Teenage food

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Im trying to loose a lot of Weight. Im Half Way. Lost 16 kiloes since Christmas 🥳
But I have 16 to go. I'm alone with teenage daughter and she is not impressed with the daily menue - I eat a lot of vegetables, as in oven baked red beets, carrots, onion, haricot verte, peas, whatever greens. Steak or grilled chicken- and for her, potatoes, feta and bearnaise. (Example but usually varied as this)
She want a lot more pasta. Cream. Cheese.
And I happily buy and point out she is welcome to cook all she wants.
She, on the other hand, think it is my responsibility as a parent to cook for her taste and she is not to be "left to fend for herself ".
Who is wrong? As it is, she eat frozen pizza, chips or pay for take away while feeling very neglected . She is 16.

With that attitude, hell would freeze over before I fell in with her demands. She can eat what is given, get something herself, or go without.

Parental responsibility is to provide food. You have.

As I put it to my kids, it's my choice what goes in front of you, it's your choice what goes into you.

Do not negotiate with terrorists.

I do cook for her several times a week - lasagna that last 2 days and often also roast dinner in the weekend. So, 3 days she has "her" dinner.
I guess it is different from before Christmas. We had a lot of mc Donald's and a lot of pasta. But I was 30 kiloes overweight (she is still really slim) and I just could not do it anymore.

Do not negotiate with terroists 😂🤗

at 16 she either eats what i put in front of her or she cooks her own! she's old enough to know why you are trying to eat healthy.. and if she wants pizza and pasta, then let her crack on

What about dad? Does he do all of the cooking or do they cook themselves?

Why can't you just make a pot of pasta etc. along with whatever you're cooking? And if she wants anything more complicated than that she can make it herself

Does she do anything around the house to help or does she deem everything as parental responsibility??

She clean her own room and that is it.
Actually i see a pattern here 😂🤯

I think if you’ve suddenly changed the food culture in the house then that’s the why of why she’s reacting this way. Maybe you could explore tasty healthy meals that are also satisfying?

100% this.

Or just eat smaller portions yourself with extra veg on the side.

Haven't you raised her to carry out normal household tasks? She'll be an adult in less than 2 years

Our teens provide for themselves if they don’t want what the rest of the family is eating but there’s 7 of us.

When I was a teen, it was just me and my dad and we both had quite different tastes. We took turns cooking things we both liked most nights and once or twice a week we both did our own thing.

If you’re the rational adult in the house and you’re not willing to compromise at all then it makes sense that your dd is going to do the same

Your food sounds ok but you are obviously focused on it being low calorie and that might not be ideal for a growing teenager.

I think there has to be a compromise. Its good for a teen to learn some cookery skills but you are still her parent - can you not manage to have one or two more relaxed/less restrictive meals a week that you prep and eat together? Being extremely rigid about it doesn't send very healthy messages about food/eating.

Your parental responsibility is to provide access to healthy, nutritious food. You are doing that. If she chooses not to eat it, that's her choice.

I feel sorry for your DD. Yes, it's good to learn to cook- but much nicer to learn when she wants to rather than because she has to. It's not her fault you are on a strict calorie controlled diet which isn't suitable for a teenager. I would be meeting her halfway. Cook healthy balanced meals which are tasty and healthy which she likes- then if you need to reduce calories adapt the meals for you by having smaller portions of the carbs, larger portion of the veg, miss out the sauce etc. rather than expecting her to eat your diet.

I cook what she like 3 days a week. The other 4 days I will have a lot of veg and steak or chicken. She can make anything she like these days. She won't. That is the issue .
Of course i can make her pasta - but so can she? She is 16

Was she expected to cook for herself 4/7 days before your diet started?

She’s not left to her own devices. She can eat the food that’s cooked for her or make her own. No wonder young people come into the job market thinking everyone needs to do their work for them when near adults are treated like little kids.

Jeez.
My DD and I share the cooking, me doing it on get college days (she's just left). I cook normal meals for dinner, and only eat one other meal. You can have pasta if you watch your portion size.
But she can cook gif herself if she doesn't like what you are cooking - tell her about time she did her fair share and good practice for when she goes to uni or moves out!

One meal here, you eat it or get your own. At 16 I was away at college and lived on porridge as it was all I could afford. Luckily it was chef school so I ate a bit ther

It seems like opinion is divided? Some think it is about time she cook some days If she don't like what I make - others think she is neglected by fat mom trying to loose weight 😂

Anyway - if it was not clear we have plenty of food to make and i always buy her bearnaise and feta as she like it and i thought could add on my boring grilled chicken breast or steak - owenbaked potatoes and veg and she Can cook pasta if she like .

Make a big six portion lasagna and freeze 5 portions, grill burgers which she has with a bun and cheese, you without plus salad and roasted vegetables for you and oven chips for her?

I'm guessing prior to Christmas you ate a less healthy diet and she is rebelling

I love the sound of your meals btw.

It's not so much that opinion is divided. Nobody thinks you should be her maid. But it's unfortunate she was never made to cook or participate in cooking before, as part of a joint family enterprise, rather than just suddenly at 16 being told to sink or swim.