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Free breakfast clubs for ALL primary school children? Why?

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Safi7 · 29/07/2024 09:35

I’ve been overseas since the election so a bit out of the loop, but is it true that Labour are going to make it standard that all primary schools must now offer free breakfasts to all children, regardless of need?

Fair enough for children from deprived families - but all children?

Where is the money for this coming from?

Are Labour actually saying that in 2024, its now to much to expect parents to actually bother to feed their own children breakfast? This responsibility can just be pushed onto schools instead - as if they haven’t got enough on? Teachers are leaving in droves as it is. Du much is out in them - the jobs is becoming more like social work in too many cases. Who will staff these breakfast clubs and make sure kids are actually eating?

Surely this is just encouraging lazy parenting - ie parents who can well afford cereal / toast / eggs etc it but just won’t bother if their kids can eat at school instead. Plus children will be dumped at school earlier than necessary, just because parents can now get away with it?

Surely it’s better to direct resources where they are actually needed, rather than turn schools into free cafes? Makes no sense.

OP posts:
Qanat53 · 29/07/2024 13:58

If a parent is receiving benefits for their child, and are choosing to not feed their child breakfast. (Or dinner, during term time, or weekend, holidays)
Then shouldn’t the £1 for breakfast be deducted from their benefits?

I am fully aware that on benefits choices about spending are the difference between having £ for food, clothing, holiday and/or having nothing.

DBD1975 · 29/07/2024 13:59

DustyLee123 · 29/07/2024 09:46

As a kid of the 70’s I had to line up outside the school secretary office to get a ticket for my free school dinner. This set me apart from others who didn’t get free meals, and was quite humiliating. It’s better to offer all a free breakfast, not all will take it up.

I totally hear you, it was degrading and stigmatising. Excellent point well made 👍.

MrsSunshine2b · 29/07/2024 13:59

LadyDanburysCane · 29/07/2024 12:27

I think it’s about forcing mothers to go to work. I was a SAHM until my youngest went to secondary school. I never claimed a penny in benefits to support this decision but I was constantly made to feel that I was supposed to be passing my children off to others and get some paid work.
The thing is, you drop your children at school at 8am (or earlier) for breakfast club so you can get to work, what about the children of the people manning breakfast club? Do they have to find an even earlier club?

The culture these days is NOT for children to be cared for by their parents.
We have 21 children starting in our reception class in September. Our application forms ask for certain developmental info …. more than half of the children are NOT toilet trained. Many of the forms state the child is unable to dress themselves - from previous experience many of those who say they can actually can’t. Our early years teachers spend too much time teaching these children things that I, my friends and my children were all taught by parents. If the government want to improve things for children then they should be encouraging FAMILY not institutions.

However, the evidence suggests that children who do not attend preschool or nursery start school behind (in all the measures you mentioned and in academic learning) and stay behind their peers throughout their education, hence why the 15 funded hours for 2 yos of parents on benefits was introduced.

Maybe you were a super-SAHM who had a sparkling routine involving a great balance of adult-directed activities and child-led play but I think many SAHMs THINK they are doing lots for their children's development but really struggle to keep motivation and consistency going over the long term and end up bored, lonely and relying on Netflix a lot whilst trying to muster up the energy to tidy up the never-ending mess that comes with children at home all day.

The best balance for me was part-time work which left me with enough energy to spend 2 full days doing fun things with my daughter. My role changed slightly and I had to go full time, but now she's due to start school in September anyway. And she is fully potty trained and able to dress herself- at last check she can change from her uniform to her PE kit and back again all the way to shoes and socks in 9 minutes.

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 13:59

MikeRafone · 29/07/2024 13:57

Coconutlattes

rents are to be capped under labour gov. and U.C. don't sanction for work under primary school age

If you are a lone parent, or the nominated responsible carer in a couple, with a child under the age of 5 you won't be asked to work in return for your Universal Credit. When your child reaches the age of 1 you will be asked to attend interviews to discuss plans for a future move into work.

But isn’t that if the working parent meets the AET and if they are self employed that’s not counted at all ? So some parents will be pressured . That’s another thing the fact they disregard self employed earnings from the AET ? That’s not right as for some families self employment works around their circumstances

DBD1975 · 29/07/2024 14:00

MikeRafone · 29/07/2024 13:44

I ended up in a library working before covid - there was a lad of school age that used to visit every single day to read - he couldn't get a library ticket as his parent/s wouldn't do this for hm. So he would visit and sit in the corner and read for 2 hours after school.

When covid started I gave him around 6/7 books id found ready for the skip - so at least he had some reading material as he wouldn't be able not visit the library and stay - it was order only with a ticket.

