Who is BU?

[mackerelala]

Been babysitting for my sister today. I've been at her house since 9:30, every day this week.

I've been doing little bits of housework for her (hanging laundry, washing up) but I started feeling really unwell last night and have been properly ill all day (like should be in bed levels of unwell, with a temp, productive cough and light head)

She's just come in from work (started at 12) and is a mood because I haven't washed up (though I did have the girls all day, and I've put her huge ocado shop away). She's really cross with me and seems to think I'm putting it on.

All I want to do is go home but I'm not driving ATM and I know if I ask her she's going to kick off with me.

If you've had something for a couple of weeks, it sounds like you could have an infection. I'd get checked out with the GP. Your sister is an ungrateful witch.

Tbh I think it's COVID because I was like this last time too. I'm not babysitting for her today either.

Tell her you ARE going home and if she doesn't like it then tough shit.

Also tell her you'll not be her skivvy any more and to find someone else.

She's an arse.

Get well soon!

Hope you are feeling a bit better today OP

And that you are spending the day in bed, not babysitting for CF Sister!!

@mackerelala I notice that you have not stated anything about not babysitting for the rest of the school holidays?? I sincerely hope you arent just avoiding the question. I not agree to babysit for the cheeky fucker again!!

My sister occasionally babysits.

I pay her (she doesn’t want it but my kids are hard work!) and don’t expect her to do anything other than look after the kids. Definitely not housework!

I just haven't been on here to answer anything. I haven't spoken to her today but will be having a conversation with her before I agree to anything else.

You're far too unwell to babysit again tomorrow, that's for sure.

And when her kids and then she gets covid from you, you're unavailable then too!!

This. When my mum babysits she always tidies up after herself, when my mil does, I get faced with a pile of dirty dishes when I come in. So much so we rarely ask mil now because she makes us more work so what’s the point in asking for her help. Op sounds a bit wet tbh, sisters been at work all day and just wants her dinner. Both are being unreasonable.

Well this arrangement that only benefits her and abuses you when you're ill stops today then.

The audacity of some.people never ceases to amaze me. Unbelievable.
Go home and get rest and do jot be guilt tripped in to feeling that you are in the wrong. She has put herself into this position.

Hope you feel better soon.

That sounds like covid.

You babysat for her, you're not a slave. I wouldn't be babysitting again. She can pay for childcare if she wants to come home to a clean house!

Your sister is being a cheeky fu*ker to be honest, you are looking after her kids for free, did do a bit to tidying and put her food shopping away. If you had trashed the house then could see why she would be a bit miffed but even then you are still doing her a favour!! Holiday clubs near me are at least £34 per child from 9-3.
Can't believe she was so rude and ungrateful, over a few dirty plates when you are sick as well.
I wouldn't be doing any favours for her again as she obviously doesn't appreciate it and doesn't valve your time. Hope you feel better soon.

You poor thing. I hope she apologised and you feel better soon x

Your sister is some rude Cheeky fxxker.

It is amazing how entitled some people can be when free childcare is involved.
She thinks she is your employer.
This would be one of those situations where telling her to go to hell and sort her childcare out is appropriate.
I certainly wouldn't help such a selfish person again.
Let her PAY for childcare.
Hope you feel better soon.

Shes a cheeky fucking bitch.

I have NEVER expected a babysitter, (family or otherwise) to do my housework. Even if they've used stuff. That's my responsibility. If I want to have dinner, that's my problem. Not the person who in this case, has looked after my children for free whilst ill!
Not only that, I'd be getting you home and making sure I had cover, or stayed home from work myself if the babysitter was due to help out in the immediate future.
She's a CF and I'd be telling her if she expects housework, she can pay you a cleaners fee.

Jesus fucking Christ this has got to be a wind up?? If I was your MIL id be thanking the high heavens you dont ask me to babysit anymore. If someone is providing you free childcare they are doing you a favour, absolutely NOT creating more work for you!! The alternative is you stay home yourself and watch the kids plus do all the washing up yourself too. You have someone watching your kids for free and saving you costs of a childcare setting or having to take the time off work. The least you can do is wash the pots for them, not the other way around!!!

I wasn't being "a bit wet" I was acutely ill and have been on strong antibiotics since for pneumonia! They also weren't dishes that I'd made but were from the night before!

(She's now got her dishwasher sorted out so dishgate won't happen again!)

Sorted things out with my sister too, and she's paying me to watch the girls in the future.

I hope you feel better soon.

Your sister is a nasty piece of work, protect yourself OP.

God I remember when my sister babysat for me many years ago and I came home to dishes done and house hoovered and cried I was so grateful to her. I'd never, ever expect someone providing me free childcare to also clean my fecking house. Having some dishes to do when you get home is a very small price to pay for not having to pay exorbitant childcare fees!

She's an ungrateful cowbag, and if I were you I'd be telling her to find alternative free childcare going forward as this isn't working for you!

Why the fuck are you doing this? You're being used.

But the OP is doing her a massive favour and also isn’t well. She’s not the sister’s husband or partner who ought to be doing it because it’s his house.

MIL has played a blinder there! 😂

Completely agree!! She knew what she was doing 😂
I wonder what this PP would do if both her MIL and own mother left dishes in the sink?? Would they both be sacked off or would PP have to accept it because she needs someone to help with childcare 🤔🤔

As someone who was in this situation for 5 years and was taken advantage of all the time, get out. Don’t babysit for them again. Even if she is paying you. Stop doing it.