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No I don’t want someone pooing by my French doors please and thank you .

78 replies

MillieTanteAnt · 31/07/2024 10:30

Dear gentle reader-sorry-a soft start after the rough thread title.

I get on well with my neighbours and generally keep myself to myself. The neighbour to my right has made a planning application to change to the front of her home and extend. The notification came through months ago and it was a normal window a few feet away from my French doors (no worries I thought thus no objections.)

I live on a cul de sac and their house is at the end so I don’t drive past and I noticed last night when I was doing some house maintenance that what they’re doing so does not match with the plans submitted .
It appears that they are creating a Granny annexe and have put a WC right next to my French doors - like 2 feet away.

I would never have agreed to this at planning stage.

Have I missed something? If plans change can they be submitted without notifying neighbours. I am all for change and improvement but this I’m not happy with.

I have popped a note through the letterbox asking for a face to face last night with my number but as yet nothing.

OP posts:
theeyeofdoe · 31/07/2024 12:09

Have they got a party wall agreement in place? They need one if it's within 3m of the boundary.

Itsjustmeheretoday · 31/07/2024 12:18

CoffeandTiaMaria · 31/07/2024 10:54

I assume that the loo is inside a brick building? Not just plonked al fresco by the fence?
in which case I don’t understand why you’re complaining.

This? Hmm

Itsjustmeheretoday · 31/07/2024 12:19

Sunnydiary · 31/07/2024 12:03

Please let it be an open air toilet 🙏

😁
Grateful thread title OP!

TheDandyLion · 31/07/2024 12:19

I don't see the difference between this and an ensuite really.

SanMarzano · 31/07/2024 12:23

People on MN are so weird about toilets

lifeisafunnyoldgame · 31/07/2024 12:46

Isittimeformynapyet · 31/07/2024 11:06

She was joking 🙄

Was I though? 😂

CultOfRamen · 31/07/2024 12:50

I understand your pain OP I lived in a rental once where my kitchen side window was about 2metre away from their en suite window. When both windows open I could hear him farting and grunting on the toilet and even worse hocking and spitting in the shower yuck.

CoffeandTiaMaria · 31/07/2024 12:54

Sunnydiary · 31/07/2024 12:03

Please let it be an open air toilet 🙏

A long drop version?

Intriguedbythis · 31/07/2024 13:00

CultOfRamen · 31/07/2024 12:50

I understand your pain OP I lived in a rental once where my kitchen side window was about 2metre away from their en suite window. When both windows open I could hear him farting and grunting on the toilet and even worse hocking and spitting in the shower yuck.

Grunting ??? Really ..? Argh 😖 🤣 🤣 🤣 that would have put me right off my food

CultOfRamen · 31/07/2024 13:02

Intriguedbythis · 31/07/2024 13:00

Grunting ??? Really ..? Argh 😖 🤣 🤣 🤣 that would have put me right off my food

It was so weird saying hi when passing in the front yard- I never even knew his name, but knew him intimately enough know if he needed to eat more fibre…..

needsomewarmsunshine · 31/07/2024 13:03

Sounds like an ensuite to me, they are totally grim too, noise and smell,urgh.😬

PointsSouth · 31/07/2024 13:05

Giggorata · 31/07/2024 11:15

They are actually French windows, not doors
(lighthearted pedant, missing point of thread)

I think that usage has overtaken derivation on this one. As usage always does.

You're flogging un cheval mort.

AlwaysFreezing · 31/07/2024 13:07

I don't understand how you know? They build a brick box. You can't see inside what they've built. How do you know it's a toilet?

HappierTimesAhead · 31/07/2024 13:12

needsomewarmsunshine · 31/07/2024 13:03

Sounds like an ensuite to me, they are totally grim too, noise and smell,urgh.😬

Ensuites are grim?! I have never heard anyone say this before 😂I thought they were rather sought after!

CaribouCarafe · 31/07/2024 13:19

HappierTimesAhead · 31/07/2024 13:12

Ensuites are grim?! I have never heard anyone say this before 😂I thought they were rather sought after!

Haha have you not been on mumsnet long? People love to wax lyrical about hearing their partners shitting in the ensuite and being one door away from smells and noises etc etc (as if the average British house's family toilet is substantially further away)

HappierTimesAhead · 31/07/2024 13:28

CaribouCarafe · 31/07/2024 13:19

Haha have you not been on mumsnet long? People love to wax lyrical about hearing their partners shitting in the ensuite and being one door away from smells and noises etc etc (as if the average British house's family toilet is substantially further away)

I have clearly not been on the right threads! I imagine they are apoplectic about bathrooms with only a dividing screen in some hotel rooms!

Hannahthepink · 31/07/2024 13:30

In terms of planning, they can change internal rooms around without making an amendment (unless it's listed). But if you think that they have built the extension differently from the plans in terms of things like height of build, roof type etc, then you would report the breach to the planning enforcement department, there is probably a form on your council website for this.

Jaboody · 31/07/2024 13:31

I thought someone was turning up squatting outside your French doors curling one out. Unless it's an outdoor toilet, I think you'll be OK.

RanchRat · 31/07/2024 13:37

Willl it look something like this pic (From a house on the market near me).

No I don’t want someone pooing by my French doors please and thank you .
ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 31/07/2024 13:46

@RanchRat

😱🤣😱

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 31/07/2024 13:50

I don't quite get your issue OP.
Is the problem that there is a large brick extension next to your patio blocking the light and overlooking you - or the fact that this extension has a toilet in it? I imagine that if they open the window there may be a bit of a whiff.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 31/07/2024 13:59

Doesn’t it come under change of use? (No idea). I would be mortified to use that toilet though, every parp, every splash…. Imagine having a tummy bug. 😕

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 31/07/2024 14:02

lifeisafunnyoldgame · 31/07/2024 11:01

2ft? I mean that’s in touching distance. I’d be knocking on the window after each flush reminding them to wash their hands.

Yes. And put the lid down!

menopause59 · 31/07/2024 14:06

CoffeandTiaMaria · 31/07/2024 10:54

I assume that the loo is inside a brick building? Not just plonked al fresco by the fence?
in which case I don’t understand why you’re complaining.

My thoughts exactly!

What difference does it make what someone is doing behind a brick building

Can't stop laughing at the title, before I read the post, I thought someone has dropped their pants and pooped in front of the French doors for all to see

Muffit · 31/07/2024 14:08

Blisterly · 31/07/2024 10:48

How often do you think they will be flushing the toilet? I can’t see it being an inconvenience really. Better than a washing machine on a spin cycle!!

I actualy thought, you had a phantom pooer in your neighbourhood pooing outside your patio doors.
I actually had this happen to me for several years, and it wasn't fox poo,.Someone enjoyed getting in over the fence and pooing in my garden.( Before CCTV).
so thete's always someone worse off.Never did find out who it was, it eventually stoppef.