We knew that his home life wasn't great

don't assume its parents that take their children to libraries, some take themselves and are important parts of society

What a desperately sad story, thank you for sharing.

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 14:01

DBD1975 · 29/07/2024 14:00

What a desperately sad story, thank you for sharing.

Poor little thing , that’s just like the Matilda story 😔

TheAlchemy · 29/07/2024 14:02

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 13:51

Also, in that case - what would actually help you? Because you say my ideas are ‘garbage’ when I’m trying my best so maybe if you give me some insight from your perspective as I’m interested to learn more as I’m trying but I don’t have your experience only you have that. What would help you ?

It’s a good question. Going the way of most Scandinavian countries and paying maternity pay (at a significantly higher rate than is currently offered) for 2 years would be a good start.

reducing interest rates so that I’m not paying 6% interest on my mortgage

properly capping the cost of utilities so that gas and electric doesn’t cost an arm and a leg

these would be my top 3.

Areolaborealis · 29/07/2024 14:02

If really open to ALL, how are they going to manage all the disabilities, behavioural, learning issues at the breakfast club? Surely any provision made during the school day should be extended to breakfast club but this would be a logistical nightmare if open to the whole school. The vulnerable kids who really need the 'free' toast and somewhere safe to go in the morning will be the only ones excluded because there wont be enough trained staff to deal with it all. Will TAs and 1:1s be expected to start at 7.30am?

diddl · 29/07/2024 14:02

The British school day is really short and badly designed.

Short?

When my eldest started school at 6 here in Germany it was 8-12!

After he had been there 2yrs it was extended to 8-1.15!

At 2ndry school hours were 8-1.15 with a couple of days being 8-4.

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 14:03

TheAlchemy · 29/07/2024 14:02

It’s a good question. Going the way of most Scandinavian countries and paying maternity pay (at a significantly higher rate than is currently offered) for 2 years would be a good start.

reducing interest rates so that I’m not paying 6% interest on my mortgage

properly capping the cost of utilities so that gas and electric doesn’t cost an arm and a leg

these would be my top 3.

I agree those are all very good ideas

LiveAtThe · 29/07/2024 14:03

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 13:49

I do have a large family

And you say that several of them have special needs so you need to be at home. I get that.

But then implying that other families where both parents work and have happy well-adjusted kids thriving in childcare, with brilliant relationships with their parents, as ‘eroding family life’, you lose credibility. I am sorry that you have a lot to juggle, but many working parents have very stable and content family lives.

I wish I had had breakfast clubs when mine were little. Would have made my first hospital consultant job a bit easier! We muddled through somehow but breakfast clubs would have been a godsend. Nothing to do with money or laziness in our case, just logistics.

And for the pp, mine were both toilet-trained, able to dress themselves and eat properly by the time they went to school. Despite us both working. Who would have thought it was possible ;-)

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 14:04

LiveAtThe · 29/07/2024 14:03

And you say that several of them have special needs so you need to be at home. I get that.

But then implying that other families where both parents work and have happy well-adjusted kids thriving in childcare, with brilliant relationships with their parents, as ‘eroding family life’, you lose credibility. I am sorry that you have a lot to juggle, but many working parents have very stable and content family lives.

I wish I had had breakfast clubs when mine were little. Would have made my first hospital consultant job a bit easier! We muddled through somehow but breakfast clubs would have been a godsend. Nothing to do with money or laziness in our case, just logistics.

And for the pp, mine were both toilet-trained, able to dress themselves and eat properly by the time they went to school. Despite us both working. Who would have thought it was possible ;-)

Maybe I was wrong and should have said eroding choices ?

MrsSunshine2b · 29/07/2024 14:07

Demonhunter · 29/07/2024 12:23

There are studies supporting this. An academic friend of mine conducted an extensive research study into the positive affects on punctuality. academic performance and mental health when universal free breakfast clubs are offered. Her study is one of many worldwide. Go and read up on the topic to see why it's a good thing.

Re punctuality, My husband and I both have ADHD and my daughter's school opens at 8:30 for running club but doesn't register until 8:50- this is actually brilliant for us because we can aim for 8:30 and have a 20 minute buffer zone before we are late. I imagine we're not alone in that. We earn above average but would use a breakfast club because I think my daughter would enjoy eating breakfast with her friends; we give enough to the PTA to more than cover the cost.

ObliviousCoalmine · 29/07/2024 14:09

Safi7 · 29/07/2024 09:52

I’m all for breakfast clubs for those who need it. I do take the point about stigmatising, but won’t that happen anyway? Some will be there every day and others won’t?

They shouldn’t need to have breakfast clubs mitigate lateness to actual lessons. They shouldn’t be late anyway!

We shouldn't need prisons because people shouldn't commit crimes either, but here we are.

