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I know it's bad for you and can cause real health problems but bloody hell, aibu to think everyone looks better with a suntan?

248 replies

Eeepsh · 08/08/2024 17:59

Just that really!

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ladygindiva · 08/08/2024 18:09

devildeepbluesea · 08/08/2024 18:02

Totally agree in my own case. Dark hair (augmented these days), olive skin. I look like someone dug me up in winter.

Same

SparkyBlue · 08/08/2024 18:09

Yes I think so and I say that as a freckled redhead.

Laiste · 08/08/2024 18:09

I do.
My skin is typical mid sort of white. Not pale enough to be interesting, not olive enough to be interesting.

It shows every bump and scratch as a red blob It gets mottled and weirdly blue in places when i'm cold, and to top it off i bruise really easily Hmm

During spring and early summer i use a fake tan cream on my legs which lasts 3/4 days. I use a tanning spray on my face and shoulders and upper back. Then around now i actually have a tan - yay! - and, yes - i look so much better.

It's not the colour exactly, it's because all the veins and blotches and bruises and scratches (gardening) are less visible. Like a light coat of paint over a dodgy wall.

DameBroad · 08/08/2024 18:09

I’m a dedicated fake tanner. I do it all year round - lighter shade in winter, darker in summer. I’m a pale/sallow brunette and look about a million times better with a bit of colour.

Agree that many blondes, redheads and those perfectly ivory skinned Celtic types don’t need a tan, though.

Moonshine5 · 08/08/2024 18:10

bryceQ · 08/08/2024 18:01

Mmm i think you can have beautiful skin tones in every shade. The Nicole Kidman type look wouldn't look better tanned.

Slightly off topic but NK doesn't look like herself anymore. Way too many tweak-ments

OpenBox · 08/08/2024 18:10

There’s a big difference between being tanned and red raw sunburnt. Or leathery as an old chair. Always extremes on here!

macaroniandcheeze · 08/08/2024 18:11

Yes. I tan quickly and safely (factor 50 every day) and my skin glows. I look ill in the winter. Sorry not sorry.

CautionaryTaleGirl · 08/08/2024 18:11

SocksAndTheCity · 08/08/2024 18:08

Me too. On the odd occasion I've caught the sun I just looked like I needed a good wash.

😆

FastFood · 08/08/2024 18:12

It's not just the tan, it's the freckles I get from april to september, gosh I love them.

Laiste · 08/08/2024 18:13

biscuitcat · 08/08/2024 18:08

I think it probably depends on if your undertone is warm or cool - I'm cool and look odd with a tan, I suit being pale much better!
Nothing yellow/gold looks brilliant on me, so it makes sense that a tan doesn't either.

That's interesting and i'd not thought of that. I do have warm pale and blue eyes, and a tan just looks fab and makes the blue pop. My friend is the same paleness but cooler with grey eyes and a tan doesn't sit so well.

MitskiMoo · 08/08/2024 18:14

No. HTH.

Fizbosshoes · 08/08/2024 18:14

I have 1 DC who tans easily and evenly and 1 DC who is extremely pale skinned (dark hair/dark eyes) and has never tanned. They just look different.
Pale skinned DD looks a lot better with very pale skin than burnt!

BigWillyLittleTodger · 08/08/2024 18:15

I agree, I don’t smoke or drink but the one unhealthy thing I do is have a tan in the summer, I feel so much better, think it’s the vitamin D, I’m lucky that I tan very easily and evenly and no question I look so much better than when I’m pale, I do know it’s not healthy though unfortunately.

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 08/08/2024 18:16

I wear spf 50 every day even in the deep dark winter but I do prefer having a tan! I would just never sunbathe because skin damage and skin cancer is not on my bucket list.

Luckily fake tan is so good these days that you can get a bit of a glow without risking skin cancer - it has definitely come on leaps and bounds since I was at school and everyone was bright orange. The chanel les beiges cream bronzer is always very good for a glowy sun kissed vibe. You can pry at that from my cold dead hands.

Olympicfatigued · 08/08/2024 18:17

Unfortunately skin cancer doesn’t look good on anyone so no, a tan doesn’t look better on everyone.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 08/08/2024 18:18

I love the look of a tan but skin cancer terrifies me - I work outdoors though and even with Factor 50 on everyday I still get some colour.

