Hi, maybe I am too soft and willing to be told otherwise 😂
we recently went on a 5 day holiday with a larger group to a well known outdoor holiday parc in the uk.
there was 3 parties
party 1 - mum and 1 child
party 2 mum and 3 children ( me )
party 3 grandparents, mum and 2 children.
all the children know each-other and all super excited. Each party had a child with additional needs including party 3 with a 11 year old with autism ( I know it isn’t used anymore but I do think it’s relevant to say he is high functioning ) and is very independent. Let’s call him Fred.
fred was as good as good 99.9 percent of the time. All the children at some point were told off/ made mistakes.
the children all played together in the evenings which started on the Monday night.
tuesday night Fred had reacted to the younger one kicking him and called him something ( didn’t quite hear what ) and was removed instantly to his lodge / bedroom and wasn’t allowed out until the next day.
during Tuesday he was great and spent time swimming which he loved, with party 1 parent and all the kids. He was very very excited about going swimming again Wednesday evening and didn’t stop talking about it during the day Wednesday asking for reassurance that he was going again and was lovely to see how happy he was about the swimming pool. They were leaving early on the Friday so Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday were the only days possible to swim.
on Wednesday they did some activities in the morning, I was already back at the lodge with my disabled DC when Fred arrived back exclaiming the others were behind him they had picked the scooters up from the bike / scooter park where they had locked them up. He was about 3 /4 minutes ahead of them.
he hadn’t realised because there was no cars etc and he knew the way that driving ahead would be a problem and really didn’t think, I am guessing because it wouldn’t have been a problem for the other children the same age ( mine and party 2 )
all hell broke lose when the other adults caught up and the mum removed him from our lodge in to theirs. We were swiftly informed that he was now not allowed to leave his lodge until the next day so was banned from swimming. We had gone in and he was sobbing. We had to collect all the children and walk off to swimming leaving him behind.
I don’t know, I can see he did wrong and I probably would have told him off to but I felt like it was quite cruel and there was many other solutions ?