Who is BU?

[mackerelala]

Been babysitting for my sister today. I've been at her house since 9:30, every day this week.

I've been doing little bits of housework for her (hanging laundry, washing up) but I started feeling really unwell last night and have been properly ill all day (like should be in bed levels of unwell, with a temp, productive cough and light head)

She's just come in from work (started at 12) and is a mood because I haven't washed up (though I did have the girls all day, and I've put her huge ocado shop away). She's really cross with me and seems to think I'm putting it on.

All I want to do is go home but I'm not driving ATM and I know if I ask her she's going to kick off with me.

Well dear sis has just lost her free childcare. She’s a twat.

Like I know she wants to get her dinner but I feel shit enough ATM without her being awful too.

She's "tired" apparently and said I'm being pathetic.

Sorry to hear you're unwell. Is she paying you? If so, what's the agreement?

If not, then she's taking the he absolute pias and you shouldn't go back tomorrow!

Hope you feel better soon

Can you call a taxi? Just go home and go to bed and stay there, and don't babysit tomorrow

No taxis available unfortunately. No, not paying me either.

You're being taken advantage of.

Well guess you have tomorrow off now

She sounds like a cow, I'd be going home and withdrawing any offers of childcare in future.

Tell her you're tired too after looking after her kids every day this week for no pay!

She needs a reality check
How does she expect you to get home?

My partner is coming for me. Last time I felt this bad I had proper flu. I keep going freezing and then boiling and just want my bed ☹️

She's been giving me a lift but tbh the mood she's in I don't want to get in a car with her.

You're her (free) babysitter, not her cleaner! Let her make other arrangements if she is ungrateful.

I've spent more time at her house this week than in my own. Really can't wait to go home!

Tell your sister she needs to find another babysitter as you won't be spoken to like that when you're doing her a favour.

Oh no,no,no, don't do anymore favours for this ungrateful woman! The audacity of her! You are so far from BU, I can't understand how people can be like this with people doing them huge favours like childcare.

I wish her all the luck in the world finding an alternative childcarer/househelp that performs to her standards, at the same rate. It's so hard to get good help these days. . .

Feel better soon OP. I hope it's not what I've got, I've had it for weeks. . .

And that's you done with the free baby sitting. If she can't be grateful you've watched the kids, amd the rest is a bonus, I wouldn't be doing it for her again.

I don’t understand why she’s mad at you.

If my mum babysits, I never expect her to tidy or clean and I make her dinner/get her a takeaway to say thanks.

If you’ve been doing it all week then it’s even worse that she’s treating you like shit.

You don’t owe her anything.
Just stop doing it and tell her exactly why.

She was disappointed that I hadn't washed up apparently because she wanted to eat dinner!

I'm home now and in bed. Feel awful still. I've had something for a couple of weeks,keep feeling better then feeling absolutely awful again.

Hope you’re not going over tomorrow to babysit! She sounds like an ungrateful cow. Hope you feel better soon.

Time to set some boundaries op. That's immature and disrespectful behaviour from your sister.

If you really have to ask who is unreasonable your sister must have done a right number on you.

In a normal relationship, a sister would be insanely grateful for all your help, concerned to find you so ill and prioritising getting you packed off home to your bed.

Please think twice before doing anything to help her in the future.

"Sorry sis, I'm afraid all my FREE childcare and housekeeping is now off the table with immediate effect....why?....because if I dare to be ill, yet still turn up to be your FREE (keep emphasising this bit) childminder and housekeeper, but end up feeling too lethargic to do the washing up at the end of the day, you call me pathetic and get in an atrocious mood, making me feel even worse....You just wanted your dinner?....All day I just wanted to curl up in my own bed in my own home, but instead I continued to provide you with FREE childcare. You're an ungrateful entitled cheeky fucker who didn't realise how bloody lucky she was. Now you can look for someone else, because I'm going to stay home and get better. Good luck at finding another mug to exploit in this way"

The flip side of this is. Uou wiol have made dirty dishes throughout your day. Shes just coe in from work knackered and uour dirty dishes are in the sink and she cant eat without it being sorted

I currently have cancer and covid i would have a least washed. The dishes used throughout the day

I would be doing no more favours for her. Cf