My elderly DF died just over 2 weeks ago (DM died years ago). Not entirely unexpected as had been ill for years but went downhill rapidly at the end. While sad, it was also something of a relief as he has had no quality of life for a long time. We had a longstanding holiday booked for 2 weeks after he died. Obviously I would not have gone had he not passed by the time we were due to go but as it was, we were able to arrange the funeral for a few days after we return, so flew out a couple of days ago. My siblings were happy for us to go, the arrangements have been made and I'm contactable should they need me. I also know DF would've wanted us to go. It's also unlikely insurance would've paid out had we cancelled as pre-existing illness.
Today, I was chatting to a friend on WhatsApp and she mentioned she had bumped into a woman we both know from the school run. Woman was apparently unimpressed I'd gone off on holiday so soon after my DF's death. While I'm friendly with her, she's not a close friend and she doesn't know DF, my family or the full circumstances of his illness & death. She would've learnt about the death and subsequent holiday from social media. My friend explained the circumstances above but they obviously made no difference as I see she's deleted me from social media!
While I don't really care what a virtual stranger thinks of me, I'm still upset at being judged and now worry how people I do care about might be judging me! I'm also wondering how to react to this woman when I next see her, likely not until September in the playground.
NB. my decision has not really delayed the funeral at all as they're typically at least 3 weeks after the death anyway round here.