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No I don’t want someone pooing by my French doors please and thank you .

78 replies

MillieTanteAnt · 31/07/2024 10:30

Dear gentle reader-sorry-a soft start after the rough thread title.

I get on well with my neighbours and generally keep myself to myself. The neighbour to my right has made a planning application to change to the front of her home and extend. The notification came through months ago and it was a normal window a few feet away from my French doors (no worries I thought thus no objections.)

I live on a cul de sac and their house is at the end so I don’t drive past and I noticed last night when I was doing some house maintenance that what they’re doing so does not match with the plans submitted .
It appears that they are creating a Granny annexe and have put a WC right next to my French doors - like 2 feet away.

I would never have agreed to this at planning stage.

Have I missed something? If plans change can they be submitted without notifying neighbours. I am all for change and improvement but this I’m not happy with.

I have popped a note through the letterbox asking for a face to face last night with my number but as yet nothing.

OP posts:
3luckystars · 31/07/2024 14:08

I need a diagram too I can’t picture it.

SanMarzano · 31/07/2024 14:11

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 31/07/2024 13:59

Doesn’t it come under change of use? (No idea). I would be mortified to use that toilet though, every parp, every splash…. Imagine having a tummy bug. 😕

Edited

Of course it doesn’t, it’s still being used as a residential dwelling.

Do you normally have issues with neighbours hearing you in the bathroom and vice versa? My next door neighbour’s bathroom on one side adjoins my kitchen and on the other side is a few feet away from my kitchen window. I hear stuff in the other rooms but I can confidently tell you I’ve never heard anyone using the toilet.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 31/07/2024 14:23

SanMarzano · 31/07/2024 14:11

Of course it doesn’t, it’s still being used as a residential dwelling.

Do you normally have issues with neighbours hearing you in the bathroom and vice versa? My next door neighbour’s bathroom on one side adjoins my kitchen and on the other side is a few feet away from my kitchen window. I hear stuff in the other rooms but I can confidently tell you I’ve never heard anyone using the toilet.

If someone was sat right outside the window of a toilet then they are 100% going to hear you shit aren’t they. Thank god for detached homes. I don’t want to hear anyone doing anything!

Giggorata · 31/07/2024 14:43

PointsSouth · 31/07/2024 13:05

I think that usage has overtaken derivation on this one. As usage always does.

You're flogging un cheval mort.

Ah, merde.

GasPanic · 31/07/2024 14:52

Isn't the fact that it is a toilet mean that the window will be open all the time ?

So when you have the french doors open eating your salad in summer you are going to be subject to a litany of poo, wee and gas noises. And flushing. Smells probably won't make it that far.

I guess if they build the window right on the border you might be able to put a fence up in front of it.

Maybe the toilet will be away from the window.

Oneearringlost · 31/07/2024 14:59

lifeisafunnyoldgame · 31/07/2024 11:01

2ft? I mean that’s in touching distance. I’d be knocking on the window after each flush reminding them to wash their hands.

Yes, 24 inches away, 60 cms? Surely not? But happy to be corrected.

NewGreenDuck · 31/07/2024 15:03

Can you do a diagram? If they are building a loo then clearly the soil pipe has to go somewhere. Presumably that is on their land and it would make sense for the loo to be close to the wall nearest the sewage system. So why is the window not facing onto their land? IYSWIM?

Lampslights · 31/07/2024 15:07

You didn’t agree to it op. You don’t have that authority, raising an objection or not is not agreeing to it. You can raise an objection and planing ignore, only planning agree to it.

Bignanna · 31/07/2024 15:09

NerrSnerr · 31/07/2024 10:59

Even if you can hear the flush how will you know they've done a poo? They may be like the many people on here who don't let anyone poo in the downstairs toilet.

How would you stop them? You might mean to just wee but then…….

RedToothBrush · 31/07/2024 15:14

I believe you can now extend a certain number of metres without the need to get planning permission under permitted development rights.

I would look into this before making a fuss, because they may be able to do it without permission from you at all.

Ryeman · 31/07/2024 15:14

Please share the planning ref then we can all look at the plans!

Nightowl1234 · 31/07/2024 15:15

StickItInTheFamilyAlbum · 31/07/2024 11:35

Are you concerned about the placing of the window or a ventilation fan?

Terraced houses, the family next door built an extension on their boundary. It has no windows on our side but it has an extractor fan that lets out over the seating area in front of our double doors. They deep-fry a lot and cook food with a strong odour (the cooking fumes are enough to have turned the colour on one side of the patio shade).

They had the choice to ventilate on the side that would have been over their own seating area in front of their windows but they didn't exercise that option.

You should have raised a formal objection as this is not permitted!

