to think the mum who said her ds would be at dd's party then......

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didn't show is a rude cow person.
no phone call, text or email. whatever happened to manners?

She/her child could be ill? There could have been an emergency? It is rude though, does she have your phone number?

i did this once... but only coz i was... late back from london, then picked up ds1 and 2, bunged em in cleanish clothes, wrapped present, chucked all in the van, rove off to find party with address on invite and sketchy gps... couldnt find it. phone battery all gone so couldnt call...looked for ages... was defeated. drove stroppy upset boys home again and by the time got there far too knackered/tense to call and interrupt party which was by then ending anyway.
i apologised on the monday.

I did once completely forget about a party. I was very ashamed (and horribly embarassed) and as soon as I remembered I apologised profusely (with gift). I am not usually a rude cow.

Yep I hate it - people can be so rude especially when you make an effort and get party bags etc.

Mind you I have had people not reply and then turn up and one woman brought the invited child and dumped anoher on me so she could have a bit of piece and quiet! - DH agreed to it I was otherwise engaged wih the other 20 5 year olds trashig my garden!

oh god , fallenM has just reminded me of the w/end i forgot TWO parties. clean forgot. both of them.
DOH.

Oh don't judge too harshly - this happened to me once and her older son had died that morning in hospital - awful. really awful. Not surprisingly ringing me wasn;t at teh top of her list of priorities one hour after losing him

unless she makes a habit of forgetting stuff and not phoning,then cut her some slack , i have forgotten the odd party, and have been mortified and then grovelled profusely... even had a present ready to take, and got the day wrong.

i was deep in the pits of depression that w/end if its any explanation. shame really as some interraction with human race may have been a nice interlude... ho hum.

i also apologise with pressies on the monday.

I thought I had missed a party for DS2 yesterday....and that was after I had specifically rung to say we would be going as soon as I got the invite too (I normally ring the day or so before )!!!

I have been so bury spring cleaning the last few day I knackered myself and just plain fell asleep on the sofa curled up with the boys who were watching a DVD.......DS2 suddenly started screaming about this party and I honestly started to feel shakey and thinking "oh god, this will be a MNer and she'll moan about me on MN".....

was sooooooooooooooooo thankful when I found the invite (was going to ring to apologise profusly) and found that it is in fact NEXT weekend

I once turned up for a party with dd as it was ending and she was sick as we walked in the door- with excitement

But in my defence the time was written wrong on the invite, but the mum took my dd back to her house to play with her ds and they had a great time

Soapbox

Like others have said she may well have had an emergency or something more important to deal with and lets face it, as parents sometimes things other than parties are more important.

I understand what you mean though.
It is frustrating when people dont turn up.

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YABU, parties are generally on the weekend and part of family, daddy, get stuff done time, every party i have ever thrown for the kids must be up to about 20 now, there has been someone not turn up and I think, thank god, now I have a spare party bag for sibling who has unexpectedly arrived, you need to chill.

Oh Lord, when I opened this thread I nearly had a heart attack in case it was us you were complaining about! Dh got confused and assumed a party was 3 like yesterday's when it's 2.30 - raced out of the house a minute ago when he realised (I'm not well and have just got up otherwise I'd have told him).

how odd
so it is ok to accept a invite....then just not turn up
of course there might be a perfectly acceptible reason why she hasn't been in touch, she has my phone number and she had been to party at same place. but maybe her ds is ill(could be as he has sn and health problems) maybe baby is ill. or maybe most likely his mum forgot or couldn't be bothered.
but I moaned on here and haven't gone round and pulled her hair.

You've made me feel guilty now, I promised a friend I would go to her DD's party yesterday but have had a vomiting bug. I did send dd with her Gran though, just haven't got aroung to phoning to apologise for my absence!

I would have called if dd wasn't going though.

YABu, i have a brain like a sieve, and with dh memory problems we forget things all the time.

we even have a white board and calender where everythuing gets written and we still forget things

no-one said it was ok, but it is not always just simply not bieng arsed to go to the party

actually I think it is ok, what would not be ok is if next time she saw you she didnt apologise, we all have busy lives and in the next 6 weeks we have 8 parties, we will try and keep up to date on all of them but if we are late or dc puke or have a flat tyre or called into work then we will explain later.

Nobody has said it's OK.

I forgot. It wasn't malicious. It wasn't that I couldn't be arsed. I forgot.

It wasn't OK, and I grovelled abjectly.

Apart from clueless of curse

course

is this the straw that broke the donkeys back, is there something else that happened and this just wound you up even more, if anyone else had done the same would you have felt the same