do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

There are 15 pages of people explaining the practicalities and benefits

Thank you @letstrythatagain i understand why families do it with their children but I don’t think it’s for me. The one time our DD asked us to share locations when she was at a festival I found myself checking all the time and worried about her more.

I can totally understand this. I think it's best my eldest has stopped sharing for that very reason! 😆.

@oObyeOo "There are 15 pages of people explaining the practicalities and benefits"

Which can be summed up by "it means I can have dinner on the table"

I want to know how it benefits children to be tracked.

Although I didn’t, I can get on board with children. Someone’s spouse or partner though? Having read a lot of the comments it still doesn’t sit well with me. But then again other people’s relationships are nothing to do with me. If both parties are equally happy to do it who am I to say it’s right or wrong?

Yeah we alldo. I’m in my 50s and 34 years married so nothing to do about trust it’s just useful.

Used tracking a few times for DS when he started secondary school, to make sure he arrived at school and was getting home safe. We stopped after the first few months when he'd become used to the journey.

It's never occurred to us to use one for eachother (DH and I), I'm not sure what we'd need it for really.

I don’t agree that they are good valid reasons.

its just weird. People saying i know when he/she will be home FFS what bullshit, you are insecure and tracking all day. Just cook dinner and if they are not there they can heat it up!!

how on earth do you think people managed years ago!!!

Those belittling the 'dinner on the table'. It works the other way as well. DH has often done breakfast for me after a dog walk. He knows I take roughly an hour but can be up to 1.5. He will check to see if I am still walking or driving back to gauge when to get everything ready.

We simply use this instead of phoning/texting.

@flaxensunshine just because some people do things differently to you doesn't make them 'weird'. If you don't want to do it then don't. Why get so worked up about it?

I’m not worked up at all.

You sound it and overly invested in what other families do and find useful.

Not at all. Track away.

just gave my opinion which I thought was the point of this?

Why is it BS just because you don't agree. It works for us, we are all happy with the arrangement and no one is forced into it.
Just because you don't agree with it, it's weird and BS?
If people don't want to share locations thats up to them and their right, if people do then likewise.
If I want tea on the table for my husband and 11 year old when he gets in late and starving from his club then that's up to us and it works.
If I take him to his club then my husband does the same.
It's not weird, it's not coercive it's just what works.

Yeah who you trying to convince

You didn’t just give your opinion.

We don’t track. I don’t have access to my phone during the working day for one thing, certainly not insecure and prefer to eat together not that when to serve up dinner is the reason we use it although it’s useful.

I have no reason to. I have an app on my DD phone that shows me when she has left school and is walking home which is shared with DP but I don't feel the need to know where he is (mostly because he's either at work or having a crafty pint!) But I understand everyone's needs are different.

Convince who about what?

They’re less likely to get themselves in to bother… teenage frontal cortex can be a bit impulsive. They’re likely to think twice about doing stupid things if they know they’re being tracked. Plus it’s more for the benefit of the parent… piece of mind.

My 10yr old will be taking herself to and from school on her own come sept. It’ll be nice for me to be able to check each morn that she’s left the house on time and arrived.

I don't have to convince anyone. I was trying to give a balanced adult view.

Of course people managed it in a different way years ago. Times change and technology moves on… I’m grateful I no longer have to wait for the dial up code on the internet now, that I can check train times instantly and also o ow where my dh is when he’s out in the mountains.

No never thought about it but my dh cycles everywhere, he hates driving, so I do see the benefit in checking where he is because sometimes I do worry if he's taking longer than normal

Nobody is saying it’s weird not to do it… you are the only one berating people for their choices

The other week DS who's 11 had left his phone on DND after school, he'd WhatsApp'd me to say he was going to his friends but it hasn't sent and he's not noticed. When he didn't come home I could use Google location to see he was at his friends then text his friends mum to make sure all was ok. If I didn't have that it would have meant trying to ring around friends mums to find him.

I was replying to the poster saying her OH calls her when she’s walking the dogs alone in the dark because she’s spooked, if you’re feeling vulnerable and then you’re talking on the phone rather than being aware of your surroundings you’re making yourself more of a potential target.