I can't work out if you're being goady or just wilfully obtuse. Either way, it's unnecessary.

usernother · 29/07/2024 14:09

They shouldn't all be free but they are a good idea for those who need to use them.

Greytulips · 29/07/2024 14:10

I think it’s a sticking plaster - the root cause needs to be addressed.

Families where parents are drug takers or alcoholics are my main concern - hence the kids aren’t washed or dressed or fed.

The poor behaviour at the end of each term from those kids dreading being hungry/bored etc was appalling - and SS being so underfunded would tell the parents not to do drugs in front of the kids.

I think by giving out breakfast, improving the kids attendance and ensuring they eat, only hides bigger issues that aren’t being addressed.

LiveAtThe · 29/07/2024 14:10

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 14:04

Maybe I was wrong and should have said eroding choices ?

Yes I think in an ideal world everyone would have a choice of course.

They of course given current gender structures, we could argue about what really is a free ‘choice’ when it comes to mothers working. But that’s another thread.;-)

HappierTimesAhead · 29/07/2024 14:11

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 14:04

Maybe I was wrong and should have said eroding choices ?

I absolutely agree about eroding choices and I think women went from being forced to be a SAHM (whether they wanted to or not) to being given the illusion of choice (you can have it all!). We also don't value the unpaid work that is mostly done by women that props up the economy.
I still agree with breakfast club provision!

Crikeyalmighty · 29/07/2024 14:13

When we lived in Denmark we had a primary at the end of the road- at 8.10am you could see the children sat in round tables chatting with a helper and eating cereal, toast and bowls of fruit- it was free and a universal offering and looked nicely ordered. Personally I thought it was a great idea and looked to be more about 'ordered socialisation' no running around etc. it's not compulsory- and most parents took advantage it seems, started earlier and were finished at 4.30 - they had after school club too where food was offered.

RheaRend · 29/07/2024 14:14

Olympics2024 · 29/07/2024 09:40

A third of the children in the UK live in absolute poverty, their families don’t have enough money to feed them. The universal free school meal scheme has shown that uptake of free food services are higher when it’s universal. It’s go away to helping with childcare issues so parents can work. They’re hoping it will help with school attendance which is currently very low.

The Universal FSM is not currently fully funded.

I assume this will not be.

What will schools cut to fund this like they did with the UFSM?

BIossomtoes · 29/07/2024 14:15

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 13:42

I listed some ideas earlier ?

Where’s the money going to come from? What you suggest is a double whammy - the cost of your ideas + the loss of tax income from people choosing not to work.

MrsSunshine2b · 29/07/2024 14:15

LiveAtThe · 29/07/2024 14:10

Yes I think in an ideal world everyone would have a choice of course.

They of course given current gender structures, we could argue about what really is a free ‘choice’ when it comes to mothers working. But that’s another thread.;-)

But with respect, why would the government want to incentivise SAHPs of any gender? I can understand why someone wants to do it and the benefits this can have for children, but looking at it from the govt point of you, a parent who leaves the workforce to be a SAHP is unlikely to return and at best will not be paying income tax, at worst will be claiming benefits. If your job is to build a strong economy and you are only looking at the outcomes over a 4 year term, there's no positives to having a lot of SAHPs.

WalkingonWheels · 29/07/2024 14:16

GreenTeaLikesMe · 29/07/2024 13:30

These days card systems are used and it's anonymous. You don't need to make stuff free for everyone to avoid stigma any more.

Have you ever been un a school? The children absolutely know who is on FSM and who isn't, from as young as Year 2.

Coconutlattes · 29/07/2024 14:16

HappierTimesAhead · 29/07/2024 14:11

I absolutely agree about eroding choices and I think women went from being forced to be a SAHM (whether they wanted to or not) to being given the illusion of choice (you can have it all!). We also don't value the unpaid work that is mostly done by women that props up the economy.
I still agree with breakfast club provision!

Yes I agree it feels like in the past there was no choice just be a SAHM! Now there’s no choice again - Be economically active, work. Provide the second income to survive etc etc. who sets these requirements for women , men probably !

LiveAtThe · 29/07/2024 14:18

MrsSunshine2b · 29/07/2024 14:15

But with respect, why would the government want to incentivise SAHPs of any gender? I can understand why someone wants to do it and the benefits this can have for children, but looking at it from the govt point of you, a parent who leaves the workforce to be a SAHP is unlikely to return and at best will not be paying income tax, at worst will be claiming benefits. If your job is to build a strong economy and you are only looking at the outcomes over a 4 year term, there's no positives to having a lot of SAHPs.

Hey in my world, all mums would return to work until there was true equality in the workplace and no gender pay gap. I went back full time when mine were babies. But I still think people need a choice.

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