Break down on motorway.

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AIBU to be annoyed with DH or am I sensitive due to stressful situation.

I had car trouble a few weeks ago and broke down. RAC attended and said it was fine to drive, cleared the code and off we went. Car drove fine afterwards.

Today I broke down on the motorway with teen DS & DD with me.

I emailed DH to tell him and he didn’t even ask if we were ok. We were literally stood at the side of the motorway and all he said was - oh really, same fault as last time?

Not an ounce of concern.

I feel for you! I'd be terrified to break down on the motorway! Particularly one of these "smart" motorways. Hope all OK and you've made up with DH. Some men just don't think to ask but doesn't mean they don't care.

Losing power when cars are doing 70 mph is terrifying so I'm also surprised at his reaction.
What's even more scary is alot of roads no longer have active hard shoulders so you have to switch on hazards and creep along at 30/40 mph hoping that those behind you slow down in time for you to reach an emergency layby.

I did write that then deleted it.

Your family needs a number. If you were ill / unconscious, God forbid, people need to be able to reach him.

I cannot believe some of these responses. I broke down recently by a very busy road, and pulled up to the side and texted by friends while waiting for rescue, they were concerned and reassuring and sent follow up messages to make sure i got home ok. Even the RAC man rang to make sure I'd made it home. Every person I've mentioned this to since has shown concern. I think this is quite a stressful situation for most people and I cannot imagine not being concerned about someone I was meant to care about.

I would be having a gentle conversation with your husband about this. You can ring others from prison using prison landlines. I know a few people who work in prisons and this is how they communicate with families etc when at work.

Yes that would bother me a lot. Agree with sunshine that how people react in a crisis is very very telling.

But we pay a lot of attention to our cars, servicing and checking, and when it broke down the first time, Dh would've put it in immediately to have it looked at. So was there a reason you didn't?

This fault is related to the original, even though it was checked, so that's still an issue.

If your husband thinks of you as a normally competent person and you were able to send an email, and didn't mention anyone being hurt, there would not be any reason for alarm on his part.

It's not about being 'alarmed' surely?

It's about showing concern.

He waited 4 hours, FOUR hours, to check OP was okay.

She told him she'd broken down. He didn't know she'd been 'rescued' and was ok, did he?

@Oblomov24 the first time it was a valve stuck open, this time the actuator had snapped. I have no idea what either of these parts does other than they are related to each other and when your actuator snaps you lose power. I am no mechanic so I may have gotten the wrong end of the stick so don’t come for me if I have got it wrong. That’s the gist of my understanding.