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She wants to go on holiday?

63 replies

Doglover321 · 21/07/2024 14:17

Hi everyone,

I am 27 and have moved back in with my mum after a breakup. My dog also lives with us. She wants to go away for the week on 23rd September to Devon and stay in an AirBnB. However, I already have plans for this date and week. 23rd Sept is the 1 year anniversary of my thriving Meetup group and we are all going to the pub. Tables have been reserved and members have made a voluntary donation towards the upkeep of the group. I then have other stuff planned for the rest of the week. All these events were arranged before she said she wanted to go away, however she wants me to cancel them and join her. I feel bad because she doesn’t have family, friends or anyone else she could go with, but at the same time I really don’t want to cancel my plans and mess people around. She is very angry despite these events being arranged before she asked me and her not having parted with any money yet. She keeps saying I should be bending over backwards for her because she only got the all clear from breast cancer a year ago and has let me move back in with her after my breakup, and that most daughters would even offer to pay for the whole thing. TIA for any opinions/advice

OP posts:
HalebiHabibti · 21/07/2024 17:21

She is trying to make you pick her.

Shinyandnew1 · 21/07/2024 17:22

She sounds like a person you should not have moved in with!

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 21/07/2024 18:07

Are you actually sure she had cancer? I knew someone who lied about that

Doglover321 · 21/07/2024 18:09

LadyMacbethssweetArabianhand · 21/07/2024 18:07

Are you actually sure she had cancer? I knew someone who lied about that

She lost her hair and had letters and stuff from the hospital, so it would seem so. But her family members were messaging me asking if it is true

OP posts:
Doglover321 · 21/07/2024 18:10

She is a children’s nurse, so her immature behaviour is a bit concerning

OP posts:
ginasevern · 21/07/2024 18:21

So despite her seemingly horrendous behaviour (you haven't got a good word to say for her), you chose to go and live with her and bring your dog too? Are you leaving a few details out?

mitogoshi · 21/07/2024 18:23

Can't you go for 5 days (which frankly might be plenty!)

Doglover321 · 21/07/2024 18:23

ginasevern · 21/07/2024 18:21

So despite her seemingly horrendous behaviour (you haven't got a good word to say for her), you chose to go and live with her and bring your dog too? Are you leaving a few details out?

Things with my ex ended unexpectedly and I didn’t have anywhere else to go

OP posts:
Terrribletwos · 21/07/2024 18:27

Doglover321 · 21/07/2024 18:23

Things with my ex ended unexpectedly and I didn’t have anywhere else to go

Don't listen to that.

MelainesLaugh · 21/07/2024 18:44

I can’t believe you and your dog haven’t moved out by now

cauliflowercheeseplease · 21/07/2024 19:26

MelainesLaugh · 21/07/2024 18:44

I can’t believe you and your dog haven’t moved out by now

I think if my mom had racked up a credit card debt in my name I'd be wanting free accommodation until it was paid off! Would be hard to tolerate her but I'd be making a swift exit as soon as I was free of her spending on my behalf.

With everything being so ridiculously expensive these days and OP's circumstances, sometimes needs are a must.

Ellie56 · 21/07/2024 21:16

The dog wants to go away for the week on 23rd September to Devon and stay in an AirBnB?

Wellthisisterrible · 21/07/2024 21:30

Doglover321 · 21/07/2024 16:50

Update: I’ve just gone on my phone to discover that both her and the dog (she has created an account for him!) have unfriended me on Facebook.

Well that solves one problem, you definitely can’t go on holiday with people you are not Facebook friends with!! 😂
Keep declined the request when she re-adds you!!
In all seriousness, she sounds absolutely bat shit!! Make plans to move as soon as you can, and stick to them!
You don’t need this amount of drama in your life!

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