in 13 years. 3 times because we outgrew the space, One time because the landlord didn't oay his mortgage so it was repossessed, 2 times because the landlord sold up. Kids hate it, as do we. But it is what it is if you can't buy. I would bite your arm off for a secure tenancy like.

Social housing is a golden ticket to half price rent for life. Depending on your location, you'll probably never get awarded another one.

I agree with @Numsmetposter

@Honeymonster2

I wouldn't simply because you could do all that and he could still turn around and try to prohibit the move. Nothing to stop him since you 'giving' him your social housing would have no legal bearing on anything to do with the DC. I wouldn't want to take the chance on losing my secure housing and then still have problems in making my desired move.

Unless you think he'd take you to court, just propose the change you mentioned along with the reasons you'd like to move. See what he says. If you don't hear what you want, consult a solicitor to see what your next step should be.

I'm assuming he has PR?

Don't ever give up your tenancy. You could perhaps do a council swap to a new area?

Never give up Social Housing
Are you dreaming!

No, it's fraudulent if he's not living in the property for the required time period to qualify as tenant.

Also, wouldn't it be more beneficial to yourself and the children to swap your council house with one closer to your family? I'd try that first.

No,
1 - it’s not fair to others on social housing waiting list, it’s queue jumping -he is a single person and has no need for extra bedrooms full time.

2 - try social housing out of area swap instead of private let.

3- If either you or your ex get any means tested benefits doing this will cock them up and look as if you are reconciled.

4 - you are throwing away your children’s housing security.

5 - as already said he can’t prevent you moving as long as he still gets access.