To have changed my mind about letting some people stay in our house while we are away

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One of the school mums posted on a WhatsApp chat asking if anyone could help put her in laws up while they visited the UK from South Africa. It would be for a week.
Upshot is - I'm not feeling right now that our house is tidy/organised enough to offer to anyone else - let alone people we don't know.
She is coming round to look at our house this afternoon and I think I need to put her off.
I'm struggling a bit mentally with stuff and it's become another worry.

What a mad thing to agree to!

Tell her your home insurance doesn't cover it so it's a no and for gods sake don't ever do it again. What on earth possessed you in the first place?!

Call and tell her you’ve changed your mind. Why can’t they just stay in a hotel?

It's only 31 minutes between OP starting the thread and you posting. Give her chance. (And she doesn't have to come back if she doesn't want to.)

Upshot is - I'm not feeling right now that our house is tidy/organised enough to offer to anyone else - let alone people we don't know

This is a pretty strong valid reason to say no, so why on earth did you say yes?

Also what do you mean she’s coming to look at your house this afternoon? I’m so confused, to see if it’s “good enough” for her in laws or something?

Did you offer and now you've changed your mind?

Really? I thought it was life imprisonment if they didn't...

Either way, it's pointless leaving out the crucial part which is when they're supposed to be arriving.

You’re allowed to change your mind. Would they have been paying you? Just say sorry this is not convenient for us anymore. You don’t owe anymore your house to stay in

Of course the mature approach would be to just tell her that you'd changed your mind.

Or, you could just stink up the house before she comes for the bloody cheeky inspection.

I think yabu. It was a general request on a group chat which you chose to respond to. She didn't even ask you specifically.

Why is she coming to look at the house? To see if it's up to standard?

I wondered that too.

Fuck no. For so many reasons. Message her now and say that you’ve changed your mind and cancel the visit. That way it doesn’t look like you cancelled after meeting them.

Yes. Are you MAD? Back out FAST.

Why on earth would you even propose the possibility?

Is this a school hols one?

If she has never been to your house, then she clearly isn't a close friend. And even then I wouldn't let their relatives stay there, who I had never met.
I once let a friend and her girls who had to leave home suddenly due to DV stay in our home whilst we were away for 2weeks to give her time to get herself sorted with a rental. That was an emergency, and someone I knew well and knew would be respectful. You don't know these people, it doesn't sound like it was an emergency.
Why can't the in laws stay with the mum who made the request?

Help someone put up her ILs?????

I'd be reluctant to put up my own for a week!

Why aren't they staying with her?

This is weird. I'd maybe consider it in an emergency for a good friend (and have had friends who are nicer tidier than me do it for other friends), but for a random school mum? No chance.

Why can't the in-laws stay with her anyway?

I'm a very kind person but even I think this is batshit. Definitely back out.

I don't think you should stress yourself over someone else's MIL. You probably have your own one already. Take it easy on yourself. You sound nice and you don't need this added stress.

I once hosted my boyfriend's friend's mum's friends. They were delightful, paid me a modest amount, they were no trouble at all. Win win all round

So, the WA Mum wasn't unreasonable to ask

And OP was under no obligation to agree

If you have committed to host, I think YABU to leave them in the lurch

I'm surprised how many people are suggesting you back out

Bur, people are generally more flaky now, I think

Wouldn’t you in her shoes? It might be a hovel, or have a spiral staircase or whatever.

That is a big big ask OP, have you asked yourself why you offered in the first place? Another poster asked about being a people pleaser - could that be the case?