Is this a reasonable reaction?

[Downbadcryingatthegym]

We have a young dog who is pretty annoying at times. She just jumped up at my boyfriend and he proceeded to leave the room and slammed the door so hard that the wall shook. It made me feel very uneasy even though I know it's not about me. I know if I bring it up he will make it about the dog being badly behaved and that he is justified, it will probably start an argument.Am I being unreasonable to think this is an unacceptable response?

Sorry to be clearer when I said pinning down i mean he will get her to lie down and hold her shoulders until she calms down. I have told him not to do this but then he goes off at me instead. We have been trying to stamp out the jumping up by ignoring turning away etc and she had improved but gets over excited at times. I just don't know if it's reasonable that I feel intimidated and wonder if it does the same to the dog.

Are you quite well? 🤦‍♀️

Very well indeed THANK YOU. 😡

To be honest I would be way more concerned this behaviour that the door slamming!
No way I could be with someone who would treat an animal like that.

My grown up DC is afraid of dogs, if they make a sudden movement he gets very spooked.

I’m not afraid of dogs but I would certainly recoil from sudden movement. I was upstairs on a bus last week, enjoying the view. Someone got on with a dog that reared up and put its paws on the seat next to me. I recoiled, the owner was rude to me.

I think slamming the door is a bit extreme, but it does depend on the fear level.

if you have to ask the question i think you know the answer in this case op

I agree with you. I must say I am also appalled by how many people walk o paths and pavements without their dogs on a lead.

Stop ignoring your gut.
He is a violent angry man.
Get out while you can.

Huge red flags here

He mistreats the dog, loses his temper with you, and goes off slamming doors. This is a bad tempered, aggressive and frankly dangerous man.
He'll hurt the dog when you're not there. If you choose to stay with him and endure his violent temper, one day he'll hurt you too.
At the very least, if you're not going to take yourself and the dog away from him to safety, re-home the poor dog.

I don’t like dogs and I’m allergic.

BUT.

I don’t like aggressive men even more. And I don’t know the statistics but I’d bet more people are killed by angry little men than dogs. Bin him off.

The bf needs to learn that the young dog has certain behaviours whi h have reasons and learn what or why the dog jumps for reasons.
If he pushes down the dogs shoulders that seems odd.
Why dont you both go to dog training.
Slamming a door and carrying on is pathetic.
Poor annoying dog!

@Downbadcryingatthegym This man is a dangerous prick. Of course you feel intimidated and shaken. And he is abusing an animal.

Do not stay with this man. Do not passively accept his awful behaviour.

It is her fault. She needs to train her dog.

It's his dog too and is it somehow my fault he reacts like that ?

I think people are assuming it’s your dog as you say boyfriend not partner.

Not saying you are wrong but I think there’s an assumption you don’t live together, share things like the dog.

He sounds abusive.

I'd take the dog and leave. Please don't ever have kids with him

Ignoring what his reaction was and focusing on the cause this time, what are you (both kf you) doing to train the dog to not do this? Are you having formal training? I assume not as you have different approaches and views as to how to resolve the problem. I suggest signing up to training and setting boundaries between the two of you of what expectations and rules you have around the dog's behaviour.

Good god, don't ever have children with him. A good measure of a man is how he treats those weaker than him. He's come up pretty short. I'd get out now while you still have no ties to him and take the dog with you.

I couldn’t live with someone that volatile. I would be scared.

I don’t like the sound of him at all. My advice is ditch the boyfriend, and enjoy the resulting peace and quiet. And of course, enjoy training your dog.

And this comment is helpful how exactly?

Or rehome the boyfriend.

@GabriellaMontez I did t make that clear, sorry.

I did mean get rid of the boyfriend and if IP can't, then rehome the dog.

First option preferred

Please PLEASE responsibly (dogs trust or similar) rehome this dog if you plan to stay with this abusive man. For those talking about fear of dogs - his actions are not those of a frightened person.I would be afraid of leaving them at home together. I would recommend never having children with him - when they become challenging, he'll be the same with them. Red flags all over this, in terms of the emotional and possibly physical wellbeing of anyone he finds challenging.

It speaks up for people who don't fawn all over bloody dogs, and gives them confidence.