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to totally ignore DD's opinion on who she wants and doesn't want at her 4th birthday party?

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:05

yeah thought not

she has decided she wants boy 1, boy 2, boy 3 (great so do I), boy 4 (oh no, no no, no), boy 5 (well mebbe)

doesn't want girl 1, 2, 3 or 4 (all nice)or girl 5 (who lives next door)

and wants a drama teacher who used to come into nursery the term before last to come

so that's decided then we'll have boy 1,2,4 and 5, the girls and next door neighbour

AGREE WITH ME OR LEAVE [GRIN]

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:06

freudian slip meant boy 1,2,3 and 5

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:10

ok you can disagree with me if you want

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CoteDAzur · 13/04/2008 16:10

YABU to refuse kids she wants to invite.
YANBU to add to her guest list.

CoteDAzur · 13/04/2008 16:11

Why is that a Freudian slip?

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:11

boy 4 is inhabited by beelzebub

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:12

(it's not )

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edam · 13/04/2008 16:13

I'm with Cote, don't leave out people she wants to invite. Except boy 4 - what's your problem with him?

CoteDAzur · 13/04/2008 16:13

Did he spend some time lost on an island with some other boys, worshipping a dead pig's head?

gagarin · 13/04/2008 16:14

Four year olds want the naughtiest kids on the block to come to their party - and then cry when/if the chosen children break their toys.

You choose........

littlelapin · 13/04/2008 16:14

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jingleyjen · 13/04/2008 16:16

DS1 and I h ave together chosen the guest list for his party... there were people he didn't want to invite 3 weeks ago that I invited and the party is now next weekend and he is really excited that they are going to be there..

YANBU.. your house.. good luck!

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:19

I don't like him .. he has no boundaries, has no respect for anyone or anything and is vicious (kicks, punches, doesn't care about smaller children) .. he is NT before you have a go ... parents can't control

am sure it's a phase, am sure he'll grow out of it .. but I don't want him ... he won't be in same class next year anyway

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:20

anyway I want her to make friends of girls not just boys .. her best friends are boy 1,2 and 3

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Spidermama · 13/04/2008 16:20

I would vet the really troublesome ones because they can wreck parties.

FrannyandZooey · 13/04/2008 16:23

ds just had his 5th and after preliminary enquiries I just did the whole guest list myself and completely disregarded what he said

he was vetoing lots of perfectly nice people to whom we owed hospitality, and wanting me to ask people like the coach at his sports group (who is 50 and probably didn't really want to come to a children's party)

anyway

I agree with you

Countingthegreyhairs · 13/04/2008 16:23

crikey Twiglett - I'd just congratulate yourself on having a very precocious and independent daughter!

My dd was only interested in whether we were having a pink cake & balloons at her 4th party ...she wasn't too bothered about the guests ... (as long as there were "lots")

.. having said that though she did ask if we could invite the postman

she's a tad more discerning this year though it has to be said, makes me feel weary thinking about her upcoming party tbh .. should we invite X from ballet, and will Y be offended if we don't invite her sister .?? etc etc.. tis a minefield ....

CoteDAzur · 13/04/2008 16:23

That last post was a reference to the book 'Lord of the Flies' btw ('Beelzebub' literally means 'Lord of Flies' in Hebrew). My feeble attempt at humour

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:27

ooo does it? I never knowded dat .. but did get your LotF reference and it seemed apposite

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Twiglett · 13/04/2008 16:28

ROFL at independent daughter .. if only you knew

there will be no pink of course .. probably power rangers and maybe bubbles

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CoteDAzur · 13/04/2008 16:29

Twiglett - My DD is younger than yours so I have no experience of 4 yr olds, but your "I want her to make friends of girls" got me thinking.

Do you think it will work?

littlelapin · 13/04/2008 16:30

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VictorianSqualor · 13/04/2008 16:34

LL, I'm hearing you organised a charity calendar for the MfM/SIDS thing, is that right?

littlelapin · 13/04/2008 16:35

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morningpaper · 13/04/2008 16:35

For 4th birthday I had a tea party with two friends

much easier

SmugColditz · 13/04/2008 16:37

I'd ignore her dislikes unless they are likely to beat the crap out of her, but I'd invite the likes and grit my teeth and bear them.

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