To think this double barrelled name will sound odd

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So we’re sorting DS surname , we’re not married.

My last name is Indian and DP‘s is english.

would it be strange to double barrel the names?
Has anyone else done this?

My ex did it with his now wife; it sounds fine! Englishname-Sharma.

Unless your name is a very long South Indian one with multiple syllables it should be fine. I know lots of double barrels where the names very obviously have different ethnic origins.

No one can really say without knowing the names.

I don’t think it matters at all, I have double barrelled my children’s names and I’ve told them they can drop my name if they want come 18. It’s not about the sound but society knowing who has parental responsibility easily

Taught a kid English name then Singh. Was onli unusual because child was a girl with a very English Christian name so did not expect Singh as part of surname as this usually associated with boys. Was probably a case of mom.and dad wanting to combine names too

Yasmin Alibhai-Brown manages very nicely!

My friend has done a this but with English Spanish. It’s lovely!

Won't look odd at all - seen it a few times.

I've seen it before and its fine, but it will depend on the names. Two English names don't always work!

My friends son is 'long Malaysian name-moderately long and obviously Irish name'. It's quite cool actually.

The mix would be fun, I’d have it

It depends on the names. My bestie considered it but it really did sound like a curry so she didn't. Another friend is a Das so the name would have sounded like a German noun.

You mean like Thompson-Choudary or something? I know people with equivalent names, no one bats an eyelid. No stranger than any other double barrel name.

You know, I keep accidentally reading "Krishnan Guru-Murthy" as "Guru-Murphy" and it fits so well (to me) I think I actually prefer saying it that way! 😂 KGM can be an honorary Irishman!

And absolutely nothing wrong with a good cross-cultural double-barrel!

My sister has a long South Indian name with "multiple syllables", her husband is Irish. Their children are longindianname-irisho'something. Also have a colleague with the same kind of combo - long Indian name -hyphen very mundane English name. Not that unusual nowadays.

In DS’s class (final year of primary) at a very international school because it’s close to the university and two hospitals, about half of the class use both parents’ surnames, and the names are often from different cultures/languages. Off the top of my head, there’s Nigerian-Irish, Indian-Spanish, English-French, French Canadian-English.

I know people with mixed ethnicity double barrelled names. The only issue is really if both are very long. My husband's family Anglicised their surname and mine did not, so my name looks mixed but isn't.

Some specific combinations might not suit. And then there's the friends I have where they're the same ethnicity but their surnames are too similar, so no one changed their name at all!

And in Spain where it's normal for children to have names from both sides, they manage when they're not the same ethnicity.

My kids have a double barrel surname from 2 different countries. Kids their age just accept it. Any time I have to let people know, I just say I will spell it for you. If they prefer to simplify it when they are older they can.

One of my friends has this: Indian name- smith. It sounds great. She said she considered taking her husband’s name but didn’t want to as too English sounding and her heritage is Indian. Double barrelling worked well

Surely it depends on the name?

Any reason you don't want to get married? You could go to the registry office, and do it cheaply and quickly. Otherwise when your daughter gets married she's going to have to drop one-off those names, because it will become a 3 barrell name! It won't work long term.

On another thread, a lot of people were advising the poster not to give a child their partner's surname unless they were planning to marry. If you're having his children, marriage protects both you and the child.

Because obviously it’s the law that a woman has to take her husband’s surname when she gets married.

I’m pretty sure that the parents of all the double-barrelled kids in my son’s class are married!

Being married has nothing to do with anything. Daughter will do what she likes regardless. No woman has to take husband's name when she marries.