To ignore my three year old daughter when she says she’s a boy?

[Bullbreedbliss]

How do I approach this? Do I ignore? If I say she’s a girl she just argues with me. Am I doing damage by dismissing her?

Surely you asked her “why do you think that?”

Does she know about the differences between girls and boys? Have you told her the names of body parts? Does she have a brother/father who she can see has different body parts to her?

I wouldn’t pay it any serious attention, but I would ask why she thought that.

It’s just totally normal imaginary play. Don’t worry about it. Certainly don’t sit down with her and talk to her about it like someone suggests. You don’t want to make it a salient ‘thing’.

my daughters 9 and a Tom boy. She asks about being boys and girls and we talk about it sometimes. At her age i do say people can’t change sex or gender. She’s a girl and she can be any kind of girl she wants to be. She can be a professional footballer, a boxer, a hairdresser, she gets to choose And she can be lots of them too.

Her friend is a little lad who tells everyone he’s a pan sexual lesbian. Poor lad. I think his parents are fucking him up.

20 years ago (perhaps even 10) this wouldn't even have been a question. She is 3, and still thinks that if a man has long hair and a handbag that makes him a woman. Just correct her and don't give it a second thought. Certainly don't make a normal developmental phase into a big deal.