Am I ungrateful over birthday gift?

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Friend of mine gave my DS (8) a huge dinosaur teddy for his birthday. It is over 1m tall!

Dino is not new and has been cluttering up my friend’s house for a few years already. She has mentioned a few times wanting to get rid of it. Not once have I expressed interest in it, and my DS has paid no attention to it. In fact I’ve been vocal in wanting to get rid of our soft toys!

So I was amazed when she turned up to the party with it. I thanked her for the thought, jokingly said ‘nice try’ and asked her to take it back as we absolutely do not have space for it either, but she has refused!!

Would I be unreasonable to drive the bloody thing back to my friend’s house and leave it on the front step?

I think the dino needs to go home.

I'd stick it an ugly floral shirt on and leave it on her doorstep with a note saying I'm holidaying at yours for the foreseeable future 😂

That’s so cheeky 😂

This comment made my day!

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Surely this can’t be real? If it is it’s the most hilariously cheeky / rude thing I’ve come across on mumsnet!

A bit different, but I have a teeny tiny 8 year old which means that many parents we know of older children and younger children try to "pass down' clothes to her. I used to be thankful and accept offers, thinking they were very kind, but now it's just a firm, straight no. We've had a few good bits from the bags of clothes we've received of which I was very grateful, but we've also had many bags of unwashed clothes, very old and worn clothes and clothes with dubious stains.

Getting rid of stuff through either selling or sending to the charity shop or giving away is a pain - I know that, we have a garage full of old toys that we keep meaning to get rid of. In my experience though, once people see you as an easy way to get shot of their unwanted items quickly they will pursue with gusto.

apparently there's a German tradition similar to Secret Santa where you all bring something from your house you don't want and gift it to another person.

Oh we have this.

Dave.

Friends husband went to Asda after pub, came out carrying Dave. Gifted it to my Dino mad child. The bloody thing goes everywhere. She uses it like a beanbag.

Oh I'm so turning this into a thing, it would be passed between me and my friends/family for every event until the end of time. Absolutely deliver it back to her doorstep and report back!

Very cheeky, did she get him a real present too? If your DS isn't bothered I would just give the teddy to a charity shop

Dino-ping-pong is the way to go 🦖

I mean I would offer to pay a courier to deliver it to my idiot brother and wife 🙄🤣

I would put a collar and tag on it and have the tag engraved "if found please return to ..." with your friends name and address details on it and plonk it on her doorstep when you know she's in ring the bell & drive off, she'll get the message

I think I would definitely leave it till Christmas with a note and an elf saying he had got lost and was being returned.

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My friend bought my DS a huge, pink unicorn for his 2nd birthday. Over 1m tall. My DS loves it, so I can't very well get rid of the damn thing, it's still taking up space in my living room one year later. Thankfully I do have the space, and my DS is super happy, so I gotta give it to her. It was pretty funny.

Your situation is different, though. An 8yo doesn't care as much for such a toy, and you've expressly told her you're trying to declutter your home. I'd give it back, along with a nice note saying that your DS couldn't possibly accept such a precious gift, and leave it on her doorstep along with a few other soft toys you'd like to get rid of to keep it company.

Beware, though. Our situation started a birthday-prank-war in which the point is to get presents for each other's children that the child will love, but the parents will hate. I got her DS a large plastic dinosaur that roars and spews smoke. He was over the moon - my friend not so much. A mutual friend got her son a remote controlled plastic poop on wheels.

Please... don't do that. It's not a short of money thing to justify this... op doesn't want it and is just going to end up getting rid of it.. she's essentially used op as a waste removal service. Hence why she asked her to take it back and she refused. It's not about being grateful for someone else's rubbish.

I had similar from s close family member: a Giant Winnie the Poo, as big as an armchair. I kept it for quite a while ( without ill feeling and cared for him)....One day when the said family member called round briefly , I grabbed my chance and when they wasnt looking, I dumped Winnie on their Car Bonnet. Sorted!!!!!!!!!

You dumped a poo(h) on their bonnet!!

Gift it to the local teddy tombola! We have a giant teddy I’ve been trying to get rid of for years but my two are firmly attached to the bloody thing.

Just give it to a charity shop, I'm sure someone would love it

Put it on her doorstep . With a xylophone for her DCs to have . Ring the bell then run away .
The only problem with this is that she may up the ante and dump him back with a drum kit . 😀