74 year old on weight loss magic solutions

[justasking111]

Husband has a chest infection he's going to GP this afternoon to get that fixed. He's also going to ask for weight loss drugs.

Now apart from a belly he's very fit, still sails, cycles, walks. He wants to turn back the clock and be super slim again. Which is fine. I'm just worried about side effects, but he's done loads of research and says it's only a small percentage get any.

I've read of muscle wastage, well the heart is a muscle. Diarrhea, well he already gets that after eating, the family/friends parties/events we've had to leave because he needs a 💩

Aibu

I guess a husband having an old age crisis is the norm.

The fact that he's interested in living in NZ half the year isn't an issue either

Okay guess I just have to accept that he wants to live like a skinny bachelor half the year

Why does he have to leave to shit?

He won't be able to just walk into his GP and come home with a prescription for weight loss drugs. It just doesn't work like that hence why so many of us pay privately.

He'll only,💩 at home

His friend had type 2 diabetes and lost weight so reckons he can too.

He let slip that he'd been to see this mate who intends to live in NZ half the year, hunting shooting, fishing and wants the lifestyle. No women allowed.

I could manage as long as he didn't empty the bank accounts.

Clearly you have much bigger problems than your husband's weight issues.

I suggest posting in RELATIONSHIPS. Explain what is actually going on and posters will help.

I've not seen you post for a while.... but I remember you ...

He probably will lose weight but he's unlikely to get it prescribed on the NHS. He might, but he'll have to start a weight management programme initially, and unless he's significantly overweight that it's affecting his health, then that could take a while

He won’t get them on the NHS so I wouldn’t panic

It sounds like he needs psychological therapy, losing weight is the very least of his worries. His/your priorities are all wrong. And I would not accept my husband abandoning me to live as a single man and get up to god knows what in another country for half the year. You need to read him the riot act and tell him he either lives as a married man 100% of the time, or a single bachelor 100% of the time. His decision.

If I were you his weight loss diet (and who has he met that he suddenly wants to be slim for? hmm?) would be the very last thing I'd post about. It's not your biggest issue or worry right now...

I'll try not to. It's his obsession with turning back the clock that's hard to get a handle on.

I've health issues now that drive him mad. I've spinal issues, need a new hip. I'm on drugs for pain, am using a stick. He doesn't like living with an ol' woman.

Will be more likely to be referred to a slimming club. After injuring myself I was referred by the physio. I have lost over four stone in 10 months. Drugs aren't necessary.

Sounds like a standard mid life crisis

You’ve posted many times about your financially controlling, lazy dick of a husband. Weight loss drugs are the least of your worries. If you aren’t going to leave him, then I guess you’ll just have to suck this one up too.

OH he's 100% impotent has been for 20 years after a botched prostate operation. He thinks sex is icky over 50.

He is ADHD which was fine when I could keep up physically, plus raise the kids, plus run the business.

But we've sold the business, have an excellent nest egg which is in joint names. As long as he honours the bills whilst he's away I could manage.

His going halfway round the world leaving all the family behind to catch fish, hunt animals which he does here anyway is his bucket list I guess.

That means me cooking meals he won't want 🙈

He's not lazy, he's up early then like a Duracell bunny until 9pm. Doing all his hobbies.

He's 74 left it a bit late. It's more of a last hurrah

If I were you I'd wave him off with a big smile on my face, and before he was even round the corner, I'd be rushing to start my own new life. There must be a million things you'd rather be doing than listen to him going on about regaining his youth and insulting you in the process? Send him and his dodgy bowels and his impotence far far away, and free yourself!

oh well that’s alright then. What about the rest of it? You’re obviously willing to put up with it.
(I actually meant lazy in terms of running the household/cooking etc).

It's tempting. But his gundog puppy would have to go to someone else. I can physically manage the old one but not the puppy which deserves better. He'd be furious but I just couldn't manage

Not your circus, not your monkeys

Have you posted about this Prince Among Men before? The bit about forcing you to leave places early so he can 💩 rings a bell.

Please don’t let there be two of them!