Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To refuse to go into a hot and sweaty office

496 replies

Floofydawg · 30/07/2024 16:51

I've been WFH full time since Covid but we now have a directive of two days a week in the office. I can do my job fully remotely with no problems. I've been going into the office as directed but last week the air conditioning in the office wasn't working and we weren't allowed to open any windows to let some air in. The office was very very hot. I ended up going home because I felt ill and had a headache from the heat (I did work when I got home). Manager is expecting us in the office later this week even though the aircon is not fixed and we've been warned it could be warmer due to the heatwave. AIBU to refuse to go in?

I would also add that I am struggling with menopause and not being able to regulate my body temperature. Not saying I should get special treatment however I do struggle with it. I'd rather be home where I can open my windows and let some air in.

OP posts:
Nanniedoss · 30/07/2024 21:56

Dunnoburt · 30/07/2024 21:52

It would be a swift "fuck off" from me...... they either want you to work or go sick.... no brainer surely????

Sickness absence interview coming your way then.

opalescented · 30/07/2024 21:56

Hateam · 30/07/2024 21:03

Playing the menopause card to get nice little perks others aren't getting.

It's not helping women.

Edited

It's not a nice little perk. It's a reasonable adjustment.

Get over it.

Dunnoburt · 30/07/2024 22:07

Nanniedoss · 30/07/2024 21:56

Sickness absence interview coming your way then.

Nope....I've embraced the NWOW and my output has doubled.

ImplacableDiscernment · 30/07/2024 22:33

ilovemyspace · 30/07/2024 20:43

@ImplacableDiscernment Menopause can be reasonable adjustment

But you don't need to cite 'menopause as a reasonable adjustment' when the temperature alone with the lack of any fresh air provision is sufficient.

Why should @Floofydawg have give any other reasoning?

A reasonable adjustment should be between the employee, their line manager and/or maybe HR.

I have a disability and a reasonable adjustment. I do not need to disclose details about my disability to people I work with. I wouldn't talk to them about menopause either.

The OPs workplace is in teh dark ages, much like the WFH/public sector workers are lazy brigade.

I would NOT tolerate anyone making fun of someone in this way. Absolutely appalling.

As is the idea the women have been going through this for years, I was fine, race to the bottom brigade.

Some women are deliberated by hyperemesis gravidarum, otters sail through pregnancy. We should support people according to their needs.

YOYOK · 30/07/2024 22:33

Hateam · 30/07/2024 21:10

What if they ask for unreasonable adjustments?
I'm speaking in general terms not about the OP?

Then, they don’t get them…?
It is the same for a disability or pregnancy, it has to be viable for the company or organisation.

The OP isn’t asking for much really. She’s already set up to WFH and it’s not as if we get many hot days. It’s unfortunate the air con is broken too. It’s unusual.

YOYOK · 30/07/2024 22:36

Yerroblemom1923 · 30/07/2024 21:20

whst @Hateam said. It does nothing for feminism. Pitches women against each other and makes men think even less of us.

I don’t feel I’m being pitched against other women. I am not menopausal, so no skin in this game. It doesn’t impact me if a woman who works in another organisation works from home when it’s 30 degrees AND the air con is broken. Even if she did work with me, it wouldn’t impact upon my work and my life.
I don’t think any less of the OP and neither should anyone else.

ImplacableDiscernment · 30/07/2024 22:40

There is no maximum temperature working limit for office workers. Employers must stick to health and safety at work law. Including keeping the temperature at a comfortable, safe level, providing clean and fresh air.

If the air conditioning is broken and hot weather is forecast, everyone that can WFH, should.

Our office is closed over the Christmas holidays and everyone WFH. We support operational staff and have targets to meet.

ForGreyKoala · 30/07/2024 23:50

You don't open windows when it is 30 degrees - all that does is bring the hot air from outside in.

How on earth do people think we managed pre air con days? We just got on with it, and there was no WFH in those days. You could buy a fan OP, they aren't that expensive, but you won't so stop moaning.

ForGreyKoala · 30/07/2024 23:54

opalescented · 30/07/2024 21:56

It's not a nice little perk. It's a reasonable adjustment.

Get over it.

I am 65 and in all my long working life I have never once heard a menopausal women ask for any adjustment. It seems to be a MN thing.

Namechangejust · 31/07/2024 01:08

So women ,who don’t work in an office are just being ignored on this thread.
I commented a few hours ago! Saying that my job doesn’t go away if I refuse to go to work despite the heat. Absolutely no choice for me

LonelyInDville · 31/07/2024 02:17

Ever since I was a teen I get ill in the heat, dizzy, nauseous, extreme sweating. Now that I’m menopausal it’s even worse . I would not be able to work like that and would ask to WFH. I find it funny that it’s ok to ask to WFH to pick kids up from school when people don’t want to pay for extra care, yet get snarky if someone wants to wfh because they get ill in the heat.

Howtoeatanelephant · 31/07/2024 05:57

How do you think menopausal women worked in offices before air con? Because they did. They worked in other non- air conditioned places too. Many still do; not all hospitals for example are new and shiny, many are Victorian, and are stuffy and cramped places to work.
It is pathetic; wfh has been abused, and people who don't want to go to work becuase they maight hav a hot flush with no air con, or indeed any other excuse are just making it worse for others.

