Just us girls for 5 days

[Onceiwassevenyearsold]

Dh is going away next week, I’ll be home alone with Dd, 6. We live abroad, so no family around, but will see friends two of the afternoons.
Any ideas what we can do for girly times together?

Girly times?

Picnic, boating, cinema, sightseeing, beach, swimming, camping, forest walk and so on.

@cardibach Girls times/things with no Dh around 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t know…he’s never away for even a night

I don’t think you need special ‘girly times’, just do whatever she normally enjoys doing with you. Let her sleep in your bed as a treat if you want to make a point of DH being away

Gosh some of these posters are a bit joyless... maybe some cute "grown up" shopping / lunch (used to do this with my mum when I was small and found it super fun), watch a movie that your DH wouldn't usually be into, could do nails / little facemasks or something if she's into that (obvs not if she's a massive tomboy and will hate it but nothing wrong with enjoying some girly time if you ask me).

Girly times? Is there going to be an adult there as well?

@Shineabrightlight What are you on about?

@theurbanpigeon She can be quite a tomboy so probably chose the wrong word there 😅bonding experiences I suppose

Well I don't understand your post. Girly times? What on earth do you mean? Are you talking about things a mother and daughter can do together? Surely that's so obvious you don't need to ask? Normal adult and daughter stuff.

God some people are such arseholes on this thread. I think this is lovely. How about picking a film together, and picking something nice for dinner that she loves. It's lovely you are thinking of this, these are the things she'll remember.

You know you don’t have to post if the topic isn’t to your liking…

Just go out for maybe a drink and some cake or watch a film that Dad wouldn't enjoy just spending time together is fine.

What does your dd like doing ?

I'd have loved this sort of thing. Shopping, nails or face masks would have been my worst nightmare! Depends on the child and their sex is irrelevant.

So would I. I absolutely loved camping, walking through a forest was magical and I loved swimming at the beach and picnics.

Well you are perfectly correct and I probably shouldn't have posted.

But: It just so rubs me up the wrong way when adult women call themselves girls.

And I feel strongly about bringing a daughter up to view herself as " girly" . She is a human being and should be encouraged to see herself as having equal opportunities as males, not restrict herself to things traditionally seen as " girls stuff".

Never waste an opportunity to be nasty, huh?

How about swimming, going for ice cream, parkrun, cinema, trip to a farm, museums, look to see what special events are on in your area.

My DD and I had a week alone once. We had a couple of picnics in the park. One shopping trip. We went out for dinner once. The thing I remember her enjoying most was a dvd evening where we watched two films with popcorn and sweets.

Go on an adventure! Ask what she would like to do: go to the top of a hill, beach, forest den… take a little stove and make (instant) hot chocolate with squirty cream on top.

Make a little garden area just for her, let her plant and decorate as she chooses

Have a teddy bears’ picnic: together make tiny buns in sweet cases, tiny sandwiches, put all her stuffed toys on a rug

Write and record a song together

Build a whole city or kingdom out of Lego etc that takes up the whole room and doesn’t have to be cleared away at the end of the day.

What does she like doing?

Do that.

Have you genuinely only ever done stuff with her with your husband present. If you are seeing friends 2 days why not just laze around at home the other days watching movies and staying in pyjamas?

I take it the " being nasty" is aimed at me?
It's not meant to be nasty to the OP personally.
It's just I can't understand why perpetuate views that were common in my mothers day? I thought we' d moved on from the idea that women weren't competent adults and girls should be brought up to know their place in a man's world.

It's not nastiness. It's just total lack of comprehension as to why a woman wants to minimise themselves and their female children.

Depending on what you can find that offers these sorts of activities for six year olds: Go go-karting; take her to a climbing wall; find one of those outdoor swimming places with huge inflatables to clamber on and slide off; find whatever the equivalent of Go Ape is in your country and get her up in the trees; plan a long walk with rucksacks and a picnic and start to teach her how to use a map and a compass…

Find activities where she has to be active and strong and can get really dirty, and you do the activities with her. Show her that there’s more to being female than nails and face masks, and that she doesn’t have to sit on the sidelines looking pretty and watching boys do all the fun stuff.

Hope that’s what you meant by ‘girly times’…

Go karting! Brilliant fun.

Jesus @Shineabrightlight, who pissed on your cornflakes this morning?
The poster was just asking for nice things to do with her daughter. If you don't like the post, or the words she's used, then don't comment 😂

Pitch a tent in your back garden if you have one and sleep out for a night: make hot chocolate and marshmallows on a gas stove and stay up late to look at the stars.