No way back, no redeeming features?

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I've been out with a group of friends and their partners/ wives/ husbands today.

When it was arranged a while ago, my partner said he didn't want to come, which was fine. However, because I was going to be out all day, he stayed up all night last night drinking and watching TV and gaming.

He was still up at 9am, clearly pissed and still drinking. I had got up, showered and made my breakfast, was sitting down at the table in the kitchen to eat it, when he started coughing. I checked he was OK, and he came into the kitchen and did this awful snort and gobbed into the sink. It turned my stomach and I told him to bleach the sink and go to fucking bed. He ran the tap, but then just kind of wandered up to bed, calling 'night' as he went.

Now I've been out all day and got home a couple of hours ago. He's still in bed.

All I can think is WTF am I doing wasting my time with this man? AIBU to let this be the final straw?

(To not drip feed, there are other issues with him being a man-child and not pulling his weight, so it's not just this one-off)

I’ve got the ick on your behalf.

Imagine trying to kiss him after that (not envy)

I think you know your done with this man child

Plenty of advice on here as to what you do now - and then live your best life without the snot and the teenage behaviour
You deserve better

Yep, ick on your behalf too. Massive big man child, nothing more unattractive

Do you have children?

OP you do not need permission to let it be the final straw, that is your final straw.

Well done for seeing that and typing it here. Tomorrow is YOUR fresh start.

No, no children. I'm 25 and don't want any yet.

Ugh, get rid, you can do better.

Run, do not walk, to the nearest exit.

Oh my goodness... you're only 25! Get rid!!!

Make sure your contraception is rock solid and make plans to leave.

OMG, you're 25...don't waste your youth and time on this twat. Get rid and move on!

Drinking and gaming.

The two things that would have my foot firmly planted on his backside as I booted him out the door never to return.

Why on earth have you picked this grotty little man to be your partner?

This is not a man you want to have a long term future with. Cut your losses.

It wasn't like this to begin with. It's only really when we got this place together that things got worse. Before we lived together, I knew he liked gaming nights with his friends on the nights we weren't together, so maybe he misses the freedom to do that without me here?

Yes, a million times yes to ditching him while you can. Do not make the mistake I made and tie yourself to someone who behaves like a child.

Thank goodness that you're sharp enough to see what he is, and can move on from the relationship - hopefully asap!

…there are other issues with him being a man-child and not pulling his weight…

This is enough op. Why are even still with him and questioning it?

If my partner did that contraception would be superfluous.

You've got the 'ick' you'll just keep noticing more and more now. Don't waste any more time, you know what needs to be done.

Good luck OP

Oh bless you, you're 25, you should be having the time of your life, not waiting around for this disgusting loser.
Get rid and move on as soon as. You deserve better.

I just went to fetch something out of the bedroom (and also to check he's actually alive), and the stench in there has knocked me out.

Spare bed for me tonight. Can't bear the thought of sleeping next to him, let alone actually having sex with him.

You lost me at “gaming”. Run

You're so young. Don't waste your youth on someone who isn't deserving of it.

Decide whether he's moving out or you are. He can get on with his gaming and you can get on with your life.

Yeah. Run.

I married a version of this, more fool me. The last night we ever spent under the same roof he got so drunk he shit over himself and my living room sofa. This is how it ends. Spare yourself while you're still young and don't have kids.