I agree with @StormingNorman and disagree with @MitskiMoo :
MitskiMoo
Honestly, it sounds like you thought you could beat the system because you could afford the private consultation. This used to happen a lot, especially with operations. They paid for the private diagnosis then jumped the queue. It's either/or, not both.
Beat the system? You mean try to get healthy and live a full life?
Trying to Make me feel bad? As if I'm cheating the system? For paying to see someone? 
Op hasn't said what her condition is. And this is AIBU. As a pp suggested, she'll get better advice from others experiencing it if she posts exactly what condition it is , in health section. But not the traffic of AIBU.
But. May I encourage some sympathy and empathy from all.
If you've ever had a medical condition or been in pain then you'd know that it can be so all consuming that you'd do just about anything.
Why wouldn't we pay, if we could afford to, privately, if the nhs is failing us. You'd be a bit silly to not recommend to a friend that she doesn't at least consider going private, if she can afford to, to get say a pain killer if in bad pain. Shame nhs forces us to, but needs must.
I paid to be seen privately for a broken back in 4 places, when nhs made so many bodges my care was poor over the last 2 years. I'd pay again, believe me!!
My friend paid privately for meds, and an adhd and ASD diagnosis, all the family had been badly affected when the dd hadn't left the house for months, and the nhs waiting time has just changed from 2 years. To 8. Yes, 8 years. You wouldn't pay? Get real.
Or at least appreciate that some conditions are so awful, the pain so bad. For certain conditions. If you can afford to, it's a shame we have to. But why would anyone NOT say try and get some sort of pain relief. Eg go to see a £60 physio privately whilst waiting for nhs ? You'd be mad not to! If you can afford it.