To think this was soo harsh of a punishment

[Olympicmumgold]

Hi, maybe I am too soft and willing to be told otherwise 😂

we recently went on a 5 day holiday with a larger group to a well known outdoor holiday parc in the uk.
there was 3 parties

party 1 - mum and 1 child
party 2 mum and 3 children ( me )
party 3 grandparents, mum and 2 children.

all the children know each-other and all super excited. Each party had a child with additional needs including party 3 with a 11 year old with autism ( I know it isn’t used anymore but I do think it’s relevant to say he is high functioning ) and is very independent. Let’s call him Fred.

fred was as good as good 99.9 percent of the time. All the children at some point were told off/ made mistakes.

the children all played together in the evenings which started on the Monday night.
tuesday night Fred had reacted to the younger one kicking him and called him something ( didn’t quite hear what ) and was removed instantly to his lodge / bedroom and wasn’t allowed out until the next day.
during Tuesday he was great and spent time swimming which he loved, with party 1 parent and all the kids. He was very very excited about going swimming again Wednesday evening and didn’t stop talking about it during the day Wednesday asking for reassurance that he was going again and was lovely to see how happy he was about the swimming pool. They were leaving early on the Friday so Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday were the only days possible to swim.

on Wednesday they did some activities in the morning, I was already back at the lodge with my disabled DC when Fred arrived back exclaiming the others were behind him they had picked the scooters up from the bike / scooter park where they had locked them up. He was about 3 /4 minutes ahead of them.
he hadn’t realised because there was no cars etc and he knew the way that driving ahead would be a problem and really didn’t think, I am guessing because it wouldn’t have been a problem for the other children the same age ( mine and party 2 )
all hell broke lose when the other adults caught up and the mum removed him from our lodge in to theirs. We were swiftly informed that he was now not allowed to leave his lodge until the next day so was banned from swimming. We had gone in and he was sobbing. We had to collect all the children and walk off to swimming leaving him behind.
I don’t know, I can see he did wrong and I probably would have told him off to but I felt like it was quite cruel and there was many other solutions ?

Horrible parents, I would have done the same thing as a child.

I'm not really sure what the problem was. What was wrong with scooting ahead in a vehicle free area?
Very harsh punishment

If you normally feel the parents are reasonable, then the chances are there is a backstory that you don't know.
I'd suspect he had been told not to go ahead, possibly more than once. They may also know that if they let it go, then he'll use that to do it again.

One of mine is very good at sounding hard done by, but she won't have told you the backstory which may well have included that she was very clearly told that if she did X then Y would happen.

Awful this breaks my heart as a mum of an autistic little boy I couldn't never do that.

This has really upset me 😢 Poor child. Totally OTT reaction from the parents.

What was the problem? He's 11, so first year of secondary school. Why on earth couldn't he scoot back?

Let alone punish him.

Genuinely can't see that he's done anything wrong.

Why would he be punished?

I’m reading this a few times and completely baffled trying to work out what the kid did wrong.

Same. I genuinely can't see what he did wrong let alone what warranted such a complete overreaction. He scooted ahead to the accommodation? I let my 4 year old scoot or ride ahead of me in areas with no cars let alone and 11 year old. Regardless of his addition needs he's still almost a teenager!

I suspect the PP is correct they just didn't want to be arsed with him going swimming.

Was the child who kicked him also told off?

This is just awful. Poor, poor Kid. I can't even see that he did anything wrong. He's 11 - and no cars around. Just excited

Well I think it’s because he didn’t tell them that’s what we can gather.

But why would he need to tell them? If they were genuinely only a few minutes behind then what was the issue? Honestly I would have found it VERY hard to not say something and would be questioning if they realise he's nearly a teenager and he should have some appropriate exposure to independence.

Have the parents had to be harsh with him in the last due to behavioural issues? Perhaps being v harsh is the only way to keep on top of his behaviour? I don't know, I just wouldn't like to judge when I haven't heard from the parents themselves

That is awful. Poor lad

I've also no idea what he did wrong. At first I thought he was 'supervising' the smaller ones and had left them behind (and was going to say that's an adult's mistake for putting the responsibility on him, not his mistake) but if the others were with adults then I can't see he's done anything wrong at all.

Does he not make his own way to school / will be from September at 11yo?

Wow harsh

So even aside from missing out on swimming, on two evenings of his holiday he's been exiled to his lodge and not allowed out? That's really cruel, his parents are shit.

Honestly sounds like they couldn't be arsed and were just finding excuses to make staying in in the evening and chilling a punishment.