Howtoeatanelephant · 31/07/2024 06:02

Fannyfiggs · 30/07/2024 21:28

It only pitches women against each other when women like you are so ignorant and insensitive of what others go through.

I'm astounded that there are so many women still uneducated about the menopause and stuck in the dark ages.

We are not stuck in the dark ages. We've just got on with it. Some of us got on with it unable to take HRT due to previous cancer treatment. Some of us got on with it in un air-conditioned places of work.
We were not moany~arsing about wanting to wfh because we couldn't. Like generations of women before them.
It is all a bit pathetic and does women no favours.
And if you're paid and contracted to go into work, go to sodding work

Howtoeatanelephant · 31/07/2024 06:08

Floofydawg · 30/07/2024 19:00

Precisely. I'm not point blank refusing to work just because it's hot.

How do you think menopausal emergency staff work while menopausal? Or farmers? Or divers? Or any other job where presence is required? Are they supposed to just get on with it, while you, being senior enough, can just do what you want?

LaurieFairyCake · 31/07/2024 06:22

Utterly ridiculous when you can work from home

I wouldn't go in until it was fixed, it was 34 degrees in my sitting room yesterday until I put the (portable) air con on. There's no way I could have worked in that.

I would just state it as a fact, I have no idea why people are so subservient.

"I'm going through menopause and this means I struggle to regulate my temperature. I am unable to work in a hot office. I am happy to come in once the air con is fixed. Until then I will work from home".

RogerApGwilliam · 31/07/2024 07:32

ForGreyKoala · 30/07/2024 23:50

You don't open windows when it is 30 degrees - all that does is bring the hot air from outside in.

How on earth do people think we managed pre air con days? We just got on with it, and there was no WFH in those days. You could buy a fan OP, they aren't that expensive, but you won't so stop moaning.

Not another one.

There seem to be a lot of posters on this thread who haven't understood that menopause is a thing that drives some women out of work entirely. This isn't new, either. When you say people just got on with it, you're wrong, because some of them stopped and continue to stop working because of it. Same goes for @Howtoeatanelephant- some of them don't, is the answer.

That is not the sort of thing we can afford to be doing with our skills shortage and population pyramid as things stand, however offended some of you are by the concept of a menopausal woman needing adjustments in her work.

BurntBroccoli · 31/07/2024 07:40

Namechangejust · 31/07/2024 01:08

So women ,who don’t work in an office are just being ignored on this thread.
I commented a few hours ago! Saying that my job doesn’t go away if I refuse to go to work despite the heat. Absolutely no choice for me

You could choose to get a job in an office?

abracadabra1980 · 31/07/2024 07:49

I have no idea how anyone copes with office work - or anything that involves public speaking or being around other people, when they are literally dripping with menopause sweat rolling down their face. Not everyone suffers this way, but I did. You end up soaking and you're then cold and shivery as your clothes are then soaked through. This can happen many many times a day. And night. It's awful.

socks1107 · 31/07/2024 07:51

abracadabra1980 · 31/07/2024 07:49

I have no idea how anyone copes with office work - or anything that involves public speaking or being around other people, when they are literally dripping with menopause sweat rolling down their face. Not everyone suffers this way, but I did. You end up soaking and you're then cold and shivery as your clothes are then soaked through. This can happen many many times a day. And night. It's awful.

You just have too. You don't have a choice but to just get on with it.

Howtoeatanelephant · 31/07/2024 07:51

BurntBroccoli · 31/07/2024 07:40

You could choose to get a job in an office?

That's just facetious

RogerApGwilliam · 31/07/2024 07:51

BurntBroccoli · 31/07/2024 07:40

You could choose to get a job in an office?

It's such a pointless argument anyway.

Because some reasonable adjustments aren't possible in all jobs, they shouldn't exist in any? Yeah, that'll definitely help everyone. Sorry Steve, but because your wheelchair means there are some jobs you wouldn't be able to do at all, no ground floor workstation or lift usage for you. Otherwise we'd just be ignoring all those other jobs.

Xmasbaby11 · 31/07/2024 07:55

since you can wfh and do so regularly, makes perfect sense to allow you to choose in this situation. No air con in an office that usually has it, and has no alternative, is really unpleasant. Even without the menopause.

Sunshineandpool · 31/07/2024 07:56

GreenWheat · 30/07/2024 17:08

I think they can ask you to come in, but need to allow the windows open (why don't they?) or provide fans. Could you also take your own desk fan? If they don't allow any of these mitigating measures then I wouldn't go in, or, as a PP said, turn up and faint in the first half hour.

How do you faint on cue?

BurntBroccoli · 31/07/2024 07:57

This reply has been withdrawn

This message has been withdrawn at the poster's request

BurntBroccoli · 31/07/2024 07:58

abracadabra1980 · 31/07/2024 07:49

I have no idea how anyone copes with office work - or anything that involves public speaking or being around other people, when they are literally dripping with menopause sweat rolling down their face. Not everyone suffers this way, but I did. You end up soaking and you're then cold and shivery as your clothes are then soaked through. This can happen many many times a day. And night. It's awful.

Yes it's so embarrassing and your confidence drops.