I get all my moles checked at the GP once a year though.

caggie3 · 08/08/2024 18:18

Just get a good fake tan. I routinely tan every
Monday, scrub off and shave every Thursday morning, sleep with tan on again Thursday night. When I say that people are so quick to say they'd never have the time or couldn't be bothered but I never quite understand. I'd shave and exfoliate regardless of whether I was going to tan anyway? The tan just comes off when I exfoliate and it takes me literally 5 minutes to put new tan on. It's literally no effort at all

You just need to find a good tan that isn't orange or streaky, master the technique so you don't get the tiger bread look and not develop tan blindness where you keep going darker and darker because it starts to look normal. I know this tan is the right colour for me and I'm so much more used to seeing this colour than my actual skin, clearly other people are too cause if anyone any sees me on a Thursday they usually ask me if I'm ill 😂

WalkingonWheels · 08/08/2024 18:18

Do people really spend time thinking about this? I can't imagine why.

Thegiantofillinois · 08/08/2024 18:18

I look shit without a tan. I'm the blue pale variety, although dark hair and eyes. If I were smooth pale I'd be fine. But I have assorted freckles, moles, thread veins, actual veins and psoriasis.

A decent dose of sun totally clears my psoriasis, even if I can't tan. In fact, my current tan is still lighter than most white people's base colour.

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 08/08/2024 18:18

macaroniandcheeze · 08/08/2024 18:11

Yes. I tan quickly and safely (factor 50 every day) and my skin glows. I look ill in the winter. Sorry not sorry.

Yes, I wear an spf moisturiser every day but still get a slight tan. Even that is much better than my deathly pallor in winter where I look ill.
I have very dark hair and with my pale skin I'd like to look like a lovely red lipped, dark haired Snow White. But that's never what happens, it's always more like someone who's ill.

Funnywonder · 08/08/2024 18:19

I look ridiculous with a tan. My skin is pale and covered in all sorts of blemishes and thread veins and I know fake tan hides a multitude of sins, but I can't begin to explain just how awful I look with a tan. Mother Nature did not intend that I should be orange, autumn gold or light teak. That's for fences🤣

WeneedSamVimesonthecase · 08/08/2024 18:21

I wear factor 50 but still go a lovely pale gold if I’m out in the sun for any length of time. I love it, I actually glow.

In winter I just look sallow.

MuchasSmoochas · 08/08/2024 18:21

Def agree. I don’t tan, use highest SPF and always use a face fake tan spray. When I don’t have it on people ask me if I’m feeling ok as I am so pale. Also means you don’t need much makeup.

MargaretThursday · 08/08/2024 18:21

I'd agree as a general thing, but not for everyone.

However I'd like to see the background research to the claim that even a single time getting burnt increases the risk of cancer by quite a large factor.
Because I would suspect very few people could conclusively say they had only ever burnt once.

I mean, I tan easily. I tan slowly in light cloud, and quickly in bright sunshine. I have occasionally burned, I think. Other than the tops of my feet, which have burnt a few times, I cannot honestly tell you for definites that I have burnt anywhere, let alone more than once.
Yet, I know I have because I can remember the pricky itchy feeling...
I can say I rarely burn, but not how often. It might have only been once. It might have been 10 times. I couldn't state this accurately enough for proper research.

I would also suspect very few people currently have only burnt once. My dsis burns in light cloud, I could be mean and say even in heavy cloud and she'd probably not deny it. She used to turn bright red most years at least a couple of times. To her disgust, it would peel off leaving her as pale underneath as before.
I suspect most people who burn, have burnt multiple times.

They might say to the doctor: "Oh yes, I had a really bad burn there once" but that doesn't mean they haven't burnt their before.
I'd just be interested, because I've heard it stated several times, but never seen who did the research.

Watermelonistheanswertoallthings · 08/08/2024 18:23

I've been ill for the past 3 years and haven't done my usual pottering about outside. Also it's rained here for about 998 of the last 1000 days.

I usually go very tan/olive even with factor 50 applied correctly (I'm also vain [wrinkes]and concerned about skin cancer)

I am currently ghostly and I look AWFUL...I can't even fake tan as I have patches of vitiligo - which you can't even see now as my whole body is the colour of unpigmented skin. But the spots go bright orange when fake tan hits them. So instead of looking like the undead ill be like an even more unblended Donald Trump.