To think this is a REALLY weird thing to say?

[Sheabutter19]

My DD(4) and I were round at my grandads house. She took off her jacket and was doing around and he said ‘oh strip tease’ and laughed. AIBU to think this is really weird to say about a 4 year old GGD?

Yes. It is a very inappropriate thing to say.

Eww. Gross.

Dancing around*

For the really older generation, like 90+ it was probably harmless. Only you know what sort of a man he is!

Brother ew.

Grim

Gross, yup. But I think it’s a stupid type of thing that generation say

Grim.

Yuck but I doubt he meant anything by it. It sounds like the kind of thing my socially clumsy 83 year old mother would say

It indicates he probably laughed at Bernard Manning jokes and ‘women drivers’.

Absolutely not. It’s the sort of thing my mum would say - She’s 84!

It’s the sort of thing that many older people would see as harmless. In today’s climate it’s obviously pretty inappropriate but I doubt any sinister implication was meant.

Striptease is clearly adult women titilating men, and he knows that. Deeply inappropriate.
Make sure he knows as well. I don't think it means he's a paedo or anything but it's just off.

Are you saying older people think suggesting a child is doing a striptease is harmless?

I really don't think that's true.

What kind of a man is he and how old/ is he compos mentis? It could be generational, also lowering of inhibitions can be an early dementia sign (not to say it would make him a danger, can just be verbal)

Thanks. He is 82. Generally well overall apart from a few physical general older age issues, no signs of memory decline or anything like that

No of course not. What I’m saying is that it was a throwaway remark which the person probably connect with the age of the child in any way.

Probably generational, a bit of a laugh - you really don't think he was expecting a full burlesque act from a 4 year old?
My mum, dad, aunties, uncles, whoever would always do the "ta, da, da...de,da,da,da." music whenever anyone took off so much as a scarf.

Yes!!! My family did that too. And “penny a skelp”.

I really wouldn't take it in a dirty way. It sounds like more of a 'haha we're getting a striptease' sarcastic kind of comment. Unless you have other concerns?

I forgot about penny a skelp 🤣 We used to go around the playground in primary school with a friend over our shoulder, their bum in the air, saying "penny a skelp" and the person would get a skelp on the backside 🤣

The kind of thing my mum would say. Like dancing around the pole like a ‘pole dancer’. Meant in an innocent and ridiculous way, unless you think it wasn’t? Only you can be the judge of it.

@Sheabutter19

its doesn't mean anything, he's just messing around. I'm 55, when
I was a child it was perfectly normal to say this, and da da dum the music.

times have changed and everything is so 'serious' now. Don't judge him by todays 'norms' you will not want to be judged by the 'norm' of the day when you're in your 80s and won't see things you say today as 'terrible'. You might not think it now, but in 50 years time these norms are going to be just as outdated.

Sounds quite noncey, doesn't it

They’d also go in about them ‘flirting’ like it was cute. Not appropriate in today’s age I agree.