Can’t regulate emotions AT ALL before my period

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I’m honestly awful. I say the most awful things and I feel angry. Truly angry. Then 48 hours later I am a different person. Is there medication for this? I hate it when it happens, I can tell every time but I still can’t stop myself with the anger. I full on swore at someone blocking my drive which I would never have done had it been another day of the month. I might not have been happy about it but I wouldn’t have made such a scene.

Mirena coil. Saved my life, my job, my relationship.

People will come and say you are responsible for your own behaviour but my PMS was so bad, it negatively affected almost 15 years of my life. You do have a responsibility to do something about it. Talk to your doctor.

I was stuck in a cycle of anger and doing things I regretted and then spending the next 3 weeks apologising, fixing things and being completely subservient. Perfect woman to fall.prey to an abusive relationship.

Coil or take the pill back to back so you don’t have a period

If it‘s truly intense anger, maybe accompanied by depression just before your period and possibly at ovulation, it could be PMDD. Worth looking up if you feel this may be you.

Cause is often an over-sensitivity to hormonal fluctuations (which is why it e.g. gets worse at perimenopause). A treatment that works for some is the BC Yaz.

There‘s also a high correlation with neurodiversity.

Fluoextine before and during your period.

I'm like this. Evening primrose oil helped a lot, that combined with going on the mini pill has mostly alleviated my murderous rages.

Some people take beta blockers during the luteal phase and it can help a lot.

Do reach out, there are treatments that can make that time of the month a lot more bearable.

I found magnesium to be really helpful in this situation.

This Is what I took for A while and it did help, I then went on HRT mid 40s until my period stopped at 51 it really was a life saver.

I was starting to get a feeling of rage before my period (have always had bad PMT). I thought it must be perimenopause. Went to the chemist and got put on the combined pill. I feel like a different woman. I think it's worth going to the GP if you can though.

Definitely the pill helped me. I was like a different person a few days before my period until I took the pill

Sounds like PMDD. I've been there before and it's horrible.
The coil, pill etc didn't work for me. Mine got worse for the years I had the coil. I worked with a naturopath which helped and I am now religious in tracking my cycle, so I know when I'll be in luteal and can try to do as little as possible. Stress makes it worse for me, also drinking.
I'm still learning what works for me and sadly there's no silver bullet. But do think about working with a professional who specialises in this, and don't be put off if your GP tried to fob you off. Mine was next to useless.
And most importantly - please be kind to yourself. It's horrible to be caught in the shame spiral and beating yourself up over it. That will increase stress and make everything worse. Hugs, it's really hard

Not being unreasonable! I was exactly the same. I felt totally out of control. I’ve started taking a very low dose of sertraline for the first part of my cycle and a slightly higher dose for the 10-14 days before my period. It has really helped.

I went on HRT a couple of years ago, still have cycles but no PMT, age 44

The oestrogen & progesterone in HRT is safer than the combined pill in your late 30s and 40s, especially if someone has additional risk factors

This is me, it's getting worse. I'm 38 and have children ages 6 and 2. A week before my period they piss me off so much and I can't stand my husband.

I was told to double up on my pop which does help tbh, no period no fury and like a pp mentioned it is imo uncontrollable, I wanted to die at times it was horrendous.

Magnesium glycinate. B6 and Zinc. All good for anxiety.

Evening primrose oil for rage.

Going for a brisk walk.

Those are my go tos.

Low dose antidepressant if its unbearable.

Track symptoms.

I think unfortunately it's related to how stressful modern life is. I'm 99% sure my symptoms wouldn't bother me if I didn't have to deal with people.

The progesterone only pill also helps - I felt so calm. Had to stop as it aged my skin and was hungry all the time.

Thankyou for posting this op - this is me and I'm getting worse.
Going to try Mirena coil next.

@nooobeginnings yes it made me hungry ALL the time and gave me sore gums. I had similar issues in pregnancy when progesterone soars.

OP i had this. Went to my GP when I was 39. She tested me for peri (which I now know isn't accurate) and suggested I took the pill. 8 weeks later I went back suicidal and crying and came off it again. I carried on as I was for 4 more years until anotjet GP said I was probably in peri meno which would account for spending two weeks of the month in tears, thinking suicidal thoughts and biting my families heads off.

I'm now on HRT and more more balanced. Had to go for the mirena as the utrogestan had the same impact as the pill on my emotional state.

*much more balanced

I’m exactly the same, last month I started ‘my protein hormone gummies’ and I could tell a difference this month in the lead up, it wasn’t completely gone but I could manage it better, a lot of reviews say around 3 months for it to make a massive difference. Might be worth a try for you?

I'm in the same position. I was on the mini pill and hormal coil in the past for BC but had to stop (and went on copper coil) because they made me hungry all the time, my hair was thinning and wearing contact lenses became impossible. So I'm wary about trying these again.

I'm going to try the evening primrose oil and supplements others have mentioned.

Thank you for posting OP and solidarity: I'm going through the exact same thing.

Thank you to other posters too for sharing. It's nice to see there is another side and that I'm not alone.

I came on here to say have a read on PMDD

I started with the high dose starflower oil after one particularly traumatic Christmas. It’s supposed to be more effective than primrose oil. I’ve never looked back. It might be placebo effect but if I have PMT now it’s very mild and I can ride it out without wanting to murderously divorce my DH.

I'm also menopausal now and despite my own mother having angry psycho fits once a month, I’m the most chilled I’ve ever been.

I hope you find something that suits you op. It’s horrible living like that (and for those around you) and not your fault.