ForPearlViper · 31/07/2024 15:48

You say you would never have agreed to this at planning stage. Do you think that would have made a difference? If the building is within planning regulations it would make no difference whatsoever if you agreed or disagreed.

I'm not sure what you hope to achieve by talking to your neighbour. Do you expect them to say 'sorry, we'll move the toilet'? If not what's the point? If they have breached their planning permission that's clearly an issue but I strongly suspect that even if they have it won't be the loo.

Planning decisions and documents are openly available - ours are on the Council's website. I would suggest you take a look there and make absolutely sure that they've breached their planning permission before you raise the issue.

Having said that someone up the road from me did get in trouble with the planners. Their neighbours complained because they built a large garage (extension by stealth) which blocked views of the green at the end of the road. However, loss of a view is not grounds for refusal of permission. What did do for them was that they extended the garage beyond the front facade of the house which contravened regulations. They had to rebuild but it still blocks some of the view.

needsomewarmsunshine · 31/07/2024 17:27

CaribouCarafe · 31/07/2024 13:19

Haha have you not been on mumsnet long? People love to wax lyrical about hearing their partners shitting in the ensuite and being one door away from smells and noises etc etc (as if the average British house's family toilet is substantially further away)

Thanks, but fyi I've been on MN pretty much from the beginning, still don't want to hear someone in the loo when I'm relaxing in bed. They are grim but each to their own.

Elsvieta · 31/07/2024 22:17

Ask for the WC to be built without a window. If they refuse remind them that you could report them to the planning people for building something different to what they had permission for.

Trinity65 · 01/08/2024 11:09

Isittimeformynapyet · 31/07/2024 11:06

She was joking 🙄

Hard to tell on here love !

🙄

MillieTanteAnt · 01/08/2024 11:56

Thanks for your contribution. It’s given me more perspective.
The title was a bit of fun.

I will add a tall fence so we don’t see the window -it is ugly but it won’t be a problem if i hide it.

Ill play loud music if they’re noisy shitters

Ta.

OP posts:
GalileoHumpkins · 01/08/2024 12:53

Ill play loud music if they’re noisy shitters

Salt n peppa- Push It...

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 01/08/2024 13:10

Presumably the toilet is inside a building though? Or is it one of those outhouse at the bottom of the garden jobs?

henlake7 · 01/08/2024 13:27

At least they are building a bathroom to have a shit in....

a couple of summers ago my neighbour kept shitting into cans and throwing them into my garden!🙄

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 02/08/2024 10:49

henlake7 · 01/08/2024 13:27

At least they are building a bathroom to have a shit in....

a couple of summers ago my neighbour kept shitting into cans and throwing them into my garden!🙄

I can’t help but feel that calls for more than eye roll…

Welshmonster · 04/08/2024 12:35

Have a look at the plans submitted online and if it is massively different then raise with planning officers. The neighbours will try to go for retrospective planning permission and probably get it. Much better to raise it now before it’s complete and the planning officer will watch

Cherrysoup · 04/08/2024 14:28

henlake7 · 01/08/2024 13:27

At least they are building a bathroom to have a shit in....

a couple of summers ago my neighbour kept shitting into cans and throwing them into my garden!🙄

Does he have issues?!

Cherrysoup · 04/08/2024 14:31

MillieTanteAnt · 31/07/2024 10:30

Dear gentle reader-sorry-a soft start after the rough thread title.

I get on well with my neighbours and generally keep myself to myself. The neighbour to my right has made a planning application to change to the front of her home and extend. The notification came through months ago and it was a normal window a few feet away from my French doors (no worries I thought thus no objections.)

I live on a cul de sac and their house is at the end so I don’t drive past and I noticed last night when I was doing some house maintenance that what they’re doing so does not match with the plans submitted .
It appears that they are creating a Granny annexe and have put a WC right next to my French doors - like 2 feet away.

I would never have agreed to this at planning stage.

Have I missed something? If plans change can they be submitted without notifying neighbours. I am all for change and improvement but this I’m not happy with.

I have popped a note through the letterbox asking for a face to face last night with my number but as yet nothing.

They’d need to re-submit planning if they’ve changed it. Definitely get onto the council. Also, you do need a 3rd party wall agreement-they need to pay for the surveyor who comes to take pics of your inside/outside if it’s within 3 yards of your property. They then have to wait for 3 months unless you choose to waive this.

mondaytosunday · 04/08/2024 17:06

My downstairs loo is at the edge and back of my house. So it is technically two feet away from my neighbours.
If the external dimensions haven't changed I don't think you can dictate layout - they will have done it to work with existing drains. But if it's now a self contained annex rather than an extension integral to their house - that is a planning issue (though they may just require an internal entryway, which will not change your problem).

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