Am I ungrateful over birthday gift?

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Friend of mine gave my DS (8) a huge dinosaur teddy for his birthday. It is over 1m tall!

Dino is not new and has been cluttering up my friend’s house for a few years already. She has mentioned a few times wanting to get rid of it. Not once have I expressed interest in it, and my DS has paid no attention to it. In fact I’ve been vocal in wanting to get rid of our soft toys!

So I was amazed when she turned up to the party with it. I thanked her for the thought, jokingly said ‘nice try’ and asked her to take it back as we absolutely do not have space for it either, but she has refused!!

Would I be unreasonable to drive the bloody thing back to my friend’s house and leave it on the front step?

Just visualising the scene has given me a big laugh 😂

Yes - leave it on her dorstep and run!!
If she asks, say your DS had terrible nightmares about it!

If she’d bought it new for your ds then it would be rude to give it back, but as you know she’s just used your child’s birthday to help declutter her house, YANBU.

Perhaps I should leave all our unwanted soft toys at her doorstep. I think Dino is a bit lonely!

Sorry but that’s actually really hilarious (from the outside, I appreciate not for you)!

What a shit friend - with no shame! That was his birthday gift? A 2nd hand toy that she's told you she wants rid of??

I'd go over to hers & leave it on the doorstep if she won't take it back.

Cheeky cow!

Oh no, the dreaded oversize cuddly toy dilemma! We had this with bloody Peppa Pig. I gave it to the local jumble sale - do you have one near you? Make sure you lumber your friend with some other irritating space-sucking thing she can't give back to you though 😁

Perhaps drop it back on her doorstep with Dino holding a wrapped small gift for her child - a recorder.

I'd gift it back on her child birthday....

could she be short of money ?if your child doesnt bother with it - charity shop .
i would never be rude about it tho .
we have always taught ours you be greatful even if you dont like it .
its just a toy x

just seen he is 8- she maybe thought he might like it ? right sort of age . if he doesnt excellent life lesson .
My bil always gets the oddest things for our child. They go to the holiday club/food bank as they do childrens packs .
she just smiles and says thankyou or texts /writes if hes away .
i honestly think he must get the gifts muddled some are so random.
But its not worth arguing over or upsetting people .
x

Another here who would do this. I would add a party hat and send Dino back to her house. It could be the start of a long running joke and years of fun trying to outdo each other. 🦖

I don’t care about re-gifting stuff but this isn’t a gift. It’s just a blatant attempt to declutter.

It should be illegal to gift huge soft toys!

Love the idea of adding a party hat. In fact, I have a spare party bag that Dino can have, too!

Love the idea of adding a party hat. In fact, I have a spare party bag that Dino can have, too!

I'm loving where this is going. Just imagine the fun you could both have if you share custody of Dino. 🤣🦖

Im always really careful about off loading stuff. I always ask repeatedly if they'd like it, stress that's it's ok if they say no and I won't be offended. Your friend is a CF. I'd ask her if she either wants it back or it's going to a charity shop.

In our family circle it’s not a dinosaur, but a huge sparkly unicorn. It keeps getting vacuum packed, wrapped up and passed around for birthdays and Christmas’s, receiving it is both funny and bloody infuriating 😂. But this sort of passing off crap that parents don’t like has been happening for years, I can remember my mum running outside to another woman pushing a pram past our place on our estate, desperately clutching a giant teddy another parent had HAPPILY let me take off their hands! From the moment I took it, my mates mum was relieved of this cursed talisman, the horror on my mums face as I proudly walked through the door with it, barely able to carry it with my little arms and legs, its days were numbered, I wonder how many homes it eventually had 🤔.

I was already to say yeah you're bing ungrateful but actually no, she's seen it as an opportunity to dump her unwanted shit on you.

Make a thing of repeatedly regifting it within your friendship group. Preferably dressed in a different outfit each time.

My sil tries to pull this shit - she's given us old crap she doesn't want anymore for numerous Christmas and birthday presents. Last year she gave my 9yo her kid's old toddler bike for his birthday because she thought he'd enjoy scooting around on it, wtf? That went straight back to her house.

I would bury it in your garden and then maybe an archaeologist in the future will be astounded when it is uncovered and they may even write a scientific paper on it 🦖.

I would as you've joked about it
It's a bit mean to offload her clutter disguised as a birthday present.
I'd be very tempted to dump the soft toys you want to get rid of with them

YABVU if you don't upload a photo of him back on her doorstep with party hat and party bag. 😁

I would leave it back on her doorstep. Maybe with a little note/poem about how Dino missed home and made the journey back home if you are good at that kind of things.

This Is what I would do or christmas whatever comes first.

Many years ago my Mum won a huge, over 1 metre tall Tigger in a nursery school fete in the 'Guess the name of the Tigger' competition (and no, the name wasn't Tigger!).
My kids were intially thrilled with it, but it was bigger than they were.
Eventually I 'very kindly' gifted it back to the same nursery school under the guise that it was too big as a 'home toy', but would be ideal for the school as they had so much space. Maybe you can donate it in a similar way?

This reminds me of the episode of FRIENDS where Monica and Rachel argue over who is getting to keep a grotesque picture/sculpture that Phoebe has made.

They keep giving it to each other.