To order from Tesco when she lives really close by?

[pontipinemum]

Do you think the delivery driver would judge you for getting your shopping delivered if you live really close - 300 meters - from the shop?

My mother is really unwell right now, using a frame to walk and adjusting to being told she has a life long illness which will have huge implications along with all the medication that comes with it. She also can't currently drive.

I've told her to get the shopping delivered but she is so concerned about what the driver will think. So she is just waiting until one of her sister offers. I can't do it, I live 3 hours away, she's just spent the last two weeks with me. But she wanted to go home to sort out a few bits.

TBH if I didn't have a car I'd probably pay for a weekly shop to be delivered anyway instead of trying to carry it home or do two shops

YABU - that is too close to get delivery
YANBU - get the delivery

I’ve ordered from a local Mexican restaurant that’s so close to me the guy walks over with it instead of using his car.

Your mum will be fine.

A large part of supermarket deliveries is actually the upfront shopping. Tesco in-house shoppers get paid to put the order together and they do not judge, nor even know where it’s going.

And my local Tesco are happy to do that but, put it in a van with a delivery driver, then park said van in their own car park, so I can collect it myself.Even closer to the shop than your DM.

Seriously, it’s a service that helps attract custom. They will be glad to get her business.

They won't "watch". They'll go back to the van and drive off. Usually. They have a schedule to stick to, they are monitored, they don't get paid a lot, and they usually would like to keep their job.

The driver is only interested in completing his round within the set time parameters and won't give a stuff about the distance her home is from the door.

If anything I would imagine they prefer jobs where they don't have to drive so far away.

The driver will leave the bags were she asks them to. I just ask them to leave the bags on the kitchen table and can thus unpack at my leisure.

Not judgement at all I'm a delivery driver. If a place is just down the road then I can get job done quickly and move onto next one Result

That depends on the store/ delivery company

The slots are plentiful and for everyone.

We always do online grocery shopping, despite being fit and well. Prior to living with DP I could see the supermarket my shopping came from if I looked out the bedroom window but didn’t have a car and couldn’t manage heavy stuff on foot. It honestly didn’t even cross my mind drivers might judge me - I paid for delivery, they delivered, job done.

I don't think the delivery comes from the local shop unless its from deliveroo which states which shops deliver. With online deliveries through the supermarkets websites the driver has lots of deliveries on his van and may not even know there is a Tesco nearby. It necessary in my experience they will take the shopping through to the kitchen if needed.

When my disabled cousin came out of hospital earlier this year I had £150 of basic supplies, ready meals and freezer food delivered to her so that she didn't have to go out shopping for a couple of weeks. I ordered from where I lived, 200 miles away from her home – but her supermarket is only 250m from where she lives. It never occurred to me that she might feel it made her look lazy.

Why don't you order for your mum? Or is she actually telling you she'd prefer to retain her independence and get out and about?

Show your mum this OP

"take all the slots" Is there a shortage where you live?

which ones don't? apart from during covid every supermarket delivery system that I have used (tesco, asda, iceland, ocado, waitrose, sainsburys) have offered to carry stuff into the house for me. The deliveroo/just eat/ type ones don't operate here

Both myself and my DH have conditions that don't 'show on the outside' so we both look fit and well. Usually if one is unwell, the other takes over, but there are times when we are both having a bad flare-up at the same time, and we get shopping delivered.

We don't live far from a supermarket either, and to be honest, its not the shopping so much as the unloading the car and hefting the bags to the house. I felt a bit like your mum as well, so when the delivery came I was a bit over effusive in my gratitude to the driver, so he'd know we really needed the delivery.

I'm over it now, and sometimes just have a delivery when I can't be arsed to get in the car and drive to the shops. It makes me feel decadent and spoilt, I refuse to feel guilty over a service that is offered and I pay for. And its providing employment for someone.

🤭 what are you whittling on about @HcbSS ?!

Eh?

Where do you live @HcbSS? Certainly not experienced that aside from Christmas.

@pontipinemum - you have probably already checked this, but just in case, are you absolutely certain no-one except Tesco will deliver to your Mum?

The reason I ask, is because, many of the Supermarkets deliver from large stores and not small ones, but they will deliver to quite a large radius from those big stores. In Mid Wales recently, on holiday, we got a delivery from Asda from a store in Shrewsbury. A distance of around 60 miles. On the Isle of Skye last year, we could have got a delivery from Inverness ( to south of Broadford end of Isle of Skye). Depending how big your Mum's Tesco store is, her delivery options may not come from the local one, (I see someone else mentioned that too).

So if you haven't done so, would it be worth inputting your Mum's postcode for all the other supermarket sites and see what happens?

Even if Tesco is the only one who will deliver, and it does come from her local shop, no-one is going to judge her. She needs to get her groceries delivered.

Just put in the delivery notes that the driver needs to be patient and wait for her to answer the door and it will be obvious why she has it delivered! I used to do this for my parents.

They won't judge. We got deliveries throughout COVID and the loading dock was embarrassingly close. None of the drivers said a thing.

My morrisons is 8 minutes walk away. Less in the car. But I hate doing a big shop and have a nice delivery from them almost every week for such a long time I can't remember when.
Not once has anyone said anything about how close I am to the store.
They are all nice, some chattier than others.

I order from Tesco which is 5 min walk away. Able bodied but don't have time / inclination to traipse round the shop for a load of stuff, especially with young kids. Absolutely no one would judge delivery of shopping to an elderly lady, even if she lived next door to Tesco she wouldn't be able to carry everything home.

No, I do it and I'm young and able bodied 🤣 I just don't like shopping

It doesn't matter how far away the shop is, if she cant walk round it she cant do her shopping.

Stop worrying :)

With any luck, she will get the same driver if she has a regular slot.

when DH was unwell and couldn’t help me with the ‘big shop’ I got to know our delivery man quite well. He was very kind and I used to look forward to Wednesday