"to ask" does anyone 'go out' by themselves.

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Quotes to makes it aibu worthy but, I've ditched my husband and my young kids (8mnth + 3yr) tonight to go out for a couple of drinks tonight and feel like maybe I'm strange.

I mean I'll still be out even if the consensus is that it is strange, but does anyone without childcare just go out by themselves for a few a drinks every few weeks since they can't do it as a couple and they don't have a friendship group yet.

Fwiw we just moved to this area in February but I was a lone fish before then to tbf.

I’m not sure, on the one hand I do leave the DC with DH and go for a long cycle, so I can relate but are you sure you are spending the time in a way that brings you joy? I associate drinking alone with sadness not joy, and I recognise that may be my issue.

I go to the theatre, restaurants and the cinema by myself. And not because I don;t have company or need childcare. Because I like it!

I still do this and my kids are 4 and 7. I love doing it midweek as it breaks up the working week with something fun.

Yes..... theatre, cinema, galleries, sports event, cafes, restaurants. Every year I have a few trips to London and on each occasion (between 2 and 4 nights) I pack in all the above-mentioned stuff that I want to see. Less common at home, but I still do it now and again.
My husband often goes away re his own hobbies when I'm doing the cultural bit, so we're both happy.

Not in the UK. Not at night but I've just been on holiday to Greece on my own for a week.

I wouldn't go out if I had an issue with doing anything alone.
I wouldn't feel comfortable going to a bar or holiday alone but I always shop, go to coffee shops on my own and if there's something I really want to see, the cinema too.

I don't go out at night, but DH and I always try to give each other at least an hour or so lost weekends to go to a cafe alone and chill. As PP have said, read, people watch, whatever. The main thing is that you have found a way to relax and your partner is understanding about facilitating that, as hoped you are to him. As long as it's reciprocal and both partners get alone time (and you aren't deliberately leaving at the hardest times but when things are generally under control at home), sounds fine to me.

This will be an unpopular reply but I love 'Spoons for this. Order on the app. No one bothers you. Totally normal. Easy,

yes. Drinks, theatre, exhibitions, cinema, walks, hobbies…I like my own company.

God yes, utterly decadent. There's a bar near me that does really nice wines and lots of snacks like olives, hummous, cheeses. I fancy going there with a book in the near future. I might just be inspired by this thread!

I go out myself to a coffee shop or sometimes to the cinema, that's about it.

Same here (though often with a paper book or newspaper). I just do what I want, when I'm ready 🙂 I chat to people some times, others not. I used to go clubbing by myself because I love dancing and all my friends had "grown out of it".

I go on solo holidays and city breaks too, and I have been married a very long time. Perhaps that's why I have stayed married, because I can go away by myself!

When travelling, it's not a bad idea to pick out a cafe/bar - or a couple - that suits you and has a good atmosphere, then make it kind of a home base. The staff look out for you, regulars get to know you a bit; you get your own space and a supportive environment.

I LOVE reading alone in pubs. Not strange at all. Some people seem to think it's weird that a woman should dare to carve out a little space and peace and quiet for herself, but to hell with them.

Do you have any nice hotels in your town? Most have bars and non residents can drink until 10 or 11pm. It's usually more relaxed atmosphere too

I probably wouldn't just go out and sit in a bar with a wine alone but would think nothing of going for a coffee or a meal! Not sure why it's different 🤔

I love taking myself and a book off to the pub, should do it more often!

Of course people go put alone, some people go on holiday alone.

Back in the day we'd all just turn up at the pub and see who was out .

Now I wish I could just go to the pub by myself. I don't get the opportunity to go otherwise. I'd only choose certain pubs .

I go for coffee and things during the day alone.

Yep. Love going out for a few beers and a gig on my own.

I’ve never been for a drink by myself but I regularly go to the cinema on my own. It’s always got other people who’ve gone on their own. I’d happily tuck myself away in a quiet country pub for a drink - it’s just that my locals are all busy and loud so not relaxing! Nothing at all odd about doing things alone if they suit you.

I do it, I am in a very friendly pub and I have some solid mates. Do it x

The local 'Spoons' is my occasional treat for a cooked breakfast. Wouldn't go there in the evening as it's a tad rough to put it politely. Theatre, gigs, cinema are fun on your own. You're going for a performance not to talk to other people. I've been on lots of holidays alone. I used to eat at lunchtime mostly and have snacks and drinks on my balcony at dinner time depending on where I stayed. Happy memories of eating my way through Venice, slices of pizza and ice-creams as I walked along. I enjoy people watching so am always happy doing that.

I go out fairly often by myself. I prefer it with other people but its still nice
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