To think DH should have told me he sold this car

[Farkinell]

One of our daughters needed a newer car so we've upgraded her car, and wanted to sell her old car privately to maximise income from it.

It's taken longer than expected.

I went away for a couple of days over the weekend and came back late last night.

As I left the house this morning I noticed it wasn't on the adjoining road where it's been for about 4 weeks. I'd expressed concern about it looking unused on the road (I shifted it around a few times over the month to make it look as though it was being used regularly) abd had suggested a crook lock for it, but hadn't got round to that.

I called DH worried that it had been stolen, but he didn't reply.

I sent him a WhatsApp and about 90 minutes later he replied that he'd sold it over the weekend, forgot to mention it. He did reply as soon as he saw the WhatsApp, had been in meetings all morning. He was apologetic for not mentioning messaging me about it.

I've had a period of time thinking we'd got all the rigaramole of dealing with the insurance.

AIBU thinking he should have updated me?

Well he probably should have told you but presumably you’d been away somewhere having fun so he didn’t want to bother you and when you came back late last night you were talking about your trip and it just slipped his mind? And then he went to work.
The car selling was planned so he may have assumed that you would auto think it had been sold, not that it had been stolen.

Yes he should have, but he forgot. And he’s apologised.

He hardly withheld it, he just didn't get chance to tell you. He told you as soon as you asked.

I think you should accept his apology.

He did the right thing not disturbing your weekend away with boring home stuff.

Do you think he has nefarious reasons?

We've been WhatsApping over the weekend about stuff a lot less inconsequential than selling a car .

Absolutely it slipped his mind, and he apologised the moment he was made aware, it's just I've had that heart sink moment for a while this morning and it made me quite out of sorts.

I thought it's quite normal to message regarding significant stuff compared with sending videos of the dogs twitching in their sleep and a double yplker for his breakfast 😂

Honestly no, just lack of thought really.

😂

You sound rather peachy

Yes it would be quite normal to message regarding significant stuff but it’s also quite normal for one partner in a relationship to forget something! You seem determined to make this into a bigger deal than it is.

I think that if your still thinking of this past the time it took you to read sorry he forget, you have issues.

To be honest I agree with previous poster you do sound hard work - this is a non issue which wouldn't have most people running to a public forum to post about - you were away he sold it and forgot to mention it - so what

Possibly prone to over thinking and anxiety, so yeah, you're probably spot on.

One of those things.

He forgot. In was probably a job crossed off the list so put out of his mind.

I would have rolled my eyes and had a laugh about ‘what if I had called the police, you numpty?’

I accepted his apology, there's no bad feeling.

I just wanted a gauge to see if people would expect to be updated on this.

Obviously its pleasant to have that few thousand sitting in our bank account rather than on the road. Maybe that celebration is worthy of mention even if it wasn't from the reassuring approach?

So if one of your cars wasn't where is was expected to be, you'd just consider it insignificant and carry on with your day, no headspace given, no curiosity to solve?

I think you're giving this way too much headspace, just by the fact you've created a whole thread about it. I'd just have been relieved and happy that the car hadn't been stolen, then thankful to my husband for sorting out the sale. And then forgotten about it. He apologised to you too, which was nice of him.

If I'd been you, I'd have thought that your husband might have moved the car somewhere, like you often do, so I wouldn't have been too stressed. Anyway, the worst that could have happened is that an old and unwanted car had been stolen, so that scenario wouldn't have caused me too much anxiety, it's not like the car was your prized possession. So yeah, I think you're making too much fuss about this really.

Sorry that was for @lazysummerdayz.

Not sure why it didn't quote, darn App

Who did he sell it too and for how much, does he think you would disapprove of the person or the price?

There's people starting threads on here on where cheese crackers have a Right Way Up.

Shizz on here doesn't have to pass a gravitas test.

Gosh no.

He didn't have time to update me on the person but there's £4,500 in our joint account that I assume is from the sale.

Does anyone disapprove of a purchaser?

Just happy it's finally been sold tbh.

Whose name is it in? You are overthinking it. He just forgot. Whose bank account has the money gone into? I see that it's the joint account. Then it's been a genuine lapse of memory.

Not if I knew it had been advisor sale, no. I’d assume it had been sold.
If it was just missing, then yes I would be more concerned.